AIBU/WIBU to have complained to the school?

[DarkBlueEyes]

First post in here, takes deep breath...

DD1 returned from a school trip on Friday. We were told to pick up at 5pm unless got a text to say otherwise. Stood by my phone all afternoon and was waiting at the secondary school at 4.59pm. No sign of her. No sign of anyone. Asked for help in the school, no idea. Tried to phone another mum, my phone didn't work, so I rebooted it and headed towards another building. Phone rings with DH on the other end to ask if I was ok - HE had got the text at 3.45 pm to say they'd be back at 4 (half hour journey for us so even if I'd got it, I'd have been late), evidently I was the only one who didn't get the text.

DD1 had been sitting at reception with her friend for over an hour and NO STAFF MEMBER had thought to ring me or DH (sorry for shouty caps). I accept there was a technical hitch with my phone but think the school should have tried to phone us. Eventually at about 5.10 DD1 asked if she could use the school phone and phoned me (went straight to VM) and DH who then phoned me right back, worried I'd been in an accident (I am almost never late).

As we walked back to the car all the texts started to ping into my phone. I'm not cross that the text didn't reach me, shit happens. I am cross that DD1 and friend were waiting for over an hour and no one thought to call DH. Head of year 7 tells me that she doesn't usually bother to ring husbands as it usually goes straight through to voice mail... WTF. Had long and very awkward conversation with head of year this morning who would not accept she should have/could have called DH, that my daughter was safe and she had 73 children to sort blah blah blah.

WIBU to expect the school to have called a parent when the other parent hadn't turned up as expected? Or do I have to just suck it up?

She eventually conceded she could have called DH. No apology. If she'd said in the first 30 seconds that she was sorry and she should have called I'd have said thanks very much and moved on. Now I'm still stewing. If only people knew how powerful "I'm sorry, that must have been upsetting for you and your daughter" could be....

DBE

Clearly you're not a flouncer OP, as you're still here!

Toughasoldboots - we may have both chosen to post on the same thread but I can assure you that I am not and never have been seriliza or the OP. I have my own views and use my own words! You are mistaken I am afraid.

Thanks. That was helpful and constructive. Especially the bit about having a drink. I think I will follow your advice.

See, better when you unclench. Coming back and shouting "YOU'RE ALL MEANIES!" is never going to go down well!

Nobody called you twat of the year. Nobody questioned your parenting. Or accused you of war crimes.

We just said, yes, YABU and a bit of an embarrassing chump and you need to have a think about how this episode has made you appear to the HOY

Here you go

FFS, I see that another idiot is accusing me of sockpuppeting. Step up, redlocks28, and take a bow. How hard is it to do an advanced search to see if there is any indication whatsoever that I am remotely likely to be OP?

And I can't resist it .... Let's see Toughas joining in.

Really, this thread is AIBU bullying at its worst. Apparently it's absolutely impossible that anyone could conceivably disagree with the MN Mean Girls' Massive, it has to be OP going to incredible trouble to set up several different identities for herself over a period of several weeks purely so that she can post on this thread agreeing with herself. If you have to resort to that sort of petty nonsense, you've finally and definitely lost the argument.

As Bitoutofpractice has said - have a chat with the HoY if you think it would make you feel better. I am sure you are worrying yourself needlessly - the teachers have probably got better things to talk about if our school is anything to go by. Yesterday's news is today's chip paper and all that.... xxxxxx

ToughAs it's like a .... epidemic!

Bitoutifpractice I think perhaps it's because you said it constructively and not unkindly. And of course because you offered me which obviously helps. I'm happy to be disagreed with but not to be talked down to or ridiculed, and there is a difference. Some people who have replied have disagreed but done so kindly and I guess naively that is kind of what I had expected. I know better now.

Oh come on now, don't go all passive aggressive on me now!

You need to remember that words on the screen are
a. just that, words on a screen
and
b. are devoid of tone so it's easy to read them as more arsey than they were meant. And that goes for your posts too. You may be all hurt and that, but you may (just MAY) come over as a bit pompous and snotty - even though I'm sure you're not!

Anyway, drink more wine and continue unclenching at your leisure

No, I'm
Not pompous or snotty, but of course I would say that, wouldn't I? tone is indeed tricky.

Well, I can see why good teachers are leaving the profession in droves. They have to be responsible for all their pupils' parents' phone networks as well as their day job.

Fabulous example of my earlier point. Thank you.

OP, trust me, that's mild for AIBU!! I hope I didn't see you reclench then?!

Haha who knew that a few dots would bring out the inner detective .... :-) you are barking up the wrong tree!!! Take a break give your head a wobble and then come back ;-) relax it's a full stop plus a few x

Well it's not. It's a wrong ellipsis which should be... not....

Quite odd that so many people expressing identical opinions should all of a sudden make the same punctuation mistake. Just sayin'...

This thread is turning into a bad episode of Columbo

Isn't it just haha - it's not by mistake it's my personal choice :-)

bullying?

For goodness sake. I think seriliza and newgirl ought to rethink their understanding of the term.