AIBU/WIBU to have complained to the school?

[DarkBlueEyes]

First post in here, takes deep breath...

DD1 returned from a school trip on Friday. We were told to pick up at 5pm unless got a text to say otherwise. Stood by my phone all afternoon and was waiting at the secondary school at 4.59pm. No sign of her. No sign of anyone. Asked for help in the school, no idea. Tried to phone another mum, my phone didn't work, so I rebooted it and headed towards another building. Phone rings with DH on the other end to ask if I was ok - HE had got the text at 3.45 pm to say they'd be back at 4 (half hour journey for us so even if I'd got it, I'd have been late), evidently I was the only one who didn't get the text.

DD1 had been sitting at reception with her friend for over an hour and NO STAFF MEMBER had thought to ring me or DH (sorry for shouty caps). I accept there was a technical hitch with my phone but think the school should have tried to phone us. Eventually at about 5.10 DD1 asked if she could use the school phone and phoned me (went straight to VM) and DH who then phoned me right back, worried I'd been in an accident (I am almost never late).

As we walked back to the car all the texts started to ping into my phone. I'm not cross that the text didn't reach me, shit happens. I am cross that DD1 and friend were waiting for over an hour and no one thought to call DH. Head of year 7 tells me that she doesn't usually bother to ring husbands as it usually goes straight through to voice mail... WTF. Had long and very awkward conversation with head of year this morning who would not accept she should have/could have called DH, that my daughter was safe and she had 73 children to sort blah blah blah.

WIBU to expect the school to have called a parent when the other parent hadn't turned up as expected? Or do I have to just suck it up?

She eventually conceded she could have called DH. No apology. If she'd said in the first 30 seconds that she was sorry and she should have called I'd have said thanks very much and moved on. Now I'm still stewing. If only people knew how powerful "I'm sorry, that must have been upsetting for you and your daughter" could be....

DBE

Clam, you can't say that as the other sockpuppets posters have pointed out that it's mean and bullying.

It is actually very mean and yes bullying is probably the right word when practically 6 pages of posters jump on a NEW poster with such horrid comments, sheesh nothing like maybe being made to feel welcome! Now I TOTALLY remember why I never really bother posting on this place!

Can you people read????? The OP would have been worried because she turned to to what looked like an empty school!!!!! Now I am just guessing here, but if your child had gone on a school trip you would have expected them to have gone with other children....on a coach, bus...etc. So to arrive at 5 and find the place deserted - no children, no parents and the likes, then I would say it would be pretty normal to feel a little worried!

Haha are you asking or are you telling me!!!!

You have joined just to post on this thread newgirl?

and your point is? Or are you going to start being horrid to her too, just because she dared to join a forum today!

YANBU OP

I hate being the last or almost last to pick up and would be especially annoyed if it was after a residential.

Apologies, is there an etiquette to which posts I should read/comment on first? Does everyone get interrogated or am I privileged!

That's not bullying at all. You are being silly now.
It's the last resort of someone who is frustrated that others don't agree with them and not a term which should be casually thrown around by a grown adult on an Internet forum.

I honestly don't care if you agree with me or not, but the fact remains the OP got some horrid responses on here and I do think that is bullying.

However I think this whole AIBU forum is a total playground for people to gang up on others and I would never in a million post in here asking you lot for advice!

OP I am sure you are a lovely person, and ftr some advice.... don't post on here again, these people are not worth your time and effort.

You should rename the AIBU forum - ONLY POST ON HERE IF YOU FANCY BEING SET ON BY A PACK OF WOLVES!!!!! The forum is called Am I Being Unreasonable NOT I am fair game come and pick at my carcass. I have to disagree bullying is not the right word....that is too tame!

Well I'm not new and the tone of some of the replies was totally unnecessary.

The school were shortsighted in not following up and letting the two girls sit there, particularly if they have a system which shows whether texts have been received.

It wasn't 73 kids to look after, it was the two that were left. It would have taken them a couple of minutes at most to follow it up.

is your DD such a special little snowflake she can't wait for an hour?

Wow! I can see you are the touchy type OP - probably explains a lot!

Well toughasoldboots be prepared to get your eye wiped.... I am not seriliza nor am I the OP! So ask away....

I just didn't like the tone of this thread! And it would appear that anyone else who is in agreement must all be the same person hahaha! Columbo you are not!

My goodness. I just want to point out that I am not serilza or newgirl I am only me, and I really don't want people to snipe at each other (and especially I don't want anyone to snipe at me).

I don't know what an ellipse is or a sockpoppet so I can't help you there.

But could I please just point out in the interests of historical fact that I did in fact go to where we were asked to pick up from - which was another part of the school about 5 minutes walk from reception. Just to be clear. Then I went to reception. AND I have acknowledged, (twice) FOR THE RECORD that you are all right and I am obviously wrong, so there is no need to keep kicking me when I'm down. Clearly I over-reacted and I admire those of you who have never over-reacted in your lives and are thus perfectly morally placed to judge and criticise me. I aspire to your higher levels of sound judgement.

Now I'll go out into the garden and eat worms. Or maybe go and look in house decorating, or makeup or something a bit less contentious. All whilst know knowing, for a fact, that I am unreasonable. And arrogant, and "one of those parents".

Which makes me feel really good.

I thought you'd flounced OP

I came back to see if toughasoldboots had been deleted yet, For the record, I think she's right

I am not a flouncer. But I have learned a lesson - I will not ever start a thread on here again. I am not robust enough. And it seems even that is worth a dig I'm obviously a "touchy type".

Do you get deleted if you accuse someone of being someone else then? Is that a thing?

Well I hope you feel it was worth it.