Advice needed - au pair went out last night, didn't get home

[Farandole]

She is 25, French, has been with us for a month. We're in London. She left around 8pm last night, didn't say she was not coming back for the night. Just got up to see she isn't home. She has not mentioned a boyfriend, either here or at home.

Should I call/text her now? Or wait until later?

"Parental" concern doesn't end when your child turns 18. I am 52 and live 400 miles away from my mother, but she still checks on my comings and goings and often tells me that I'm up too late. (I do have a jewish catholic italian mother.) I take it as love and thoughtfulness, not an intrusion....

Oh..so she's "not an employee" so has no rights then? Im curious - are Au Pairs not paid then?

As to the texting when out concern etc..there was a time we didnt have mobile phones hence couldn't focus on receiving a text. God alone knows what some people did back then.

She doesn't get a salary she gets "pocket money". She has rights as a human being obviously including some expectation of privacy but she's a family guest not an employee so the boundaries are slightly different.

Oh Sofia! Jewish and Catholic? The guilt! However do you cope?

SofiaAmes parental concern may not end but adults don't require a parent to look after them. And they certainly don't require a self-appointed substitute parent asking about their comings and goings. You may like it but many adults wouldn't and that should be their choice.

MrsS I don't get worked up about "parental concern" and take her inquiries as a sign of her love for me....or something along those lines, depending on how tired I am that day...:)
Marynary I get it that not everyone likes a substitute parent, but unless you make the suggestion of communicating comings and goings, the recipient adults will not know that they have the choice. If they reply saying that they are uncomfortable with that level of personal communication, then I think it would be inappropriate to continue to require/ask for it.

Ïve come on to check she's ok. I'm a complete stranger of course it's normal to be concerned Op.
I'm glad she will text you in future. Oh for them carefree days of staying out all night forgetting time and everything.