I've NC but I regularly post on both sites and they are so so different! The mods on NM are like repressed dictators stifled by an overload of glitter, they jump on a post for the slightest thing and constantly remind you to 'be supportive'. In the FAQ's they say that swearing is not permitted because theirs is a site they want to be family friendly and accessible to all ages. Really? Because I wouldn't like little Johnny to come across threads titled: 'Anal sex' and 'Does your OH make noise in bed?'. So the non swear policy is a bit pointless IMO.
Graham seems to have been burned by a woman in the past, his bitterness and cynicism shines through like a beacon of tortured angst amongst the various threads in even the most light hearted topic, such as "Famous people who share your birthday".
Kirk does seem like a nice man :) There was a thread a while back about benefit cuts and he had some insightful ideas and policies but was shouted down by various Daily Fail readers who banged on about tax credit claimants being the 'benefit mob', and how compulsary sterilisation should definitely be brought it..
The discussion mentioned upthread about the husband being angry because his wife didn't want to receive oral sex anymore - I commented on that and got quite a hard time. I was one of the ones sticking up for the OP and challenged the honeyz who thought she should think of her husband first, not herself, she should put up with what he wanted to do, close her eyes and wait for it to be over. If she didn't do this he might get it elsewhere, and then, well she'd only have herself to blame of course!
I'll keep going on both sites as there ARE some very nice people on NM, who care very much if someone is going through a hard time.
Gotta love MN though for making me laugh out loud on the lousiest of days, and for the freedom allowed when posting - plus the people on here are so varied, intelligent and the support is out of this world 