Pressure re baby at wedding
DeeDee40 · 26/07/2015 16:44
Hello AIBU? Getting married in a matter of weeks. Decided not to invite kids due to cost,type and size of venue. Means that DHs nieces cant come too but thats choice were happy with. A friend contacted me today hinting re inviting her baby who will be seven months by then due to bfing! The message said that her family will have to keep him outside church and reception and phone her when he needs feeding and she hopes the next wedding she goes to will invite him!???? does she expect her family to bring her baby into my wedding ceremony and reception.so she can bf him? My DH not happy as he feels shes trying her luck majorly and if others can find babysitters some of whom have smaller babys then so can she. Not happy
TattieHowkerz · 26/07/2015 16:47
Your wedding, you can f course do what you want.
It is normal for breastfeeding mothers to want to be near their 7mo babies. It seems silly to exclude them. It smacks a bit of wanting some perfect party at the expense of the important people in your life being there.
Not unreasonable of her to ask, not unreasonable to say no.
Micah · 26/07/2015 16:48
If she's breastfeeding she can't really get a baby sitter can she?
I think you're lucky she's attending at all, and she must have amazing family to help her out like that.
If it were me, it would have been me and breastfeeding baby, or id have had to decline the invite.
Spartans · 26/07/2015 16:48
wolfie the answer would be not to come.
Op call friend and explain that their baby at the wedding will cause problems as dhs nieces aren't coming. If that means she can't come, it's shame and you understand but due to circumstances children are not invited.
Why do people do this? No children means no children. Just don't go
Anon4Now2015 · 26/07/2015 16:48
You're absolutely right. She should just employ a wet nurse for the day. And she needs to remember that you are the number one priority and if her child suffers then so be it because the most important thing is that you get exactly what you want, and her role as your friend is much more important than her role as his mother. I mean has she not realised that it's all about you? Sheesh. Some people, eh?!
CactusAnnie · 26/07/2015 16:49
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Figster · 26/07/2015 16:52
She is pushing her luck baby is 7 months not 7 weeks she must have known this was a potential issue for a while why leave it so late to raise with you.......prob because she felt you would give in. Are you prepared for her not to attend? I had a child free wedding 1 rule for everyone which did mean we missed 1 set of old friends but that was our choice
SaucyJack · 26/07/2015 16:54
It's one thing to ban all children from your wedding due to your own preferences. Entirely your prerogative.
But it's quite another to try and suggest that your friend is being difficult in some way because she can't/won't "just" leave a small baby with a babysitter.
I remember your thread from t'other day, and I reckon you're gonna be in for a shock when you have a baby of your own.
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