Pressure re baby at wedding

[DeeDee40]

Hello AIBU? Getting married in a matter of weeks. Decided not to invite kids due to cost,type and size of venue. Means that DHs nieces cant come too but thats choice were happy with. A friend contacted me today hinting re inviting her baby who will be seven months by then due to bfing! The message said that her family will have to keep him outside church and reception and phone her when he needs feeding and she hopes the next wedding she goes to will invite him!???? does she expect her family to bring her baby into my wedding ceremony and reception.so she can bf him? My DH not happy as he feels shes trying her luck majorly and if others can find babysitters some of whom have smaller babys then so can she. Not happy

[Ragwort]

Do hosts really get that upset if people politely decline an invitation?

I am always quite pleased when organising a big event if a few people can't make it - means less hassle organising and I don't take offence if anyone declines an invitation.

[wednesdayblues]

I would say you have to be consistent. I was told no kids by my best friend ( dd was 18 months) then we were put on a table with other kids!! Not impressed as felt like diff rules for diff people.
I've also had to decline invite as dd2 was 6 wk old at time of wedding invited to and was ebf. I simply said I couldn't leave her as was ebf and it was child free so therefore couldn't attend.

[BasinHaircut]

Just wanted to point out that Chad free weddings are not always about bridezla behaviour and wanting the 'perfect day'. I'd say that statement probably comes from a 'mumzilla' who thinks the world revolves around their children.

We had a child free wedding because our reception venue was a pub (which wouldn't allow under 18's) and it was also on the banks of a river that any child could have easily fallen (or walked actually) into.

It was a bonus that there weren't any noisy kids there at the ceremony but we did have my severely autistic family member there who could have caused more disruption to our 'perfect day', noise-wise, but I wouldn't have dreamt of not inviting him.

How ridiculous to presume that people who have child free weddings are all selfish and non-inclusive.

[BasinHaircut]

Chad-free? I mean child free!

[Maman1234]

I think most parents are understanding about child free weddings. But it is more difficult for babies under 1 year old. Especially if they are breastfeeding. Just to give u an idea when dc was 7 months I could only last about 4-5 hours without pumping milk off (it's really painful and would leak thru breast pads which is not what u want at a wedding!) and Dc wouldn't settle well if bottle fed. But It sounds like your friend has found a good solution with her family staying nearby. So I don't understand why you are complaining. Just tell her you understand it's difficult for breastfed babies and you are very grateful to her family for agreeing to help in this way (you've got to admit this is very kind of them) and then enjoy your wedding.

[TwinTum]

Lulu, your DC is invited. I really do not think, in those circs, that anyone will be upset with you/your DC for being there. In fact, even those on here in favour of child free weddings acknowledge that it is normal to make exceptions for nieces and nephews and babies. I think your SIL would be very upset in the circumstances if you do not go for this reason.

[LuluJakey1]

Of course we are going! I was pretending to be an over the top mnetter, offended by people's opinions about my baby, breastfeeding and wedding invites! I can't believe anyone took that seriously- as if anyone would not go to their SIL's wedding and sit in the house with the curtains shut! It just shows what is seen as normal behaviour on here.

DS has his outfit ready and he can shout to his heart's content as far as SIL is concerned- and he's in the front row. She must be mad

[derxa]

LuluJakey I love you

[LuluJakey1]

Thanks very much!