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Dds friend is doing my bloody head in.

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Deeperdown · 18/07/2015 09:06

She's on holiday with us, she's used to a hotel with no kids facilities at all, we are on a site with flipping loads of kids stuff Inc for older kids.

She's bored, she's not going to the beach because it's boring, she doesn't want us to go to the entertainment or the activities because they are boring.
Basically they are boring because all she wants to do is waste all her money in the arcades.

I'm putting my foot down and telling them we are going out but we've had one evening and I'm pissed off already. They are both 12.

OP posts:
StillStayingClassySanDiego · 18/07/2015 09:08

How long are you away for?

Tell her to stop sulking and enjoy the facilities, stroppy madam.

gamerchick · 18/07/2015 09:09

Is this the kid with the 300 quid spends?

Take her money off her I would and tell her she can blow it in the arcade on the last day.

chubbymummy · 18/07/2015 09:14

Oh dear, sounds like it's going to be a fun holiday. How long are you away for? I think I'd be threatening to send her home if she didn't belt up. Don't pander to her, just treat her exactly like you'd treat your own daughter if she was being a little madam.
Hope she snaps out of it and you all get to enjoy your holiday.

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Deeperdown · 18/07/2015 09:23

Yes it is, I have the money to look after anyway. I've told her her Mum wasn't happy they blew thirty quid in arcade on holiday with them so she's not a chance.

I've told her it's our holiday too and she either joins in or stays in the caravan!

I hate telling other people's kids off but she already upset my Mum who's paid whinging she's bored and persuaded dd to say she did not want to go to the entertainment last night (I didn't know this)

We are here a week

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SavoyCabbage · 18/07/2015 09:30

I'd take her home.

Even if it took a whole day of your holiday it's better than having every day spoilt.

Hygge · 18/07/2015 09:34

We took a child like this on a big day out for DS's birthday.

We'd been in the car for an hour when he decided he'd rather go back to our house to play on the Xbox than to the zoo.

When we didn't immediately turn the car around he made a noise, which he said he was going to keep making until we got there.

We arrived at the zoo.

He didn't want to look at any of the animals, except for one enclosure as far away as it was possible to get from the entrance. And when we got to that enclosure, he didn't like it and wanted to go back out.

He didn't want to play in any of the playground bits that were dotted about. They were either too big, or for babies apparently.

He didn't like the bench we sat on for lunch.

He didn't like the food we had for lunch.

He didn't like the ride around the park on the monorail.

He didn't want to do anything, because it was all boring. The animals were boring, the playgrounds were boring, everything was boring. He thought we should go to the gift shop and then go home, and he was saying this before we'd even paid to get in.

At the end of the day we went to the gift shop. He'd been agitating for the gift shop all day. I told them both they could choose something for about £10 each. DS chose something. DS's friend walked around the shop five times declaring everything to be boring. "I don't like that. I don't like that. That's for babies. That's boring. Books are boring. I don't like those."

Turned out he thought the gift shop might sell Disney Infinity figures, which he could bring back and use on the Xbox.

We arrived home and dropped him off at his house and his Dad asked him if he'd had a good time. No, it was boring. Yeah, says Dad, do you want to go on the Xbox?

You have my sympathies OP. We had this for a day, you have this for the length of a holiday.

You might have to have a word with her and tell her that if she stops complaining she might actually enjoy herself. Children who don't know how to enjoy new or different things to what they are used to are hard work.

outtolunchagain · 18/07/2015 09:41

If you are not too far from home I would take her home , or tell her that you were going to call her mother to pick her up.Point out that as she clearly doesn't want to be there you are not going to keep her against her will !

littlejohnnydory · 18/07/2015 09:45

I would seriously send her home. I wouldn't let her spoil our holiday, sulky little madam.

bertiebogtrotter · 18/07/2015 09:51

I'd try shaming her into enjoying herself. Sit her down and in a sympathetic tone ask if everything is ok, she doesn't seem to be enjoying herself, is she missing home? Does she want you to call her Mum to collect her? Say you understand she might do things differently on holiday with her family but this is what you do and you all usually have a lovely time doing it etc etc.

If she doesn't sort her idea's out I think I would actually consider ringing her Mum and telling her that her DD seems really unhappy and not wanting to join in...I am sure the Mum will have a sharp word to her too....I know I would if it were my DD, I would be mortified!

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 18/07/2015 09:53

I would be beyond mortified if my dd behaved like this with her friend's parents. Good God where are these kids coming from. Shock

LavenderLeigh · 18/07/2015 09:56

Id be contacting her mum and explaining what is going on and that it can't go on
Let mum decide whether to bring her DD home or give her a good talking to.
If mum takes second option and DD continues to behave like a brat, call mum again and explain things aren't working so she'll need to come and collect her kid.
Don't let her ruin this holiday.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 18/07/2015 10:02

I would definitely have a word with her. Say that she clearly isn't having a good time on the holiday as she isn't joining in for some reason and you're considering phoning her parents to come and collect/meet you half way. Ask her if that's what she wants. If she says she wants to stay then tell her that you will decide what you're all doing each day and she will have to fall in with plans without moaning and does she think she is able to do that? If she says yes you can give her short shrift if the moaning does start off, and if she says no, then you need to ring her parents.

whois · 18/07/2015 10:05

Sit her down and in a sympathetic tone ask if everything is ok, she doesn't seem to be enjoying herself, is she missing home? Does she want you to call her Mum to collect her? Say you understand she might do things differently on holiday with her family but this is what you do and you all usually have a lovely time doing it etc etc.

This ^

123Jump · 18/07/2015 10:12

I really feel for you and your mum,OP. What a little madam! I went away lots with friends to holiday homes in Ireland back in the day. We always had to make our own fun, and I have such brilliant memories.
I agree, give her a talking to this morning. Ask her does she want to go home. If not, then she joins in and behaves or you will send her home.
Be firm.
and if she ruins today then definitely send her home!

answersonapostcardplease · 18/07/2015 10:15

Are you near home? Take her home, actually ask parents to collect.

HemanOrSheRa · 18/07/2015 10:34

My reaction is the same as Iliveina lighthouse. I would be mortified if DS was behaving like this. In fact, I'd want to know so I could speak to him and give him a talking to. And if that didn't work I'd offer to collect him so everyone else could get on and enjoy their holiday.

Misslgl88 · 18/07/2015 11:24

I too would be mortified if my DD acted like this and would have no problem collecting her for bad behaviour. I'd never have dared acted like that on holiday with my own parents let alone someone else's!

DoreenLethal · 18/07/2015 12:01

Get her mum to come and get her little princess today, then go and enjoy the rest of the holiday.

bloodyteenagers · 18/07/2015 12:07

Contact her parents. Tell them she is having a miserable time so they need to collect her today.

Hissy · 18/07/2015 12:11

Is give her until the end of the day to get over herself or is call her parents to come and get her.

Seriously!

FenellaFellorick · 18/07/2015 12:13

I agree. I think it's time to get tough with her.

Either stop moaning or we will arrange for you to go home. There's no point you being here if you are not having a good time and we are not willing to listen to you complain for the whole week.

And be willing to do it.

sadwidow28 · 18/07/2015 12:14

You really can't (and shouldn't) put up with a week of this. I am another one suggesting that you need to have a word with her and say that you'll phone her Mum to collect her if she is so clearly unhappy.

THEN PHONE THE MUM AND LET HER DECIDE - STAY AND JOIN IN OR COLLECT.

paxtecum · 18/07/2015 12:19

You can't really leave her in the caravan on her own.
Have words with her,ask her if she would prefer to go home.
She either goes home or cheers up.

gamerchick · 18/07/2015 12:20

I agree with fenella man, do exactly that and follow it through.

I would guess that you've been looking forward to this holiday and letting this carry on means you'll not enjoy it and will regret not reigning him in.

gamerchick · 18/07/2015 12:20

*her

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