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Dds friend is doing my bloody head in.

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Deeperdown · 18/07/2015 09:06

She's on holiday with us, she's used to a hotel with no kids facilities at all, we are on a site with flipping loads of kids stuff Inc for older kids.

She's bored, she's not going to the beach because it's boring, she doesn't want us to go to the entertainment or the activities because they are boring.
Basically they are boring because all she wants to do is waste all her money in the arcades.

I'm putting my foot down and telling them we are going out but we've had one evening and I'm pissed off already. They are both 12.

OP posts:
Mygardenistoobig · 23/07/2015 11:18

No will stick to my own family for holidays, never had a bad experience yet!

WankerDeAsalWipe · 23/07/2015 11:31

Unfortunately, the "thou shalt not discipline other people's children" meme means that's unlikely.

Oh, I discipline everyone's children!! Obviously only if it effects me/my family/my property or if they are doing something that would cause harm to themselves or another.

We have a rule of thumb in our street that all parents would rather whoever saw the behaviour just told the kids off for it rather than turning up bleating at each other's doors. It works for us.

Going to the door is a last resort if undesired behavior continues. We don't have any illusions that our children are always perfect. In my childhood days we had the same system and we would never have told our parents if we got into trouble from another adult as we'd just get into more from them :o

2rebecca · 23/07/2015 11:44

Most of the aibu moany holiday threads concern going on holiday with people who aren't in your small family unit. If you want a relaxing holiday keep it small with people you know and love. Big family gatherings / having a friend round are best limited to weekends

Flossyfloof · 23/07/2015 13:26

You poor thing, do try to enjoy the rest of your holiday I bet you have all breather a huge sigh of relief.
Flowers

tigermoll · 23/07/2015 15:54

superflyhigh, if the bone was sticking through the skin, then not only was that child's leg 'clearly broken ', but they would have also had a puncture wound going right to the bone. Your mum fixed that with a wet towel?? The child walked around on it for two weeks before going home (where they presumably sought medical help for this horrific injury and resultant infection) and everyone was just fine with it?

I don't think you are lying, but I do think this is one of those occasions where 'family lore ' has let a story get slightly out of hand.

RandomMess · 23/07/2015 15:56

I'm glad you have a few days left of your holiday to enjoy Flowers

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 23/07/2015 15:58

tigermoll Grin yes.

I didn't bother responding again after her last reply , I think you've got it there.

SuperFlyHigh · 23/07/2015 16:47

Tiger I am seeing my mum at the weekend...

I can ask her all about the bone... all I know is when the child was home yes she did go to A&E and it got treated. The child wasn't a complainer.

In fact she was diagnosed with a bone disorder which caused her bones to break easily (lack of calcium?) and was a bit neglected at home. She also got septicemia at a similar age and was hospitalised. What I'm saying is she wasn't a complainer - she should have complained and if she had done my mum would have taken her to an Irish hospital.

still so you didn't bother replying after her reply, it's rude to speak about someone (me) in the third person like that even though I wasn't immediately here after you posted.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 23/07/2015 16:50

No I didn't bother replying to your last post, what was there to say?

I came back to this thread and agreed with Tiger.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 23/07/2015 16:53

Just so you know, ds3 broke his wrist very badly, he needed it manipulating and wired together under a GA, he was in agony prior to the surgery so I do have an idea about pain and broken bones.

Anyway I'm not derailing any further.

SuperFlyHigh · 23/07/2015 16:55

also Still how am I supposed to know what a dislocated or broken knee looks like or feels like?

I did some research and look here:-

this person said she could walk around but had pain in morning but after was fine.

au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20130110065344AAFq5Oo

I am telling you if she had really been in pain we'd have taken her to hospital.

Also - I was in hospital myself in Sligo on same holiday and was in hospital for the 3rd week in isolation with gastroenteritis so there was ample time and inclination to go to A&E with the other child then. oh yes little drip feed but what the heck

SuperFlyHigh · 23/07/2015 16:57

Still - oh honey - my DB broke his kneecap and had it wired together 5 years ago so I too know about pain...

so funny how people think they're medical experts on the base of - huh what?! your son's broken bone.

Bailey101 · 23/07/2015 17:10

Compound fractures don't get pushed in with a wet towel - I've not heard something that daft in a long time Grin A compound fracture is when pieces of shattered bone are sticking out through the skin!! That's not something that's fixed on the beach!

Bailey101 · 23/07/2015 17:13

Also, that link you posted - firstlt, yahoo answers is not a reliable source of factual information and secondly that person doesn't mention compound fractures or bones sticking through skin so it's irrelevant to your point.

tigermoll · 23/07/2015 17:29

Is it possible that a story about a little girl whose bones broke easily, but since she was ' not a complainer ' it didn't always get noticed straight away, has got conflated with the time she fell through a dock and cut her shin/knee to the bone? Your mum then clapped a wet towel on it and dressed it at home. Cos there is no way at all that a leg break in which a broken end of bone came through the skin could be 'sorted' enough to let someone walk around on it for a fortnight.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 23/07/2015 17:32

Oh honey! Grin, was that intended as patronising as it sounds?

If you're going to post something as drastic sounding as the injury you say she received people are going to question you.

so funny how people think they're medical experts on the base of - huh what?! your son's broken bone My point was that your friend's injury wouldn't be one they could just get up and walk from, the pain could be excruciating.

As you were though.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 23/07/2015 17:34

also Still how am I supposed to know what a dislocated or broken knee looks like or feels like? you were there when it happened weren't you?

Zucker · 23/07/2015 17:42

Boy this thread has taken quite the turn. Glad she's gone home I hope you're all feeling a bit better today OP.

MadamArcatiAgain · 23/07/2015 20:05

Reminds me of my mum's saying

'Other people kids are like fish.After three days even the nicest ones stink!!'

SuperFlyHigh · 24/07/2015 10:34

tiger you could may be right about the story... I have no idea...

This is my 10/11 year old's recall of the incident compared to my adult recall!

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