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To be pissed of at people that make comments about sons hair

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ghostspirit · 12/07/2015 14:55

People are really starting to pee me of with comments about my sons hair. person 1 when you getting his hair cut he looks like a girl. says it often-ish

person 2 omg get his hair cut. why do you make him have long hair. your really making him into someone hes not.

Me: i have had is hair cut....her:but a bob why would you do that.

i just feel like shes rude when her son has his hair cut i say its nice which it is. i think my son suits long hair and he does not have to have it shaved like many boys do. and theses things are said whilst hes there.

To be pissed of at people that make comments about sons hair
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MythicalKings · 12/07/2015 14:58

Does your son like it long?

Egosumquisum · 12/07/2015 14:58

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TheWitTank · 12/07/2015 14:59

Cut her off if she mentions it. "We are both happy with his hair, thanks". Then change the subject. Don't enter into discussions about it.

BabyGanoush · 12/07/2015 15:00

It's a girly hairstyle. My DH has the same Grin

People just aren't used to it. (Yet) If it's what your boy wants, then why should anyone comment?!

MrsKCastle · 12/07/2015 15:01

How does your son feel? If he's happy with it, then it doesn't matter what others think.

I think it's utterly ridiculous the way society expects people (and especially children) to make decisions based on the type of genitals they have.

LashesandLipstick · 12/07/2015 15:02

Comment on something about her appearance like "when are you going to stop wearing those hideous jumpers? They're so u flattering" and then when she gets offended explain why hearing others opinions when not asked for is annoying

WhatsTheT · 12/07/2015 15:03

Boys with long hair are gorgeous. Fuck Em, he'll tell you he wants it off, and when he does, I shall shed a tear for you ;)

LadyNym · 12/07/2015 15:03

YANBU. DS1 (three) has long hair and everyone automatically assumes he's a girl (even when he's wearing very stereotypically 'boy's' clothes). When they realise he's a boy I always get comments (including one woman at a play area who asked if I was only doing it to deliberately confuse people).

I don't understand why it's a big deal.

ChampagneBabyCakes · 12/07/2015 15:03

It's his hair, on his head, if he likes it then he should keep it that way. I agree these people are being so rude. My DS keeps his quite long and I really feel strongly that he should decide what he looks like. I've got one friend who asks often when he's getting a 'boys' haircut and I tell her, when he wants one.

Teabagbeforemilk · 12/07/2015 15:06

Ffs if he is happy with it. There is no problem. Wish people would keep their noses out.

Ds has short hair, when it gets too long he hates it. So we keep it short. I don't have any expectations of how what other people should do.

Sallystyle · 12/07/2015 15:09

My boys when they were younger Grin

I was always told to cut it off. Pissed me off.

I cut it as soon as they asked for it to be cut themselves.

To be pissed of at people that make comments about sons hair
MythicalKings · 12/07/2015 15:11

In the 1970s lots of boys had that style. People will get used to it, some boys suit longer hair.

Lurkedforever1 · 12/07/2015 15:12

Yanbu if your son prefers it that way, and I agree with others that say ywnbu to be equally rude in reply to people commenting.
But yabu if it's not how your son prefers it, which of course could apply to any hair style

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ghostspirit · 12/07/2015 15:14

u2 they ares sweet it suits them to :) the only time he asks for a short cut is when comments like in my op has been said.

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Clueing4looks · 12/07/2015 15:18

How rude. My ds is 10 and his hair is longer than that. He has a really pretty face and after gets mistaken for a girl, but he doesn't care, he said it's how he likes it and it's not his problem if no one else does.

BleachEverything · 12/07/2015 15:19

It's a girls hairstyle. If you want to be different, and that is different, you need to accept people will talk about it.

Blazing88 · 12/07/2015 15:22

Ok. I actually love long hair on boys.

but a boy's style, not a girl's haircut!

I can kind of see their point a little!

MrsKCastle · 12/07/2015 15:27

No, BleachEverything, it's a boy's hairstyle- it is the style that the OP's boy has.

And why the hell should she 'accept that people will talk about it'? Other people should accept that EVERYONE is 'different' and they can all wear the clothes/hairstyle/make-up/tattoos etc that they want, provided they're not offensive.

lozster · 12/07/2015 15:27

u2 my two year old has hair like your youngest. It took ages to grow and now I just don't want a harsh cut that loses the curl. I'm asked a lot when I'm going to get his hair cut. I did intend to but I am thinking of leaving it until he asks especially as I saw a little boy at the junior school nearby and he looked just fine with long hair ...

CakeNinja · 12/07/2015 15:28

Erm, well it looks like dd2s previous style of hair - a lank greasy bob.
Either get it cut into a more suitable style for his type of hair, or grow a thicker skin.
But then I really don't like long hair on boys full stop.

Lurkedforever1 · 12/07/2015 15:30

Even if it was a girls hairstyle, accessorised by pink bows and a Disney princess dress then as long as he's actually chosen it why should it be any concern to anyone else?

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ghostspirit · 12/07/2015 15:30

blazing how do you get a boys long tyle? i have asked at hair dressers before they said they sort of rough it up a bit. just kind of drops into standard cut after an hour or so.

i dont mind comments but they are always negitive comments. and in front of my son...it sort of feels like they are being horrible to him but saying it to me

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EeyoresTail · 12/07/2015 15:31

There's a boy in my DD'S class whose hair is the same length as your son. I would never think to question his parents why his hair is that length. He is the only one in their class who doesn't have short hair.

lozster · 12/07/2015 15:31

Also ghost I don't see how this is a girls style? It's just long hair cut in a straight line Confused