To be pissed of at people that make comments about sons hair

[ghostspirit]

People are really starting to pee me of with comments about my sons hair. person 1 when you getting his hair cut he looks like a girl. says it often-ish

person 2 omg get his hair cut. why do you make him have long hair. your really making him into someone hes not.

Me: i have had is hair cut....her:but a bob why would you do that.

i just feel like shes rude when her son has his hair cut i say its nice which it is. i think my son suits long hair and he does not have to have it shaved like many boys do. and theses things are said whilst hes there.

My sons and my Dh have long hair.
I learnt to ignore years ago. ;)
If your son likes it, then so be it.

I don't see lank grease either??

How old is ds OP ?

When my son was small he had bright blond curly hair that I kept quite long not girly though. My friend used to say you need to get his hair cut people think he's a girl, bollocks as he was a boys boy...anyhow fast foward years later she has a son kept his hair long and out of condition and greasy

I was thinking though, if you really want a more 'masculine' longhair do. Try a few layers? My sons have wavy hair, so it never sat like your sons. More of a 70's chop. Google, then take pic with you to the hairdresser.

its not greasy. got washed yesterday!

stillwish hes 8

He needs layers. Pinterest - have a look, some fab long boy's style on there.

Ds3 (9) has quite long hair. He really suits it and likes it long himself which surprises me as, generally, he doesn't like to stand out from the crowd. It's nobody's business but his own.

I think "boys long styles" are harder when the hair is straight OP...personally if he's asked to have it short I would allow him to have it short...it needn't be shaved.

My DD had long, long hair and as soon as she asked to cut it off, I let her. It's very important to give them some control...

this might be nice

Question is 'how do you tell someone to 'fuck off' with dignity and clarity? And so they actually shut up, rather than argue, 'I was only giving my opinion' or other such pathetic nonsense. Suggestions please.

Was at a football festival yesterday for junior teams aged 7-16. There was one lad, aged about 14, who had the most gorgeous silky smooth collar length hair. Was stunning. Had a group of girls following him around too.

But wrt to your son. It is his hair, if he wants it longer, so be it. There are quite a few boys in my son's school with longish hair now that I come to think about it.

Turn it back on them casimir, preferably about something they have made a choice in. And if possible using exactly the same tone and phrase they have.

Is he getting teased at school ?

At 8 I would say it's his choice how he wants his hair - is that how he wants his hair ?

That's simular to ds (11) house

I'm not keen on boys with long hair

My DS2 has had long hair since he was old enough to express a preference, so that's up to him.

He's 16 now and still wears it long.

Next time you go to get it cut, Google some pictures of boys hair, and ask him what he'd like. Really, 8 is old enough for him to have a say in his hairstyle.

If he likes it long, keep it like that, and tell "her" to mind her own business.

DD1 had her primary school settling in afternoon last week.

On her return she said 'mummy there was a girl with a boy's name, or it might have been a boy with girls hair'.

Made me smile(though of course I explained that boys can have long hair too)

thehouse i like that think it would suit him to. but probably only stay like it for a day.

You say he's bothered by the comments - if so ask him if he wants it cut short and let him if he wants to. At 8 he's old enough to decide how he likes his own hair I think. If he likes it long then fair enough.

i want him to choose how he has his hair because he has make that choice not because someone has made negitive comments in front of him...

anyway i just asked him how do you want your hair he strugged. i said do you want it to stay like that he said yes...not sure if hes listening though hes staring at his tablet!

It's about the same length as my 5 year old DS's hair. He's inspiring half the boys in his class to dodge haircuts!

Your DS looks lovely and it suits him. Neither is it lank and greasy. There's a special corner of fuckoffsville for people who feel the need to be bitchy about eight year olds.

Ghost by flab is ghasted he is 8 and he has never thought about how he wants his hair ? It has never been discussed ? How ? Just How ?

The thing is unfortunately we don't live in a vacum.... Others views and opinions influence our own. Personally I'd love to go out braless and wearing just pants a lot of the time in summer but because of other peoples comments I choose not to (!) It's much the same thing, more so for children coming into pre teens, which at 8 he is. It's normal for him to want to please others and fit in however much we as parents want them to think for themselves.

My dd is 12 and for the past few days has been obsessed with getting her eyebrows "on fleek" whatever the hell that means, basically all her friends are obsessed with eyebrows and grooming them etc. Hers look fine to me but what do I know, if it matters to her and means she feels more confident and fits in with her buddies that's fine.. I think within reason anything hair and make up is fair game as long as it isn't super extreme.