To be pissed of at people that make comments about sons hair

[ghostspirit]

People are really starting to pee me of with comments about my sons hair. person 1 when you getting his hair cut he looks like a girl. says it often-ish

person 2 omg get his hair cut. why do you make him have long hair. your really making him into someone hes not.

Me: i have had is hair cut....her:but a bob why would you do that.

i just feel like shes rude when her son has his hair cut i say its nice which it is. i think my son suits long hair and he does not have to have it shaved like many boys do. and theses things are said whilst hes there.

"Other people should accept that EVERYONE is 'different'"

In an ideal world that would happen, but, sadly in the real world it doesn't.

My Ds is 8 and has a say in his haircut... I also understand that my DS cannot take these comments and would be really upset so I do make it on the balance of how it is going to make him feel..

Did he ask why you wanted a picture of the back of his head?

still he did have it shorter once sort of jaw line lengh and hair dresser roughed it up a bit. and he cried said he missed his hair. that was a couple of years ago.

Erm, well it looks like dd2s previous style of hair - a lank greasy bob.
Either get it cut into a more suitable style for his type of hair, or grow a thicker skin.
But then I really don't like long hair on boys full stop.

This is just really spiteful. It doesn't look lank and greasy at all.

What is it with people and kids haircuts?
Adults walk around with all sorts of hair styles and lengths and that's fine; doesn't matter particularly if it's short or long or what gender you are.
However when it comes to children there seems to be some sort of rule that boys have hair shorter than their ear lobes and girls have long hair past their shoulders.

My daughter has her hair cut in a bob (age 4). She'd like it longer but refuses to have it combed so I won't let her grow it yet. In fact I'd be happy for her to have it cut a lot shorter and when I tried to search online for "girls short hair styles" there were only bobs and variations thereof. When I went to her nursery graduation last week she was the only girl with "short"hair (level with her jaw). ALL the other girls had long flowing locks past their shoulders.

Is he nt ghost ? If so you should be able to sit him down (without his tablet) and explain it's his choice how he has his hair. If he has it long (like that) he might get cmoments, you could talk about how to deal with that.Or he could have it short or midlength, the great thing about hair is it grows back.A nt 8 year old should be able to understand.

Ask him again when he's giving you his full attention OP. If he's 8 now then I assume he's going into year 4 soon? That's quite grown up enough to decide your own hairdo.

Long hair on boys has been the norm, or fashionable, for hundreds of years. When I was a kid, in the 70s, a bob was a boys cut as much as for girls. Short hair, close to being shaved, was almost unheard of unless deliberately being a skinhead or mod.

The comments on here that make it sound like boys having short hair is a law of physics, like gravity, just show a lack of knowledge about the history of fashion and how much we view these things according to society, not some rule of nature.

Long hair/short hair, who cares?

My two boys have always had short haircuts. Purely for practicality. No need for drying or styling or tying it back for sports. They haven't got time for all that, so they just have short hair that requires no maintenance or thought.

If they wanted to grow it they could but they choose not to. most of their friends are the same.

If he wants long hair no earthly reason why he shouldn't have it.
However that hair does look quite feminine from the back, I think it's the straightness of it. Of course there is no reason why a haircut should be feminine or masculine at all but social convention says they are. Unless he specifically wants to ignore social conventions I would help him 'boy' it up a bit. Life is usually easier for children when they don't obviously flout social gender conventions. That might not be right but there you are.
It needs to be messier, less straight and 'styled' looking (I'm sure it's not styled but that's how it looks)

So much more succinct house

They are rude to comment-but I think its important that he has some choice and if he has a style that is conventionally female it should be him who is choosing it.

i think i forgot to answer couple of things. Hes never been bullied at school for his hair. i dont think going into year 4 would make any difference. hes still with the same children.

im not sure if i can do anything about it being straight :/

oh and he did not ask why i took the pic

History says so what.

He has lovely hair GhostSpirit.

YANBU, it's nobody else's business.

Hard to tell from the back but it looks like it suits him.

At our school boys aren't allowed long hair from Year 3 up. There's a few really cute cuts (all curly as it happens but don't see anything wrong with a bob) on the boys in the infant department and it's quite sad to see them have to conform to the 'hair above the collar' rule when they hit KS2.

Whenever I see a boy with long hair, I judge the parents (sorry!) At our primary school, all shoulder length hair has to be tied back, boy or girl! How would he feel about that?

It's not a good style. I don't know about the fringe, but it looks a bit like elongated basin hair-do.

I'd be embarrassed if people commented on my DS' hair style and would certainly change hairdressers.

I'm fairly sure hair length doesn't affect genitals in any way. I've no intention of cutting DS's (3m) hair until/unless he asks. DH's hair is hip length anyway - it's clearly not turned him into a girl!

He didn't ask why you wanted a picture of the back of his head ghost? My two at 8 would have been either 'no' or 'what for?' at the very least.

I wonder how many young children have long hair because it is their parents' preference?

Interestingly have just spoken to my daughter, she says there are no boys with long hair in her high school.

I love longish hair on boys and anything shaved on a young boy looks really chavvy. So tell them that next time someone whose son has short hair comments. Will soon shut them up.

Oh yes over the collar,must be tied up for school, but then I can't bear to see girls with hair dripping all over the place either,for a party or the weekend,sure for school/nursery no,no,no. Just a H&S thing (and a nit thing tbh)

Yes I thought that Bun because a child's hair length is not under their control, so they have to have it the way their parents want them to have it anyway, they can't take themselves off to the hairdressers.

Lots of girls at First School had hair down past their bum and I used to wonder how the parents had time to deal with it every morning.