To be pissed of at people that make comments about sons hair

[ghostspirit]

People are really starting to pee me of with comments about my sons hair. person 1 when you getting his hair cut he looks like a girl. says it often-ish

person 2 omg get his hair cut. why do you make him have long hair. your really making him into someone hes not.

Me: i have had is hair cut....her:but a bob why would you do that.

i just feel like shes rude when her son has his hair cut i say its nice which it is. i think my son suits long hair and he does not have to have it shaved like many boys do. and theses things are said whilst hes there.

Can't believe people comment.. Long hair on boys and men has been around since the beginning of time. All the young boys in the 70s had long hair.. I think it looks gorgeous. Why should only girls get to have a mane of hair? As long as he wants it like that then it's all good! Just tell people he likes it long

I don't actually care how a parent styles their child's hair - as long as colours aren't involved (just because I don't think its necessary to have colour at such a young age).

However, we've got friends whose son is going to high school soon. The school the child is going to is extremely strict and during their induction day recently a male teacher went around every male child telling them the appropriate lengths of hair and whether their current styles would fit. I think it was some thing like no shorter than grade 3 and shorter than shoulder lengths for boys. I was surprised in this day and age that a school would be so rigid on hair lengths.

DS1 had his first hair cut at 2, because it was a shaggy mess and in his eyes. Plus it was mostly straight.

Ds2, otoh, has beautiful baby curls - which won't survive the first haircut. He's now 2.9 and I've had to cut his (straight) fringe to get it out of his eyes, but still haven't cut the curls at the back. So far no one has said too much about it and not many people have mistaken him for a girl...
I know I'll need to cut it because it's going to get too hot for him, but not just yet. I think he quite likes it, he swings his head around to get it moving

There's another little boy in his soccer class who has long hair, but his mum puts it up in a little high pony tail - he really does look like a girl with it that way! But so what, if he doesn't mind, then whatever.

My son has always had long hair, he has never had a mum bob though

^ that should read and no longer than the back of the neck. Shoulder length hair wouldn't be allowed for boys.

My DS is 16 and has lovely long hair. He gets his rock star good looks from his dad thank goodness that's all but that's another story and it suits him, but people often comment and say I should make him get it cut. He's about to start college! So you have little hope of them piping down when your DS is still small I'm afraid. As long as your son is happy with it like that it's no one else's business.

Those hairbands a la David Beckham look awful. There are a lot of male footballers with dubious hairstyles.

DS1 has always had short hair, but he's had lots of different hair styles.

DS2 grew his in Yr6/7. It was his choice, I wasn't that keen, my mum loved it. Once it got to the length, with layers, in the OP's picture and it had to be tied back for PE he had it cut off.

i would imagine he would stand out with a haircut like that at his age.

He's not a cute toddler where boys can easily get away with long hair.

If he likes it and you do, that's what matters.

I'd say you will have to be less sensitive though as it is quite girly looking.

He needs to wear it with pride and nonchalance regarding what others think otherwise just get it cut.

Agree with the posters who have said you need to grow a thicker skin. You can't expect everyone to have the same opinion as you when it comes to his hair. Your friend was a bit rude but she's probably just saying what everyone else is thinking.

i wonder how many have it short at their parents preference :/

spark he just never asked

Those hairbands a la David Beckham look awful. There are a lot of male footballers with dubious hairstyles.

I agree Sparkling, but David Beckham has had some right dodgy haircuts IMO.

You just have to keep ignoring. Short hair on boys has been the norm for ages, IIRC it even used to feature on school dress codes. It's going to take a while for long hair on boys to stop being highly unusual.

One of my DS's has a long blond mop and it really suits him and he likes it. I get it trimmed every now and then but unless he says to me he wants it cut off, it'll stay long.

I once mistook a beautiful toddler with long hair to be a girl. We were in a hospital waiting room and both of our toddlers were playing with each other and I said something like "your little girl is so pretty" to the mum. Mum said "he is a boy". Whoops . It was ok because we both laughed about it.

I think his hair looks really cute but am guessing at age 8 am not sure thats the look he is hoping for!! Personally I think he needs a few shorter layers in there but unfortunately if you go against the grain you are going to get a few 'unhelpful' comments.

Dd quite often wears boys trousers and t.shirts as she finds them more comfortable, I just shrug if/when we get any comments. People should keep their opinions to themselves but in the real world they don't!!

I think short or long it's the parents' preference whether or not to take the DC to the hairdressers/barbers up until the age they can go on their own.

"i wonder how many have it short at their parents preference :/"

So true

Kit Harrison. That is all.

They are rude and a bit ignorant op. I know loads of boys with longer hair. It's hardly that outlandish. Why do people feel the need to make such comments?

Yesterday I was watching dd in a play, afterwards about 5 other parents I know felt the need to say "my god, why she is so small? She can't be 12. Look at the size of her compared to the others...." By the end of the afternoons could understand why Dd has become a bit sensitive about her height! What's wrong with people???

Hormonal you are not wrong.

I wouldn't force my dd to have long hair against her wishes, from age 5-6yo she told me when she wanted her hair cut and I went with her wishes. Even though I would have loved her to have long hair so I could play with it!! The shortest she had it was just over the top of her ears but most of the time now it is similar length to the ops son.

My friend has a son and 2 daughters, both girls have very long hair and the boy very short hair, they get no say in the matter!!

When I was 17/18 in the early 90's we all (boys and girls) had long glossy locks. It was a thing along with combat pants and dms. So short hair wasn't the norm a very short time ago....

yeah i know there are going to be comments things said...i think its more the tone. and infront of my son that i dont like.

and i wonder how people would feel if i said things about their child infront of the child.

I'm sure they would dislike it intensely Ghost, doesn't seem to stop people though!!

Perhaps you need to review who your friends are if they keep making comments or tell them it is upsetting you.