To be pissed of at people that make comments about sons hair

[ghostspirit]

People are really starting to pee me of with comments about my sons hair. person 1 when you getting his hair cut he looks like a girl. says it often-ish

person 2 omg get his hair cut. why do you make him have long hair. your really making him into someone hes not.

Me: i have had is hair cut....her:but a bob why would you do that.

i just feel like shes rude when her son has his hair cut i say its nice which it is. i think my son suits long hair and he does not have to have it shaved like many boys do. and theses things are said whilst hes there.

My DD1 has hair similar to this as it's far more practical (and neater) for a 4yr old who hates having it washed, brushed or tied up. However I think she is the only girl in her nursery room that doesn't have long hair. She sometimes says she would like hair like Elsa, but when I point out that Elsa's is always plaited she goes off the idea!

You could just ask Rude Person to point out which girls they know that have hair that short and how many that have it longer. There are probably as few girls who have this length hair - weird that it's considered short for a girl but long for a boy!

If the child is happy with their hair, then I say leave them be.

However, why are so many mothers so keen on their sons having long hair?!

It doesn't bother me but I do know a lady whose 8 year old son has long hair...when I first saw him I called him "her"! You can't be annoyed when people assume he's a she.

If he likes his hair long, then that's all that matters. It's his hair and it's no one else's business. People should keep their opinions to themselves.

I well remember when my boy cousins who had very long hair came for a visit. The neighbour children started to taunt them, "You must be girls, you can't be boys" on and on and on. Finally my youngest cousin, who was about five years old, offered to prove to them in the most direct way he knew that he was in fact a boy. At that point they took his word for it without requiring proof.

Tom is that your son? He looks like a child from an advert or film! He's beautiful.

DS2 is 13 and his school says no extreme hairstyles of cut or colour and also 'Long hair in boys or girls needs to be tied or clipped back so
that your teachers can see your face'.

It does look a bit girly... It's not the length; I've seen far longer on boys, it's the style. It's a neat little bob, rather than hair that been allowed to just grow.

My DS (15) has large brown curls and is currently rocking a longer Harry Styles type do. He is the only one in his class who doesn't have a short back and sides and the school is tying itself in knots about it. He is clean and brushed and it is still off his collar. I love the fact that he has enough gumption to go his own way.

what would layers do to help?

OP YANBU

I would never say anything: it's extremely rude to do that without being asked to comment and as long as he's happy, that's fine

I think by age 15 you can be responsible for your own hair.

Thanks Thehouse we think he's pretty cute! However, he might look angelic.....

Do supply teachers ever think he's a girl? - that has happened at school

If they are happy with the style thats that tbh. I keep getting told to cut my DAUGHTERS hair! It's down to her waist and she is 4. It started when she was a baby and her fringe was in her eyes and I would clip it back. All I would hear is 'cut her fringe' ad nauseum. It is lovely and thick, she likes it, I like it. But seriously who the fuck are these people who think they can dictate our lives to us and that of our kids. Tell them to piss off and concentrate on their own lives.

My Ds is 2 and has lovely fluffy hair, he looks a bit shaggy, but its a cute look, I hate when you see little toddler boys with skin head cuts, makes them look like little thugs. (No offence intended)

Layers would make if look like a style.
Unfortunately, too many males (not little boys) tend to just leave it.
If you have long hair, you must keep it groomed. A nice trick is that you can have it cut to like you haven't bothered. Your son has lovely thick hair, a few layers will make a finished (and yet not ;)) look. :)

oh ok. i might get couple layers into it then thanks :)

Great! It's lovely colour, l'm sure it will make all the difference. See if you can find some pics to take with you.

I love long hair on little boys but that blunt bob does look far too girly to me. Not that it matters….unless he gets sick of being mistaken for a girl.

The fringe is all-important in this scenario. I was once engaged in conversation by someone in a park, all the while dreading having to refer to their child because I couldn't work out from the hair or the clothes whether it was an unfortunate looking girl wearing fabulous unisex clothes and a Richard III haircut, or a boy wearing fabulous unisex clothes and a Richard III hair cut.

I got it wrong.

You said you'd like him to choose how to wear his hair, but that he doesn't care yet. You also said he wants it cut short when people mention it to him/you. Him having long hair isn't your his hair choice, it's yours. He isn't ready yet to decide how he likes it so you're doing what you want, which as his parent, is your prerogative.

Has it ever been cut short? Have you considered having it done to give him a frame of reference to how he likes his hair? Right now it seems that all he knows is long so he can't exactly decide which way he prefers it.

He's trusting you to make the decision for him right now. If you said to him "alright, let's go get your hair cut" it sounds from your posts that he wouldn't care either way. So this long hair is your choice.

There was a boy in my high school who had long hair and looked like Taylor Hansen... pretty funny as when he transferred to our school Hansen had just recently released MmmBop. He "bowed to pressure" from the boys in our class and cut his hair short (actually shaved it off). He's never grown his hair long again and much prefers it short. We're actually friends still and I asked him about it once. His parents never cut it short and he had no problem with it being long when it was, but once it was short he realised how much easier it was and how much more he preferred it.

Once your son has made the decision for himself how he wants his hair, if he chooses long then your response to those people is: I don't understand why his hair choices are your business but for the record, he's tried it short and he prefers it long. It's hair, it's not the end of the world!

sykadelic

That's a good point. I wonder if it applies to lots of parents.

Dixie Dont you dare cut his hair, he looks uber cute and I love the colour.

This is how long ds' hair got before people started telling me I should cut it, I gave it a tiny trim but I am leaving it be now.

he had it shorter once and cried that was a couple of years ago. hes never had is short as in spikey short.

the first pic is how the op pic looks from the front.

the 2nd is when short and he cried