"has she got a boyfriend" ? FUCK OFF

[trufflehunterthebadger]

SIL (and many other people apparently) seem absolutely fixated with DD having a "boyfriend"

"Has she got a BF yet ?"
"Ah, she has got a crush on uncle x"
"That boy is rough because he likes you"

DD is 5. WTF is wrong with people ? aibu that this topic ends up in me cutting off the person asking the fucking stupid vapid question quite curtly ? DD really likes SIL's husband and the other day it was "aww, she's got a crush on him, look, she won't leave him alone" . MIL is nearly as bad

Has anyone had this ? Why on earth do people do it ?

This post is making me wonder if 'has eyes for..." Means in a flirty way? It isn't an expression I am familiar with.

DS used to come out of primary school every day, arm around shoulders with a little girl in his class. She was a proper little tomboy and played football with the lads every break time. Her and DS were just very good pals and neither of them was ever into the primary school boyfriend/girlfriend malarkey.

Every single day it would be
School gate Mums: Ooh look at the lovebirds
Me: Oh Young Tink and Footie Girl are good mates
School gate Mums: Oh they are so sweet, arms around each other
Me: Yes and your boys are doing it to their mates too
School gate Mums: They are inseparable aren't they?
Me: Well they both like/play football. They're not engaged or anything

"Got eyes for" means "fancies". Always has. They're saying your DD fancies her grandfather. Nice.

Years ago my grandma used to ask me or my mum the same. Even at the time I hated it. She seemed obsessed. Probably just had very little other stunning conversation in retrospect, odd.

My grandma did this to me as a teenager, albeit not as a child. She got married at 19 and didn't understand why I would wait much longer either. I asked her about it when I was a bit older, and she said she wanted to see my wedding but was scared she'd be dead by the time I did get round to it. She couldn't bare seeing be have a family that she wasn't a part of.

Just an alternate side of the coin. My grandma wasn't sexualising me. She was, in her own way, expressing fear. Would have been a different story if I was 5. She probably started at about 14/15.

She was a very kind, loving lady, but didn't get social niceties a lot of the time. I do miss her.

I've hidden someone on fb who keeps posting photos of her "sexy lil lady" (her 3yo dd).

Horrible Lois. Does anyone know when all this started? No one called babies and children sexy when I was young.

I don't know how or why this started its vile. Maybe I should have challenged it actually.

All my aunts used to say this sort of thing to me.

As someone who was very literal and not very social, it made me feel incredibly uncomfortable.

Part of the problem was that it was clearly supposed to be 'good-natured teasing, which I don't actually believe is a thing. I think adults teasing children is always unpleasant, even without this weird frantic sexualisation of children.

By complete non-coincidence, my cousins (the children of the aunts) all got engaged before they hit their mid-teens, and were mostly married by their early 20s.

Bad time, I completely agree about 'good natured teasing'. Its a lazy excuse for nasty power play. You need a HUGE amount of trust in a relationship before any kind of teasing / ribbing / winding up is acceptable, and for some people it never is. My brother's shitty behaviour used to always get excused by our parents with 'oh he's just teasing you' and 'you're too sensitive' and I hated it.

"Got eyes for" means "fancies". Always has. They're saying your DD fancies her grandfather. Nice.

Bleurgh. Dp's family are a weird bunch. My dd is 11 months old ffs.