AIBU?
Was my dd being unreasonable?
TheBFGisme1234 · 22/06/2015 16:37
My dd, in year 8, was in a lesson at school today when a boy asked to refill his water bottle, to which the teacher replied- "No, that is a lunch time activity". However, five minutes later the same teacher, while teaching, was booking his holiday and ordering furniture. My dd realized this and questioned him as to why it was fair that he is allowed to book holidays but they are not allowed to fill up their water, both of which are lunchtime activities. The teacher then shouted at her and told her she embarrassed him and asked to see her after class.
My dd promptly burst into tears as she is normally impeccably behaved and in her entire school career has only been in trouble once, the whole class went silent. After class the teacher told her what she had said was wrong and cheeky, but that he would let it go this time as it is completely abnormal behaviour for her. On the one hand I agree with her teacher that she was being cheeky in pointing this out, but then again I see her point. So was my dd being unreasonable? Is there any way she could have pointed this out without being "cheeky"?
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TheBFGisme1234 · 22/06/2015 16:43
MythicalKings
the computer screen the teacher uses faces my daughter so whenever she looks up from her work its the first thing she sees.
She says that although they were doing their work quitely, up to five people had their hand up around the classroom
LazyLouLou · 22/06/2015 16:44
Well... of course he let her off, he had just been breaking a whole heap of professional ethics, rules and regulations.
I would imagine he won't sleep for a while, waiting for one of his students to tell his boss that he spends some of his paid for, teaching time to book his holiday!
I am serious... I absolutely hated it when colleagues did this. I could never see why they did not accept that they were utterly in the wrong... then one was dismissed, IT dept documented a long period of personal browsing during timetabled teaching hours.
Reassure your dd that she was in the right, she spotted hypocrisy and questioned it. But also remind her that, in the grown up world, do as I say, not as I do often rules... odd or unfair as that may seem.
But you could contact HoY/HT and comment....
startwig1982 · 22/06/2015 16:45
Our school has a strict no filling up bottles during lessons policy too. She was cheeky and I would have reprimanded her. However, I don't book holidays during my lessons!
That being said, he may just have been on those sites for lesson planning purposes. I frequently use holiday sites, Argos, eBay etc for lessons and I definitely don't shop at school!
lordsandladies · 22/06/2015 16:46
Well yes she was cheeky. But then he was wrong to be using teaching time this way.
If you are absolutely sure that's the situation I would speak to him. Pointing out you have told your DD not the talk back / to respect her teacher for questioning the use of her learning time to book holidays.
Loudly
Preferably near the head.
But then I'm PA like that and don't like blind obedience and respect unless it's earned.
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OvidWasMyFishmonger · 22/06/2015 16:58
I'd report to the head too. I wouldn't want my children to be taught that double standards are ok, I wouldn't want my kids in the cart for pointing out the truth and I don't want the person who's paid to teach my children spending any of their classroom time booking holidays and buying furniture.
Wolfiefan · 22/06/2015 16:59
She was cheeky. I wouldn't expect my kids to pull up a teacher in this public way. (How did she know what he was doing? She obviously wasn't working!)
He should have been doing his job. If he's been doing the things you mention on school wifi he could be in trouble.
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