I fought with the school to let my child start in nappies...

[Piratejones]

And now 3 years later, we have reached a point where he is dry in the day in places he knows and semi reliable outside the home. They are getting funny because i DON'T want him in a nappy during a school trip.

I can't win, it's a fucking joke. up until now they've been pushing to get rid of the nappies, he starts showing some improvement and they don't want the responsibility of taking spare clothes.

It makes me angry.

well i do get the extra £54\Week DLA for it PolterGoose !

Pirate, can I ask why your DS does not go to school on Fridays? Is that your choice?

And there is Münchhausen too, I've seen an Anti ASD thread before where that was implied.

PirateJones

Forgive me because I'm not familiar with your DS and his needs but is he able to have some input into what he wants to do? Because I think that should be the key here - if he wants to wear a nappy I'd probably suck it up whether I thought it was taking a backward step. If he doesn't and its school's opinion, then that's totally untenable.

I would have had more time for them if it were me if they'd arranged a meeting and said "well actually these are out concerns" - and had a frank and sensible discussion with you.

Do you know whether his 1:2:1 is having a group of other children?

My gut feeling is the pads - especially if he is able to deal with them himself. Who would need know?!

Hope you get it sorted and he has a fab time

Afternoon all,

Thanks for your reports about this thread.

It looks as though we've had a visit from a particularly unenlightened previously banned poster . We're removing their posts from the thread now or we'll be answering reports about them for days.

For anyone that needs reminding, here's a link to our This Is My Child campaign. Its aim is to support parents of children with additional needs, inform everyone else, and open up a conversation about how we can all act to make life easier for everyone caring for children with additional needs.

Many thanks.

MrsLeelemon Your views are fucking revolting to read and nobody is agreeing with you thank god. So your friend managed with a child who has ds ( a whole different condition) . So fucking what? How is that relevant to this situation ?That has nothing to do with anything.

I don't think you should be spouting your evil shit on here where there are mothers who are in real life genuine situations with children who just aren't ready to be dry because of additional needs, autism ADHD, seizure's and many more conditions.
Don't judge a woman until you've walked a mile in her shoes.

oh whoops

"An unenlightened previously banned poster"

That does sound better than 'fucking thick troll'

Pirate, can I ask why your DS does not go to school on Fridays? Is that your choice?

Flexi-schooling, we had his timetable reduced by 6 hours last year (After trying since he started) with the help of our social worker and his doctors. partly because it was impossible to take him to things like the park, the cinema or swimming at the weekend because he would self harm when too many people were there, and partly because he needs "outside experiences" to help his social and emotional growth.

Forgive me because I'm not familiar with your DS and his needs but is he able to have some input into what he wants to do?

Yes, some input but he doesn't really know, So he will keep switching between wanting a nappy and wanting his pants. He won't be bothered either way, he doesn't get embarrassed or anything.

Pagwatch now now... don't be "trollist"

trollist

Ah, good- just wanted to check that him not attending one day a week was your choice, and not something the school imposed

Yes, it's our choice.

I am trollist. [true]

Can I just clarify, because someone possibly deliberately misunderstood my previous point, that using the 1:1 to take a group was not supposed to validate the schools position. It was supposed to be seen as a bad thing since if she is in charge of a group then she is not doing what she is employed to do, and is required to do under a statement or EHCP, which is to provide solely for his needs.

If this does turn out to be what they are doing, it is absolutely unacceptable to use the 1:1 in this way.

It wouldn't be the first time a school has deliberately miss understood the 1:1 ratio.

If this does turn out to be what they are doing, it is absolutely unacceptable to use the 1:1 in this way.

If it is what they are planning, then they will be unlikely to tell me this outright because they know it's wrong.
I've pulled them up on an incident before a few years ago where Minipirates 1 2 1 was "busy helping another student" and the bugger decided to make a dash for it, he escaped out of the class room door. Why was his 1 2 1 helping another student?
In their defense they do seem to have sorted things out since then.

Don't worry about Goblins post Spring, It had nothing to do with my OP or anything after it. I think some people only read the thread title then rush to comment based on only that.

Hi Pirate, it sounds like MiniPirate has been doing so well with his toile ting and I totally get why you see this as a backward step.
The school are just seeing a particular issue, not the bigger picture.
I hope you can have a constructive meeting and that the school can focus on MiniPirate as a child who has a toileting issue which is improving rather than just a problem to be addressed by a backward step.

Thank you Soldier, With luck it will be sorted on Monday.

Good luck with it pirate.

I've had a thought, what if you suggest meeting them half way, put him in underpants under a nappy. This way to him it will feel like he's in pants, he will feel when he's had an accident and so fourth, but it will have the protection there if he soils or wets.

That's an idea Marios or maybe pants over the nappy or pullup, so he feels like he's in pants while being safe at the same time?