I fought with the school to let my child start in nappies...

[Piratejones]

And now 3 years later, we have reached a point where he is dry in the day in places he knows and semi reliable outside the home. They are getting funny because i DON'T want him in a nappy during a school trip.

I can't win, it's a fucking joke. up until now they've been pushing to get rid of the nappies, he starts showing some improvement and they don't want the responsibility of taking spare clothes.

It makes me angry.

Given what the OP's written on this thread I'd be willing to bet they are about to use the 1:1 as an adult in charge of a group to make up the ratios.

Then my point still stands. A nappy is very suitable for this situation.

Is making a child use a nappy becuase it's not convenant for you ever right?

In these circumstances it is, imagine having a group of children who are tied to the toilet because of the OP's child instead of enjoying the trip.

YANBU

The school should - if they don't already - be having regular meetings with you so that you and the school together can agree a consistent, ongoing strategy for your son's needs; aiming slowly for improvement and development. All strategies should be dictated by whatever is best for your son, NOT the school's convenience.

It sounds like they are all over the place.

Marioswife A group of children tied to the toilet? How ridiculous. And if a child who is NOT in nappies needs to go at an inconvenient time, what then? Are they told to just piss their pants?

My ds has 'toiletting issues' and there are plenty of ways to support children at the different stages they go thorough with soiling/ gaining control/ being able to take charge of own toiletting etc.

The school should support you by responding to his changing needs- what worked this time last year is not right now. His iep or whatever, should show what the school are doing to support him. For instance- social stories,rewards for trying,pecs boards to remind him to try,timed trips to the loo.

He doesn't need nappies on the trip,he needs the correct kind of support to meet his current needs. Also- well done to your son for his achievement.

Marioswife that's just twisted logic.

I do sometimes wonder if the people who would rather him be stuck in a nappy for convenience realise he is a young child, a little human who has the same rights about going to the toilet as everyone else.

He has worked to a point where he is able to stay successfully dry, why should he be made to use a nappy now?

Oh op, I feel for you, it sounds like the school are being very inconsistent and inflexible.

I don't know what to suggest in this situation, but I hope you do get it resolved.

Aibu brings out the vipers, so I hope you haven't been upset by the less charitable posts.

A group of children tied to the toilet? How ridiculous. And if a child who is NOT in nappies needs to go at an inconvenient time, what then? Are they told to just piss their pants?

Another child will likely be able to hold it a short time until the toilet is near.

I sympathize with the OP i really do but in this case nappies are best.

I have a son with ASD by the way, he's also in nappies at 5 years old, So i'm talking from experience.

Piratejones please do get back and tell us what their explanation is for this. It will be interesting to know what excuse they use.

Another child will likely be able to hold it a short time until the toilet is near.

Piratejones Child might be able to as well, if he's given the chance and some trust.

It's a constant battle for our children isn't it Tizwailor

meant

Have they told you it's because they "don't want the responsibility of taking spare clothes"?

its not incredibly good of the school to accept an unpotty trained child MrsLeelemon they would be breaking the law if they refused!

Why is it shocking that schools are expected to meet the needs of their pupils?

just use pull ups! Honestly, if he soils or wets himself it will impact on the trip for him & the others. It's only one day, concentrate on the positives of the trip.

What so we can keep any children who don't fit your ideal hidden away?

For a lot of children special schools are the perfect environment but not for all children with additional needs and that judgement should be made on the whole child not just their toileting needs.