To think this is rude at a concert

[TheRobbingBastards]

We went to DS's Summer concert last night. This is a big event for the music department and the children who perform.

My judgey pants were pulled well up at the couple who arrived with two younger DS's (about 7is) in tow, plonked themselves in the front row then fished an iPad in a luminous green case out of a bag. The two boys then spent the whole concert playing a game that involved much waving of arms. All the time they were sat in front of the stage, in direct eyeline of the children performing

In fairness they had the sound down, both boys stayed in their seats all the way through the concert and apart from the occasional muffled gasp or cheer they were quiet. I also realise that expecting DC to behave themselves through an event like that is easier said than done, and don't necessarily judge the parents for using an iPad to keep them entertained. It's more the inconsideration of allowing them to distract the performers as well as the audience several rows behind them.

So AIBU and curmudgeonly or was this unnecessarily rude and thoughtless?

I love it that I enrage people who spout disablist shite

God how low can you go thisdark?

Yes when i was young and not as knowledgeable as now I didn't understand about SN.

What's your excuse? Shameful post.

What I actually did that I am ashamed of is I once judged an older girl having a meltdown on the bus. When I was about 19 and child free. I didn't do anything or comment. And just felt bad for her parents ever since. Since you like to try to make me look bad.

Nasty nasty nasty

Sorry, i said I was leaving this thread, but stupidly i had to come back on, and am glad i did, because - Toads, please don't think i was talking about you when i was saying about ds making loud noises in a shop. He has been tutted at by people, and people have made rude comments. If i saw you leaving with your hands over your ears then i would only feel bad that the noise has made you feel uncomfortable. I am really sorry if you felt I was having a go at you.

Ds also has noise sensitivity, with sudden noises and some very specific noises, and I know that there is one boy in his class who shrieks. The TAs juggle things so that both of them are comfortable - it is hard to meet the needs of different disabilities, but possible.

I don't think I see where the needs of adults with disabilities have been ignored on this thread - surely the children we are talking about will be adults one day, and when I talk about people needing adjustments, i mean both children and adults.

Unfortunately this post Why should children with SN have to get everything they want and behave how they want all the time? has made me wish that I hadn' come back to this thread - how ignorant you are, redhead.

At least I know my point has hit home if someone is moved to make such a frankly cuntish post.

Some people are very strange.

Oh and you completely misunderstood (deliberately or otherwise) my previous post. It was your comment about 'karma' that was offensive. Do you really think having a child with special needs is 'karma' for a past intolerance. How cruel to all those parents of children with special needs.

Redhead that is a truly horrible post.

Do you really think having a child with special needs is 'karma' for a past intolerance.

You didn't really think about that before posting did you?

If she bothers you that much then just ignore her.

Redhead11, I think you need to educate yourself about asd because your post shows a lot of ignorance about it.

That was to dark.

I said I felt bad for judging the girl. But karma bit me on the arse because now people judge my DD.

What stirring.

Lame

Fanjo, my love, do not rise to it.

Thisis, your posts are beyond contempt really. I actually feel a little bit sorry that you have to seek attention in such a nasty low down manner.

I note your other posts have already been deleted and I sincerely hope you get banned.

Oh look you got toads all annoyed at me. That's lovely of you.

I didn't actually say that toads. She is just being nasty.

redhead

You win, your post is the most intolerant, ignorant crap I have ever read on MN and I've been here many years.

Tell me honestly how you think the parents of children with special needs will feel after reading that. I'll tell you how I feel. I feel tearful, frustrated and utterly defeated. Well done.

My child never gets what she wants. She wants empathy and understanding and maybe even a friend. She wants a school where she doesn't feel sidelined and seen as some kind of freak. She wants to not be on anti depressants and anti psychotics just to get her through the day.

I want her NOT TO BE FUCKING SUICIDAL because of idiots like you.

I have repeated my post in case you miss it. Any comment?

Name changed to settle a score, thisnotsodark? Spineless as well as vile.

You are seriously acting a wee bit insane here..it's a worry

Eh Fanjo I'm not annoyed at you .

I feel bad for toads getting upset at this.

Toads I love my DD beyond belief and think people with autism are amazing. Don't let this nasty person get you upset. She just has a bit of a beef with me.

I was sympathetic towards you at the beginning thisnotsodarkevening. Now I just think you're a bit odd.