to ask if you think a sahm should wake wohm in this instance

[devon004]

So we have a toddler who still wakes occasionally the night. And 2 primary aged dc. I do all the night wakings without a problem. (Cosleep so quick breastfeed sorts it) Dh has never assisted. This is all fine as he has a long commute and works long hours.
However last night ds1 comes in to announce he has been sick. He is fine and goes back to bed. However, the vomit went everywhere and the commotion was enough to wake toddler dd. So I am cleaning walls, beds, carpets and all the random objects the vomit landed on and sorting out dd.
Dh either didn't hear or choose to ignore it as I was dealing with it.
so should I be waking him in this situation? Will he crash the car if he doesn't grt enough rest? (he said this in the early days when dd would be awake for hours at a time)
thoughts please Mn jury.

Happybody - I am so sorry for what happened to your family and agree that tired drivers are dangerous. But getting up for half an hour as a one off isn't what tips someone from being safe to being overtired. Not unless there are other issues like medical problems or being pretty damn overtired anyway. I totallly agree about repeated, long or multiple nights of many waking potentially affecting driving safety. But if a one off would do that then the person should routinely be going to bed earlier as they are already borderline unsafe.

As SAHP I do all night wakings for food, baby spit-ups, nappies etc. The exceptions are: wet beds and vomity beds. Then it's a 2 man job to get the child comfortable, clean and back to sleep quickly. If one of you can bath/shower the child whilst the other strips beds and cleans up, it's all over in half the time.

We've always done this and it's rare, so hardly something to resent. When DH travels and this has happened, I've always been aware of the shivering, wet, often unwell kid waiting to get back into bed whilst I remake it. DH would never let our child unnecessarily stand around like that when all they want is to be comfy and asleep again! It's not really about who 'should' do it or balancing needs tomorrow - it's about compassion!

Thanks for replied. Tbh I never planned to co sleep. It just worked. Although now on holiday and dh has really annoyed me. Dd had a bad night partly due to less space etc. As a result I was tired and really felt I had little sleep. I also have a stinking cold. However, dh was kept awake by my snoring apparently.
we both managed to snooze abit though.