to be miffed at nursery?

[mrsnlw2012]

Following on from an earlier thread where DS' keyworker will be swapping rooms with a worker from the toddelr room (who will become his keyworker) she had her first day in the baby room with him yesterday. When I usually call to see how he's getting on I'm told how he is, what he's been upto/ate/drank/slept etc and feel really happy with that. I called yesterday and the new keyworker answered and just said "yep, he's fine" and didnt divulge anything else. I was a bit taken aback and just finished the call. Afterwards I thought "No, I want to know how he is (and book his parents evening)" so I called back to one of the usual workers answered and I got the usual update as to how he had been.

I thought maybe she was just busy and brushed it off. I got home last night and mentioned it it DH who wasn't impressed. He said when he got there, the keyworker was changing DS and handed DS back to DH without any trousers on and handed him the trousers too so DH had to struggle to put them on in the nursery room. Previously when DS had been in the middle of being changed when DH arrives, the keyworker/other workers would dress him fully.

AIBU that Im not happy with this sudden change? Should we just see how it goes or mention something?

Is he incapable of putting his own child's trousers on?

Yes I think yabu. Your dh is capable of putting on his sons trousers, and about the phone call.. she probably didn't know you wanted a detailed response so simply told you he is fine.

You phone the nursery during the day? Surely they are too busy to talk to parents. Wouldn't they update you when you collect? Yabu.

YABU. It's been one day and that's two fairly minor (non) incidents that you're concerned about. Give it a bit longer and see how things go. One worker won't necessarily work the same way as a previous one, or exactly the way you would like them to. Your DS will adapt just fine.

Was it really a struggle to put trousers on?!

Do you phone them every day? Why? I only called if there was a specific issue. Maybe the key worker was busy and there was nothing in particular to report. It must be irritating if all the parents phone every day.

I'm not sure the trousers were a particular issue, maybe DS reached out for his dad. Maybe other children needed changing. Why did your DH struggle, isn't he used to dressing DS?

I think you are being a bit U.

yabsu (you are being so unreasonable) why do you ring during the day?!? why can't dp put his own sons trousers on? why do you think they should waste time talking to you on the phone when they are supposed to be looking after children? so many questions...

YABU. Do you phone in the middle of every day to check on him? Imagine if every parent did that, they'd always be on the phone! I'm sure they'd call you if he wasnt fine and you were needed.

You call every day? How annoying for staff. They're supposed to be caring for children, imagine if every single parent expected to them to come to the phone every day and give them a blow by blow account of what their child has done.

And why wouldn't your DH be able to put his own child's pants on? If I get to daycare while they are changing him, then I'll always take over. They're busy, and it frees them up to do something else.

God, why on earth do you phone every day?! The keyworker was probably taken aback. YABU.

Are you concerned about something else (working mummy guilt, or some other issues?) and you're projecting this all onto the change of keyworker? Because there really doesn't seem to me that anything has actually happened to cause concern.

Walter No. But to try and do it with other children around, trying to talk to the keyworker and being handed the trousers back along with the child is just a bit odd IMO when they havent done it previously.

Regarding the trouser incident, I bet her dh always puts trousers on her ds lying down and can't do them any other way, My dh is the same. It's very annoying, as I and presumably other people on here can do it anyway required.
But give it a few days and see what else happens.

...Seriously?

He's only there twice a week! Jesus! I know its an AIBU thread but fml, how rude are some of your responses!

It's not odd at all. Why would he stand there and watch the worker do it?

Who has been rude?!

Sorry I can't get past Dh struggling to put his own child's trousers on.

You both sound hard work. Why do you need a blow by blow progress report every day?

I think YABU.

It's possible the keyworker was told to keep the conversation short if you rang. Perhaps the last one warned her that you want detailed conversations when they're supposed to be looking after the kids?

Why do you phone? That's not usual.

Working in the baby room is very different to the toddler room (I have worked in both) parents generally expect a lot more personal relationship in the baby room and a lot more detail in daily reports. I expect the nursery worker is just not used to bring in the baby room yet.. Give her a chance.

YABU. I'm not sure why you would phone every day but even if you did how did the new key worker know you'd want such a detailed response? Also, I don't know how many children are in the nursery but if it's a typical staffing ratio then it makes sense for your DH to put DCs trousers on doesn't it so the key worker can deal with the many other children they're in charge of.

YABU, wouldn't you rather they did what you pay them for-care for your child, rather than chat to you on the phone every day?
The trousers thing really is a non issue.