to be miffed at nursery?

[mrsnlw2012]

Following on from an earlier thread where DS' keyworker will be swapping rooms with a worker from the toddelr room (who will become his keyworker) she had her first day in the baby room with him yesterday. When I usually call to see how he's getting on I'm told how he is, what he's been upto/ate/drank/slept etc and feel really happy with that. I called yesterday and the new keyworker answered and just said "yep, he's fine" and didnt divulge anything else. I was a bit taken aback and just finished the call. Afterwards I thought "No, I want to know how he is (and book his parents evening)" so I called back to one of the usual workers answered and I got the usual update as to how he had been.

I thought maybe she was just busy and brushed it off. I got home last night and mentioned it it DH who wasn't impressed. He said when he got there, the keyworker was changing DS and handed DS back to DH without any trousers on and handed him the trousers too so DH had to struggle to put them on in the nursery room. Previously when DS had been in the middle of being changed when DH arrives, the keyworker/other workers would dress him fully.

AIBU that Im not happy with this sudden change? Should we just see how it goes or mention something?

Why would you keep calling? what's the point. It ties up staff unnecessarily. If there's a problem they'd call.

and good brief at being annoyed at having to dress your own.kid. pick up/drop off times are busy..if your there then you should just sort your own kid out. Mr them. hey on with comforting the next lot who may need a bit of a cuddle when mummy or daddy leaves

allison there are 3 works and 6 kids.

The changing station is in an entirely separate room

Why do you phone? The keyworker probably wants to discourage this as the are busy er looking after babies? Get a report at the end of the day like everyone else.

Oh and we had many parents who called every day.. not that unusual.

Who's been rude?

Bit of an extreme response there, OP ~ though it does give an insight into what the nursery staff might be required to tolerate from you

I'm still wondering exactly what your concerns are here.

Don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you.

FTR YABVU

Let them get on

You are making yourself look like a loon. Hth.

Classy.

Is there a reason that you call when he's there? I think YABU, why would a dad 'struggle' with his child's trousers.

You all jumped down my throat asking why i call. Perhaps my child has health issues you dont know about. Perhaps the nursery encourage me to call. Perhaps I just call because I am a Mum who loves her son.

Fuck off with the mummy working guilt bullshit. I presume that poster either doesnt work or doesnt give a shit how their child is getting on in the day and just has no thought whatsoever about their child whilst in someone elses care.

Cross-posted with the OP's charming "fuck off".

Get it now ~ you're THAT parent of a PFB.

Good luck with nursery ~ and god help you when he starts school!

Yabu a yep ok he's fine, would be good for me. Do they not have communication books which they write these things in, I know at my friends daughters nursery they do.

for using the lords name in vain.

YABU she was probably busy and I do not see the need for you to call every day anyway.

As for the trousers, really? Your oh is miffed because he had to put his own son's trousers on?

Well aren't you a lovely lady! You know what? You are so unreasonable and rude. No doubt the nursery dread your daily phone calls about your darling child and have told the workers how to handle you so they aren't having to spend five minutes on the phone when they should be doing their job.

Blimey responses are a bit harsh!!!!!!!

Perhaps dchild is the baby jesus. What would baby jesus think of your behaviour op? Tssk

Or course all the other Mums who decide not to tie up the staff with detailed conversations, don't love their children at all.

Right...

It sounds like you feel that the care your DS receives at nursery has changed with the change in keyworker, YANBU to feel worried/ uncomfortable about that. Is it possible for you to speak to the manager and clarify what they consider reasonable re: phonecalls, etc?
About the trousers, I can imagine that if I was handed DS and a pair of trousers I'd sort of try to put them on while standing holding him, and it would be awkward. Whereas if he was on a changing table already it would have been easier for the staff member just to finish the job.
Hope you get it sorted so that you feel comfortable with leaving him there

OP:- AIBU?

All of us:- Yes, and a bit bonkers

OP:- fuck you all, a plague on all your households

All of us:- Bahahahahahahah

I love these threads!

Genuine question, does you child have a health issue? I very much love my children but I don't call their care providers while I'm in work, but I may do if there was an issue?

But calling the nursery doesn't make you love your child more than a parent that doesn't!!

Aero I find the communication diary is quite brief tbf and I get quite a bit more info (for example on one occassion they said something about how he had banged his head and had a mark but nothing was in the book)