to be miffed at nursery?

[mrsnlw2012]

Following on from an earlier thread where DS' keyworker will be swapping rooms with a worker from the toddelr room (who will become his keyworker) she had her first day in the baby room with him yesterday. When I usually call to see how he's getting on I'm told how he is, what he's been upto/ate/drank/slept etc and feel really happy with that. I called yesterday and the new keyworker answered and just said "yep, he's fine" and didnt divulge anything else. I was a bit taken aback and just finished the call. Afterwards I thought "No, I want to know how he is (and book his parents evening)" so I called back to one of the usual workers answered and I got the usual update as to how he had been.

I thought maybe she was just busy and brushed it off. I got home last night and mentioned it it DH who wasn't impressed. He said when he got there, the keyworker was changing DS and handed DS back to DH without any trousers on and handed him the trousers too so DH had to struggle to put them on in the nursery room. Previously when DS had been in the middle of being changed when DH arrives, the keyworker/other workers would dress him fully.

AIBU that Im not happy with this sudden change? Should we just see how it goes or mention something?

Op not read the whole thread however, you are i imagine paying lots ££££ for this, who pays piper and all that.

you have every right to a quick call. i would be disgusted.

Here's an idea. People could have been nice to the OP who was anxious before she admitted to PND. Just because she was anxious. But glad you are getting more support now OP.

FwIW I don't think it's that unreasonable to wonder why you suddenly get a totally different response from nursery than you are used to.

I mean it's good OP gained some perspective but she could have been told gently.anyway as long as you are happy that not calling is best thing for you OP and aren't just manning up because AIBU told you to.

• ClumsyNinja Wed 13-May-15 12:28:14

^ this post. child care in uk is known for being expensive and crap its a service your paying for. many in the care for vulnerable people should remember this

Ha. Well I called and got the new keyworker. She did offer a little more info than a "fine" and I just asked how had his nappies been etc (as he had a complete pooplosion the last few times) I also suggested that perhaps when we have his parents evening next week with his existing keyworker, that she might like to join in too so we can meet her and she meet us (instead of just in passing) and have a chat etc. I was MUCH happier with the conversation with her today

That's great :)

I am glad it is working out better for you

Mrs, your thread has made me cry.

At first I agreed that you were horrible and rude (and you were), but I so get why you were.

I've just recently gone through the same. It was such a sinking feeling when I realised that I don't recognise myself. That the things I was doing were not me. Iyswim?

I was told by a psychologist that I basically have 'double' depression. My usual, chronic one and adjustment depression on top of that. Maybe you're the same? I know it's not technically correct, but maybe you have your normal depression and PND ontop? I'm not sure if this is making any sense or making you feel any better, but I wanted to tell you that I understand.

And although I don't agree with phoning the nursery every day, I don't think you should torture yourself and not do it (maybe just be a little happier with less info .

Sort the depression(s) out first, then you can tackle the anxiety and need to call.

Now, I'll trundle off and try and sort my own life out. You have quite inspired me.

mrsnlw2012 apologies, just caught up on the whole thread really glad theres a light at the end of the tunnel.

hi there OP.. I was coming on to say I thought you had been given a tough time yesterday...its a long time since my two were at nursery, but I used to love phoning up to find out how they'd been, and in one job I had, the nursery was next door so I could go in at lunch and WATCH THEM ON CCTV!!! AND I WASN'T THE ONLY ONE!!!

If you're feeling over anxious, then it's great to try and relax with it a bit, but it's not abnormal to miss your children and to think about them so please don't feel you 'can't' ring, just that you 'don't have to'. xxxx

Also it's not unsual to be peed off that the nursery worker didn't complete the changing job.. I wouldn't have expected to have been handed the trousers either!!!