Aibu to phone Jo Jingles leader who has started to blatently exclude & ignore my 2 year old, help me plan my approach:(

[indiana7]

My dd has been going to JJ since she was a baby & adores the classes so much , she has all the cds, the doll, talks about the classes & the leader constantly
However over the past few weeks the leader has taken an obvious dislike towards her & it's very obvious. My dd is extremely outgoing & loves to run up at the start of class with "her news" etc. She answers all the questions the leader asks but leader ignores dd & waits for someone else to answer & pretends they were they were the first to, always makes dd(who sits & waits patiently) wait until last for her instrument, then compliments other child on their "great waiting"! DD went for her nap their say X never heard me telling her the animals names, did I tell her loudly enough?( Dd is extremely articulate for age) then started crying saying X doesn't like me

It is breaking my heart, I was furious leaving the class as my dd was the only child that the leader didn't play with under the parachute, dd went over to where she was & sat beside her & she turned her back on her

I have had plenty of run ins with passive aggressive people throughout my life & have never stood up for myself. However I feel I have to fight dd's corner as she loves Jo Jingles & there is nothing else around here either for her to go to. Dd is so confident(something I never & still don't have) & I don't want that knocked out of her. Should I phone her & what do I say?

Ps leaving the class today another mom randomly commented to me "she does have her favourites doesn't she"

OP please come back and give us an update

I don't think your dd sounds like hard work or pushy at all.
It's hard to see your child upset, and totally natural to want to protect them from that.

The harsh comments on here are uncalled for IMO

If she were my child I too would say something to the leader. I can't believe how so many posters are trying to shame the OP into just accepting the situation by saying they 'cringe' for her. How patronising!

There's no way your little girl at age 2 has picked up on this unless you've said something.

There's no way your little girl at age 2 has picked up on this unless you've said something

Just what I thought! I really think that the OP will look back at this in a year or two and cringe.

I think this kind if overthinking and over investing in your children, particularly at such a young age doesn't bode well for the future, and is rather unhealthy. Maybe the OP should find a hobby/ job.

It would be interesting to know whether, if the OP did call the leader, she gave any excuse for the behaviour?

Marynary
"I only suggested that a teacher might be biased and was wondering if you are one."

So only a teacher would be biased?

We are all extrapolating based on the OP, if you consider me biased because I believe that the leader was making someone take a turn then fine.

grannytomine

Its been going on a few weeks and the OP's child has been going since she was born, hardly a long time.

We are at an impasse, I believe that the leader is trying to share out her time, you believe that she is deliberately ignoring a child.