To ask why we can't have a sex board?

[paintedfences]

We have one for everything else under the sun after all.!

But every time anyone says anything to do with sex in Chat or AIBU it gets a suspicious response. Couldn't we just have one that's not accessible unless you're a logged in user?

I'm not sure MN have the woman power to spend hours a day constantly monitoring a sex forum.

Because, sadly, that's what it would need. MN, because it's so well known, would attract so many stupid, deliberately goady or pervy troll posters hoping to entice women to talk about various aspects of sex that the board would need pretty much 24/7 moderation and MN just aren't set up for that. MN relies on a strong element of self moderation and user reporting, which just isn't going to be enough if we have a separate area essentially signposted "perves and journos trying to anonymously trawl for "oh my god how disgusting" stories over here"!

It's different for a lot of other forums who don't have the media profile MN does.

I think a lot of us are now so cynical troll-wise that our responses would be sex bored to anything posted on the sex board.

I frequent reddit/r/sex and it's very adult and a lot of amazing advice is given there. Also their relationships board is much better than mumsnet, as they don't say "ltb" over every little thing.

YANBU I'd love a sex board here, but I'm more comfortable posting on reddit as people seem to be more adult and don't judge or take the piss.

Reddit is full of idiots.

Pressed send too soon. there's a lot of kinky people out there, for example myself, who wouldn't be able to post on mumsnet for fear of people clutching their pearls. on there it's a lot better. There's no one that will tell you you're disgusting for watching porn as long as it's legal & not ruining your life.. There's no one that will tell you that your kinks are vile. they have on here.

yeah but actually read the threads. There are people on there with genuine problems and get genuine answers. I asked them to give me some good books to learn another language, and now I'm well underway. I asked them what I should do about problems in the bedroom, they gave me great advice. They're lovely people, some of who I know in real life.

Sounds perfect. Use Reddit for sex related stuff if they are better for it.

Every parenting board I have ever been on has managed it well without trolls, pervs etc.

If people have to post for say three months before being allowed access and the board was not viewable on the forum descriptions to newer members then I doubt very much people would join just for the sex board when they won't even know it exists. There are many open forums they would go to first.

And yes, there might be a small risk that it ends up on the Daily Mail but as we are adults I guess people can choose to take that risk if they want.

I am not obsessed with sex, not even a little. I suffer with a low sex drive which is one of the reasons a board to discuss this would be good, so these issues can be discussed in greater detail without posters coming on clutching their pearls or accusing people of trolling.

From some of the replies here you can see that people do look down their noses at those who want to discuss sex and assume that they are obsessed with sex or want to share great details of their sex life. Some might want to talk about how great they are at blowjobs while others (and probably most), want a space where they can ask questions about a sex problem without the pearl clutches and troll accusations.

This is the only forum I have been on that has this weird opinion that talking about sex is strange. On every other forum it has not been full of pervs, but people discussing problems or asking for advice.

Yay! I'm glad MNHQ are thinking about it. Done sensibly it really won't present much of a problem imo.

If there is a sex forum bit, could it then be divided into several different sub-boards?

Boring
Kinky
Pervy
Equipment
Benedict Cucumberbatch fantasies

I feel quite torn.

I feel quite torn

See, that's the kind of thing you could talk about on the Sex Board!

Ouch!

And a fisting sub-board for Linerunner.

Thank you.

I thought I may have been too subtle there, but you never let me down.

Line

Perfect example of how to stealth boast on a sex thread

Some of you are breathtakingly naive about how the internet works.

MN is such a large, prominent website that it will become even more of a target for trolls who are looking for this kind of material.

Never mind the media.

And no matter what kind of controls MNHQ set in place, it will never work. There will always be people who post their sex questions in Chat or AIBU 'for the traffic'.

I can see that people might want to talk about sex - but can you not already do this in Relationships, or Off The Beaten Track?

Yes

Another board... maybe a purge of the ones that hardly get used at the same time?

Is it like a surf board?
Or is that where you hop from one to another?

DH has a dart board and I have a pin board . He does not use my pin board and I am not interested in his dart board. Neither of us are interested in the ironing board we share. I don't see why MN shouldn't have a sex board. And we can all choose to be interested and look at it, or not and ignore it.

But trolls are trolls - who gives an arse what they do? Because some trolls will start threads to get people to disclose inmate details so they can get their rocks off.

And it can be quite damaging to those who disclosed, so I think we DO need to "give an arse" what the trolls do!

Same here, LineRunner!