To ask why we can't have a sex board?

[paintedfences]

We have one for everything else under the sun after all.!

But every time anyone says anything to do with sex in Chat or AIBU it gets a suspicious response. Couldn't we just have one that's not accessible unless you're a logged in user?

Net mums has one

queentroutoftrouts Tue 28-Apr-15 23:36:53
Net mums has one

Thats hardly a ringing endorsement.

Oh dear if there is to be a sex board those that don't want to talk about their sex lives don't have to read and take part!
It seems you can ask about lots of things on mn but for some bringing up sex is too much!

I am a grown woman and have questions and thoughts I'd rather not share with my friends.

Am I weird

Questions:-

How to get into bondage?
What is the best site for sex toys?
How often do you have sex ?
Is it ok to have sex with a baby in the room?
What's your favourite position?
How to spice things up in the bedroom?
What is your fetish?
Do you want porn ?
Any one into BDSM?

Am I missing anything

oh yes for the sex board, and I like the same sex health. I also agree with the idea that is takes a while to have access to that board, it may not prevent all trolls, but a good amount.
I second LucyBabs I like to learn about sex, but I don't talk about it besides with DP in RL and I'm not going to google my questions as I don't want to get some freaky results.

not the same sex health, the name sex health

There's a wealth of advice on mn on a wide range of subjects.. Why is sex so different aside from the troll issue?

Trolls don't have half as much fun on sites like Lovehoney though. The real pervs get their kicks from imagining they are discomforting the mothers of Middle England, or getting them to unwittingly share intimate information.

Tbh, I'd prefer to steer clear of the subject in its nitty-gritty with all its stealth boast potential. Where it crops up in the natural course of life, be it humorously or in the context of sincerely needing advice, I think it can be catered for already with the topics we have now.

I agree there should be a sex board. Why not? If you don't want to use it, then don't. More questions people might ask, things I have discussed with friends but not everyone is comfortable discussing irl.

-Do you need to use lube? What is the best brand?
-If you get very wet during sex, how do you deal with it? Can you wipe off in front of dp, or do you make him look away/leave the room to do it?
-What can make sex on top easier when you have short legs?
-Is it normal that dp is still errect when we finish, and he has ejaculated? Or should he stay in until he goes soft?
-Best positions for smaller/larger/thicker/thinner penises?
-During doggy style, should you move too?
-Do you use sex toys while having sex or just on your own? Does your dp have a favourite sex toy or aid he would recommend?
-Is make up sex the most passionate sex? --Do you ever go straight from an argument to sex?
-Do you mind tasting your own ahem, juice, off dp? Say he's been licking down there then kisses you?
-Do you ever find kissing during sex a turn off, but other times you can't get enough of it?

Argree it seems weird to have a ttc board but not a sex one...

Stealth boast potential?

All of those are topics that have been or could be discussed. Corralling them into one topic on a site as well-known as mumsnet would be more wankfodder than any mainstream site could administratively cope with. Even Cosmopolitan makes its users wade through Vogue recommendations.

yanbu. I've never thought about it but it is weird a site as big as mn doesn't have one

I think it's a brilliant idea. I'd be able to hide it.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=OZCIKjYDf1g why has this thread reminded me of this?

I see no issue with a sex board.

I think all the questions could be asked in Relationships TBH. Will be interesting to see what MNHQ decide to do. Agree if Netmums have one that doesn't mean anything.

I've thought about it & I think it's a good idea. The relationships board mainly covers emotional stuff, plus problems with friends, family members etc, basically anyone you have a 'relationship' with. So yes, It would be good to have a specific area where you can talk purely about sex issues.

Oh god yes please MNHQ please can we have a sex board?

Then I can happily hide the whole fucking topic and let other people carry on discussing all aspects of their sex lives with anyone with access to the Internet and answering all those burning questions up thread whilst I happily ignore it.

And....why on earth would MNHQ name one of the posters that reported this thread on the thread?
Aren't we supposed to be able to report anonymously?

Thanks Tantrums in my defence I put in my report 'Would you like to comment?' not anything like 'Oh FFS the Sexperts want a topic now'. Just to make that clear.

You're a better person than me sparking because I would have put FFS the sexperts want a topic

People are fully entitled to want to discuss every detail of their sex life with thousands of anonymous strangers if they wish.
The same way I am fully entitled to not actually want to read it.

But what would it cover?

If a poster is worried about porn use by a partner does that go in the sex topic?

If a poster is self conscious about lack of interest by a partner?

What about worries after childbirth?

Do these threads have to sit side by side with the "I'm so up for it all the time, listen to me talk about my orgasms"?

Would a genuine worry not get the same advice as they do now because people might hide the section and if they posted elsewhere would they be told that there's a sex topic and ignored/moved?

Sexual Health is an obvious one, clearly info about sti's and post menopause / childbirth would be useful. What category would cover the rest that aren't relationship based, Sex Tips? The boast Zone? The Wahey thigh rubbing topic?

It would probably need sub topics within the Sex Topic. General Health covers everything Health already.

Noeuf I like that.

We could have amazing threads like:

'Top 10 lists to go over in your head whilst boffing'

'That crack in the ceiling. It is getting bigger isn't it?'

'AIBU to be thinking about how lovely Anthony Head is whilst my DH is humping away?'

Net mums has one

Really? I thought they were supposed to be really prim over there.
and yet they have a sex board?

And....why on earth would MNHQ name one of the posters that reported this thread on the thread
Aren't we supposed to be able to report anonymously?

I got reported on here for offering someone a biscuit once! so nothing surprises me.

I belong on a board that has a sex forum. There are no sex trolls there as it is tightly managed. You have to be a member for a certain period of time etc which cuts down on a lot of problems.

I like discussing sex at times. There is very much a vibe on MN that if you discuss sex you are odd. Fine if you don't want to discuss sex but nothing wrong with those who do.

And I wouldn't go into great details about my sex life and I pretty sure people don't want the board so they can talk about the great shag they had last night, but to maybe ask questions without risking members accusing them of being trolls or telling them it is weird to talk about sex.

It seems simple to me. Those who don't like it don't have to read it. Those who want to talk about sex have a place to do so free from people commenting and looking down their noses at them.