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To ask why we can't have a sex board?

207 replies

paintedfences · 28/04/2015 20:47

We have one for everything else under the sun after all.!

But every time anyone says anything to do with sex in Chat or AIBU it gets a suspicious response. Couldn't we just have one that's not accessible unless you're a logged in user?

OP posts:
likalixer · 29/04/2015 08:52

Can we have a Bored Sex board for those of us just going through the motions before Casualty starts?

A person after my own heart! Grin

lionheart · 29/04/2015 08:55

It would be the first stop for certain reporters.

likalixer · 29/04/2015 09:01

Agree, Lionheart.
As much as I would love one (sex board) I can't see it working, as the ones who love to report, for the hell of it, would be reporting people every 5 seconds.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 29/04/2015 09:06

I'd be up for it providing it was supportive.

EuphemiaCoxton · 29/04/2015 09:06

The things I learn on here! How to make my toothbrush into a vibrator, pegging, and lovehoney.
A teeny tiny perverted streak of me would like to peep at love honey but the rest of me is scared I will never be able to forget what I see

EuphemiaCoxton · 29/04/2015 09:13

Ok. Perverted streak won. Seen worse in amsterdam. Hmmmm. Anal beads, a cock ring and clitoral clamps (?????????????) At 3 for a tenner.
That's not bad value actually
goes back to searching for socks I can wear under loafers

AmyElliotDunne · 29/04/2015 09:17

Those saying we should talk about it with our friends, wtf?! I can just imagine me and my DF on the school run or sitting over a nice cup of tea and biscuits asking each other questions about our sex lives while surrounded by five children.

My closest friend will cover her ears and say (ooh TMI!) if she even gets a hint that DP and I have been having nooky of a lunchtime. How am I supposed to discuss the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of what we get up to when the mere sight of my messy bed hair is enough to have her clutching her pearls!?

Not everyone has access to open-minded friends who are willing to discuss things like this, whereas MN is full of people who are willing to discuss and advise about all sorts of things.

I'd love to chat about certain things we get up to so that I can get reassurance that I'm not weird or un-feminist for enjoying various practices, but I know that as soon as you start trying to get people to talk about sex, certain posters will jump in and start talking about boasting or TMI and try to shut down the discussion.

We're grown ups FFS, it would be nice to be able to discuss sex in the same way we do relationships, there are plenty of upsetting threads with people in terrible relationships, not even planning on leaving them while they put up with all sorts of crap. Why anyone would find reading about someone's sex life more disturbing than those I can't imagine.

Psipsina · 29/04/2015 09:19

No, I don't want people who are obsessed with sex to have a legitimate space.

Everyone else manages just fine with relationships, chat or general health.

usualsuspect333 · 29/04/2015 09:24

If you want to find your comments about your sex life featured in the Daily Mail then fill your boots.

ghostyslovesheep · 29/04/2015 09:27

Well at least if there was a sex board you could avoid it!

It could be sponsored by Nancy Friday Hmm

ghostyslovesheep · 29/04/2015 09:29

Oh and I think it was reported to bring it MN's attention not for nasty reasons

BreacaBoudica · 29/04/2015 09:30

Why would anyone object? You don't HAVE to read all the boards - god only knows how many there are that I have never visited and will never visit... good idea I think.

Sparklingbrook · 29/04/2015 09:36

It was ghosty. I thought as it was posted in AIBU MNHQ would never see it unless someone reported so I brought it to their attention. they sat they will have a think. So all sorted.

As usual and lionheart say, if you want to find your sex life the subject of a hilarious piece on the Wright Stuff and Loose Women it would be great. Lazy reporters trawl MN daily for anything and everything, they would have a field day.

We could have Penis Beaker type mockery every single week....

likalixer · 29/04/2015 09:41

Sparkling, the Wright Stuff have featured two programs in the last week, with discussions that I suspect, have been lifted from MN.

I wonder if their researchers trawl through here eyes everybody suspiciously

Sparklingbrook · 29/04/2015 09:44

They really do likalixer the one about the ten year old bathing with their Mum last week was actually screenshot along with the replies-nicknames and all.

LikeIcan · 29/04/2015 09:50

But you're not posting under your real name are you, so even if it ends up in the daily mail ( & that would be rare ) so what? you're anonymous on here. And as for trolls, you'd probably get less trolling on the sex board than you get on relationships/ feminism/ AIBU/ & a few other boards.

Sparklingbrook · 29/04/2015 09:53

It's not that it's the 'Ooh look at the MN lot again talking about sex'. The Daily Mail use MN all the time for articles.

Mass name changing for talking about sex doesn't sound great troll-wise.

Anyway MNHQ will decide.....

likalixer · 29/04/2015 09:54

Yes, there was the bath one, andthere was also one a few days ago, which I think was based on a recent thread: 'Do you think jealousy is endemic in the UK' all about buy to let and renting in general.

usualsuspect333 · 29/04/2015 09:55

Some posters on here have already had pervy PMs. A sex board would only encourage that sort of thing imo.

Psipsina · 29/04/2015 09:57

It would bring in the wrong sort of customers in a big way.

Like we don't already have a problem with that Sad

Sparklingbrook · 29/04/2015 09:57

I would envisage a flurry of males joining to 'assist' the poor MN women with their sex questions.

Psipsina · 29/04/2015 10:05

Oh God yes you're right Sparkling. It happens anyway but would make it a lot more prevalent.

RabidFairy · 29/04/2015 10:10

I think this thread proves it would be a good idea to have a sex board. The responses seem somewhere between making jokes and eye rolling, which is exactly what happens when a sex related question is asked in chàt or relationships.
I see no harm in setting one up, so I hope mnhq come back soon post-conflab with a response!

Sparklingbrook · 29/04/2015 10:12

Perhaps there could be a trial? See how many that want one and would actually use it?

EponasWildDaughter · 29/04/2015 11:05

I'm amazed at all the snotty 'sexpert' 'sex obsessed comments Shock Sex is just another subject.

I feel like i've fallen into the 1940s with all this 'what is there to say?' and 'why on earth would you want to talk about your sex life?' cats bum faced comments. It all sounds like my (totally unapproachable) mum!

I really don't understand the troll panic either. What does it matter who's reading your anonymous words on a screen? There'll be 'weirdos' reading MN already.

It's sad to think that when posters start a sex related thread at the moment so many are turning their nose up. I didn't know it was like that.

It seems we do need a special board.

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