AIBU to be uncomfortable with friends getting naked on holiday??

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We're due to go to Spain in June with another family to a shared villa with a pool. Both families have 2 dd, roughly aged 12 and 14. The other day my friend mentioned that she and her husband like to sunbathe and swim naked when on holiday. I'm sure my horrified face gave away my reaction to that comment! AIBU to ask that they wear swimsuits around the pool area?

You could always give it a shot?

Just tell your daughters to snigger. That should do it.

She was winding you up.....wasn't she?

Yeah I wouldn't be impressed with that and I think 12 and 14 year old girls will likely feel uncomfortable.

You can't know them very well then, I'm guessing, if this has only just come up?

Neither of you are being unreasonable really but I wouldn't be comfortable with that at all. I think you need to have a frank and open conversation about it and either come to a compromise or don't go on holiday with them.

As someone who burns after ten minutes in the sun, I certainly won't be exposing my delicate areas!

Friend wasn't joking, she went on to tell me about several other holidays spent in blissful nudity. I've nothing against others doing what they want if they're on their own, but I really don't want to see it.

My daughters will be horrified - my eldest says 'ugh, gross' if she catches even a glimpse of me getting out of the shower!

I would have pissed myself laughing, surely it was a joke.
You should invite her round and say how you have wanted to see Mr Friend naked ask loads of questions about the size of his cock while rubbing your thighs and salivating.

You're going to have to say to her that you would not be happy for them to be nude around you or your daughters, so if that's going to be a problem for them, maybe you should look into separate accommodation.

Ugh gross Id probably cancel....

Haha omg nightmare. I would hate this. Sympathies!

I'd cancel. I couldn't bear the thought of seeing my friend's DH's balls pool-side when I'm trying to relax.

Being naked in your own family is one thing, being naked when another family is there is quite another. Particularly when there are teenagers around.

If they want to sunbathe naked, they need their own villa

She's winding you up

Daughters 12 and 14 - all joking aside, you have to say, NOW, and straight up, that you are utterly not ok with either of them being naked in front of your children and if that can't be agreed on, then you need to change your plans.

Or tell them that that's fine, but as long as they both realise that you will be recording the daily holiday diary for extensive exposure on your popular blog 'The Trials of Middle Age'. If you can mention that it gets quite a few 'likes' from either his or her workplace that should help too.

There is no way that they would believe that anyone would automatically find daily nudity in front of non family members to be the norm. Which begs the question, why did they not mention it sooner?

That's an absolute deal breaker, and I'm a bit about the friend and their motives as a consequence. Not in a sinister way I hasten to add, but it would appear that your shared holiday has been arranged under false pretences, possibly for cost reasons.

I really wouldn't trust them to stick with any pending agreement to stay clothed, given the deception that has already taken place. I suspect if you went ahead, at best you would spend your week on edge, while they seethed because they couldn't strip off as normal.

What would be the financial implications should you pull out?

why are you going in term time?

Seriously, I'd cancel and ask for my money back (and I speak as someone who went topless a few times in my early days - cringe). That's completely inappropriate. Just ridiculous. If you can't afford to cancel, call her now and tell her in no uncertain terms that you absolutely do not want them naked around you or your family. If they're so 'alternative' and keen on being naked, they should have booked a villa on their own. Nutters.

What kind of a grown man think it's appropriate to get naked around teenage girls??? Creep alert.

i would cut my losses and cancel.

are they scandinavian/german? if so, totally normal to go around naked in the sun. whole families do it. relax.... it's just bodies...

but clearly your families are incompatible regarding a villa holiday with private pool.

Bullshit what the fuck's it got to do with you?

What's the date of the holiday got to do with it?

I wouldn't be happy either, you need to talk to her.

What's that got to do with you bullshit? Sheesh

I'm going on holiday with my family in June - it's the start of summer holidays for some of us in Scotland...

You need to make it clear that you were not aware they partook of the naked sunbathing and that you and yours are not comfortable with it. Otherwise, insist that her husband cooks every meal on a charcoal BBQ... Once he burns 'that' sausage he might change his mind

Holiday is in July, typed June by mistake. I have already said to her that we're not comfortable with them letting it all hang out by the pool (ESPECIALLy with the kids there) and that swimsuits are mandatory, but I can see that she thinks I'm the unreasonable one!

SylvaniansAtEase I do actually have a blog so that could be a good card to play!!!