AIBU to be uncomfortable with friends getting naked on holiday??

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We're due to go to Spain in June with another family to a shared villa with a pool. Both families have 2 dd, roughly aged 12 and 14. The other day my friend mentioned that she and her husband like to sunbathe and swim naked when on holiday. I'm sure my horrified face gave away my reaction to that comment! AIBU to ask that they wear swimsuits around the pool area?

Pyjamas - read my first post for the answer

"are they scandinavian/german? if so, totally normal to go around naked in the sun. whole families do it. relax.... it's just bodies..."

cestlavie, I'm Scandinavian. I know of nobody who would do this or find it normal. You've fallen for a 1960's kliche, I'm afraid.

OP, there's a reason there are special beaches and holiday camps for naturists. It's because most non-naturists are uncomfortable with seeing other people's genitals. You're normal, they're totally unreasonable.

Sorry read the first 4 and last page can't find it.

It's still a gross and creepy couple from me.

If you read the thread or at least the OP's post from last night where they said-
the plan is still to go. The kids are all really looking forward to it. My friend really wouldn't like to think that anyone would be uncomfortable so it'll be swimsuits all round.

you will see that it has all been sorted anyway....

Oh yes sparkling have seen that and glad it's sorted for the op.

But in general it's bloody wierd.

We have a rule that we never holiday with friends. You never know how people are until you holiday with them.

Op I would still be keeping an eye on that bloke. They both sound very creepy.

What crime is the Naked Rambler constantly in jail for then?
Read the link!

OP, I seriously hope that you have a good holiday, and all goes well. However, I'm afraid I don't believe for a minute that they are going to keep theit clothes on in front of you and your children.
Good luck. Think you're going to need it with these weirdos!

Whore, I'm not 'a nudist' and do not particularly wish to be seen as a 'free spirit'*. But neither am I an exhibitionist or unsavoury.

nudity in front of people who are not your immediate family just isn't part of our culture. So obviously it's not considered acceptable in most people's minds.

Sorry but you just can't say 'most people's minds'. Unless you've done a survey of the whole of the UK? And there's a whole discussion to be had about whether norms like public nudity or no public nudity come about because people genuinely don't find them acceptable, or because they've not been seen as acceptable, which is a different thing.

a bloke showing his knob to young teenage girls
This is really fucking offensive. As are the terms on here like 'parading about naked'. Is it so hard to understand that some people just like to swim/sunbathe with nothing on? Must people really keep saying that these individuals have some hidden agenda or unsavoury urges?

Frankly all these kind of comments are much more troubling than the idea of someone sunbathing naked. You all just come across as prurient.

I think if you take this thread as a 'survey' the majority are in the 'no that's not on' camp.

I don't know anyone in RL who would say they thought it was ok to do what OP's friends wanted to do.

This is definitely something they should have mentioned when you decided to book the holiday together.
It seems odd that she's a good enough friend to go on holiday with but not a good enough friend to have told you this before or discussed this before.
I am fairly sure any friends I like enough to go on holiday with (I would have to like them a lot) would not have never discussed this sort of thing before.

And FYI, maybe in the UK, nudism is not illegal (but very skeptical), but in France, if you forget the bottom, you get written up. And in Corsica, if you are male and naked on a public beach, with children around... Well, you get dressed in black and blue.

How could you take this thread as a survey when the strong language of disgust and sinister nature of nakedness in the open, could and would put people off saying that they dont find anything offensive about people being naked.
The accusing tone of don't you think there is something wrong with a person showing their genitals?, would put a lot of people of saying they were comfortable with nakedness, just in case they are then attacked fornot seeing the situation as sexual.

I have just ignored all those sort of posts ivy. I may be a prude for not wanting to see friends in the buff but to say it's anything other than awkward and embarrassing is just bonkers.

I have no idea why people think it's sexual.

I don't think nudity is unnatural or automatically sexual. I do think it's private though.

I wouldn't want to be on holiday with nudists, but I realise that that is due to my own body hang ups. Some of the posts on here are really offensive, even to me, let alone nudists. Open your minds people and stop making yourself look like dicks (pun intended).

I have no idea why it would be awkward or embarrassing to see friends named. I have seen friends naked and haven't felt either emotions, they are people and have bodies. Maybe some people do feel these emotions for various reasons - but that doesn't make them bonkers anymore than it would make me bonkers for not.

I was saying that the sexual thing was bonkers.

Sorry read that wrong then...

Don't worry ivy, I think TBF a lot of this thread is bonkers. Now the Op is all sorted I would be best to hide it anyway.

Bit of a bombshell to drop after the booking has been made. Was that an oversight or is it possible they suspected you would be unhappy and hoped you would say 'Oh well, too late to change'?

Worrying at any age, but girls going through puberty are particularly body conscious.

Do they have kids of their own? Do they wander round the house naked in front of them, and visitors, is this just a holiday thing?

And just how secluded is the holiday place? Will the neighbours complain?

I think honesty is the best policy. Just say what you really feel and say that as much as you like them (if you do) and would like to go, you find seeing their bits uncomfortable. If they are nice people they will help you and try to find some sort of solution. At the end of the day it is your life and your choice, nobody can force you to do things you don't want or like. However, If I were you I would ponder on why the sight of human body digust me so much and whether my kids wouldn't be better of learning how the 'normal' body looks like (instead of the fakeness on the telly). Maybe one day they will learn to love their bodies just as they are and not try to make it 'model' perfect.

I enjoy saunas and sunbathing without clothes. I recognise that there is a time and a place for this, and we would never go on a holiday and sunbathe naked if with another family, or indeed a group, if they felt uncomfortable.