AIBU to be uncomfortable with friends getting naked on holiday??

[Notlookingforwardtothis]

We're due to go to Spain in June with another family to a shared villa with a pool. Both families have 2 dd, roughly aged 12 and 14. The other day my friend mentioned that she and her husband like to sunbathe and swim naked when on holiday. I'm sure my horrified face gave away my reaction to that comment! AIBU to ask that they wear swimsuits around the pool area?

Friend seemed quite ok when I requested swimsuits and just laughed about their 'naturist tendencies' (her words!)

I just find it really odd that they didn't discuss this with you before the holiday was booked!

Gosh it wouldn't bother me! I remember going on nudist holidays in my teens and even now being fat as a house with two toddlers I still don't care about nudity.

Maybe try the nudist approach and see how it feels! Liberating ;)

I haven't rtft btw, I'm cleaning :(

I wouldnt want to spend time with naked friends. I think I would feel quite uncomfortable.

have you vetted their swimsuits?
teeny weeny tiny bikini and tight budgie smugglers could be just as [even more] horrifying ...

I wouldn't be going if that's what they are planning to do. Can you have separate villas instead?

Oh no, not another "Naked bodies are disgusting and inappropriate!!!!!!" thread.
If you're frightened of being exposed to human bodies in their normal, natural state then just don't go. Simples.

I wondered when you would be along Sallying.

It's nothing like that at all.

Don't worry Sparkling I'm not going to stay here. No point in arguing the point with closed minds.

Everyone's different that's all Sallying.

Just an idle thought - OP, you say both couples have two DDs, do the other couple's daughters also sunbathe/swim in the nude? Because I'd be surprised if 12-14 year old girls would be all that happy doing this in front of non-family members (if at all!) So if their DDs didn't want to bare all, it would be just your friend and her DH in the nude while everyone else was clothed. It sounds a bit exhibitionist. And worrying.

Love how not wanting an eyeful of your mate's dangling bollocks from your sunlounger is prudish!

I had no idea that MN was a hotbed of naturism :o

I would hate that.

My OH would be mortified at the thought of baring his penis to teenage girls, however "natural" it may be, it's not usual.

My teenage DD would be extremely uncomfortable at a sunbathing man tanning his cock.

I've become slightly distracted by wondering whether a naturist holiday would actually entail seeing the human body in a normal, natural state. Are such things issued to holidaymakers on arrival?

Me, I have a 21st century one that shows distinct signs of having been reared in a manmade environment with 24 hour access to chocolate... On the plus side, I have all my own teeth and various other delights directly attributable to having access to a developed country's medical care.

odd, I don't think it is (I'm not one, for starters). I think some posters just aren't appalled or worried or creeped out by the idea of a couple of people liking to swim and sunbathe nude.

Nothing wrong with a couple swimming and sunbathing nude. If they are alone.

Sparkling, some people are happy to be naked in groups, and not just or even in couples. Different strokes, that's all. It's not for anyone to decree that naked swimming must only be done by a couple alone.

In this case obviously the OP has a problem with it. I and other posters have suggested that they talk about it like grown-ups – rather than the OP encouraging her children to snigger at the naked friends – and come to an agreement about when it's OK for the couple to be naked. That seems like a good solution here.

Have you checked out where the villa is Op it's not hedonism sur mer is it

I would think that anyone into nude swimming/sunbathing would be able to find like minded people to do it with.

Or go somewhere everyone is doing it anyway. Not just assume everyone will be fine with it.

i saw a documentary about Hedonism ages ago. No comment.

I have no problems with being naked at home or on a private holiday- me and DH - but I would not want my friend's foof or friend's husband's willy bobbing round infront of me in a villa holiday.

Well, the very fact that it's been brought up suggests that the friend is open to discussion about it, no? Even if they do think the OP a little odd for being so against it.

And they want to go on holiday with the OP and her family, who they're friends with. Not 'find' some other 'like-minded people'.

I'm quite bemused by this insistence on painting this couple as being 'into it', as though they were part of some weird naked-swimming cult. As far as I can tell, they're just a couple who want to go on holiday, and who like sunbathing nude sometimes. It really isn't that unusual or outrageous.

Hopefully if they are good friends they will respect OP's wishes.

Well, it sounds as though they're going to.

Frankly they sound like better friends than the OP with her 'horrified face' at the very idea.