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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be f*ed off at my husband for buying GTA5?

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Oakmaiden · 14/04/2015 19:56

Yes, yes, I know he is an adult, and I am not his mother, etc.

I also told my nearly 18 year old son that he would never be allowed to play violent and misogynistic games like that in my home.

And now his father has bought it, and I am not pleased. But he, obviously, thinks I am being stupid.

Am I?

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JCDenton · 14/04/2015 23:38

I wasn't saying you were banning it, it's a sentiment that comes across often from MN in general in these threads "I wouldn't allow GTA under my roof".

I would be happy to let my DP consume any (legal) media and discuss it with them afterwards. Why do they like it? Did they find any of it problematic or disgusting? All of it? There have certainly been many films, books and games I enjoyed on the whole but didn't enjoy some of the themes within. GTA is a great example of that.

This article sums it up very well: www.rockpapershotgun.com/2015/03/30/why-i-love-and-hate-gta-v/

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Oakmaiden · 14/04/2015 23:39

I do rather love the "wouldn't have it in my house" posts.

Actually, the only time I mentioned "my" house was when I was relating to the discussion with my son.

Who, you know, can go get his own house if he wants to play it that much.

Or so I thought...

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Oakmaiden · 14/04/2015 23:42

I wasn't saying you were banning it

I may be guilty of reacting to everyone as if they were referencing me in particular, because I don't want to be misunderstood.

I think I am normally quite a reasonable person. So if I am unreasonable about this, I want to be sure that the accusations of unreasonableness I take to heart are actually aimed at me and not at MN in general.

If that makes sense.

As it happens dh has not yet started the game. He is, in fact, watching a Youtube video about someone else playing the game.

I do not understand why people do that.

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 14/04/2015 23:44

Oak Your DH might not even like it. I never really got the fuss about COD.

jellybeans · 14/04/2015 23:45

Yabu its just a game.

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Oakmaiden · 14/04/2015 23:49

That could be my next, AIBU.

AIBU to completely not get why some people watch youtube video of people playing game, rather than playing them themselves.

I get why you might want to have a quick look if you are stuck in a particular place, but just watching them to "pick up tips"?

Very strange behaviour.

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 14/04/2015 23:51

Oak You can also stream your game play live too.

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Oakmaiden · 14/04/2015 23:51
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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 14/04/2015 23:53

So you can make a monumental gameplay cock up and the whole gaming community can watch you do it in real time.

JCDenton · 14/04/2015 23:54

I'm guilty of that, too! I was getting crushed on XCOM and watched a few videos of a guy called BeagleRush who is insanely good and picked up a lot of good stuff. I still watch the one one but he doesn't edit them down to 15 minutes now so it's not a as fun. It's a bit like football or tennis, actually, I'm not much cop at any sport so appreciate what the top players can do all the more.

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Oakmaiden · 14/04/2015 23:55

Actually, you say that. DH used to play a car racing game, and they all used to record themselves playing, and then watch them back and critique to improve their performance next time.

And my husband used to complain bitterly about everything to do with the game because he always lost. Thankfully he did eventually see reason - this was not the first occasion I had to point out to him that he was spending hours preparing to play/playing and reviewing a game he actually really didn't enjoy. And he would be a much happier person if he said to all his friends "No, I don't think I am available this week".

Ohyeah, cos we had to be home by 5pm every Sunday so he could play...

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CoffeeAndBiscuitsPlease · 14/04/2015 23:55

I didn't have time to read all the comments on here, but I don't need to, heard it all before.

YABU. Myself and my partner both play all the GTA games, I've played them since my early teens (although they were less graphic and much more pixelated back then) GTA 5 we both actually found to be thoroughly entertaining and full of laughs. I doubt it is a reflection of the kind of person your OH is just because of the content. We tend not to find anything that isn't real offensive, pretty open minded in humor and content. Everyone is different.

It does seem to be a bit of a pointless question you are asking, as if you don't agree with it no about of people saying YABU will matter, you are likely to side with the people who agree with you.

AgaPanthers · 14/04/2015 23:56

Ooh, you made a lovely Lego cock in Minecraft.

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Oakmaiden · 14/04/2015 23:57

Aga - shhh. My children think it is awesome. :)

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Oakmaiden · 14/04/2015 23:58

I didn't have time to read all the comments on here, but I don't need to, heard it all before.

Course you have.

And yet your opinion is so refreshing different to that offered by anyone else. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

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JCDenton · 15/04/2015 00:00

Ohyeah, cos we had to be home by 5pm every Sunday so he could play...

This is why I don't play online anymore, play a few matches and it becomes an obligation.

CoffeeAndBiscuitsPlease · 15/04/2015 00:01

Oakmaiden

Get a grip. I meant it in terms of I will probably be saying something someone else has said, and that I will probably be responding to the same criticisms I've heard before.

If you go on a MN discussion about games or porn, you get the same responses.

MN seems to be full of people like you who have a sarcasm overload.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 15/04/2015 00:02

I've never played online. Main reason being, I just cant be arsed.

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Oakmaiden · 15/04/2015 00:04

I was more amused by the fact that you apparently "know" exactly what the 5 pages of thread would contain, so much so that you couldn't be bothered to read it, but obviously felt your opinion was going to be different enough to be worth reading.

Not to mention, you apparently already know how I am going to react to the posts on the thread.

Not really much point in posting, then, is there? Oh yeah, that is what you said already...

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JCDenton · 15/04/2015 00:04

I got a touch obsessed with Halo 2 years back but I was 17 so I had the free time to be obsessed!

Nayville · 15/04/2015 00:05

Oh, re the porn thing!

I did laugh at "losing the porn battle"

I have no idea how you could ban a grown man from looking at that

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Oakmaiden · 15/04/2015 00:08

You know nothing about me. You haven't rtft. You make assumptions about how I am going to react. And then you call me names.

Charming.

So pleased to meet you.

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Oakmaiden · 15/04/2015 00:12

Nay - it was not so much a battle as a discussion met with complete incomprehension. I gave up.

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Oakmaiden · 15/04/2015 00:13

Plus, I was beginning to feel all good natured and cheery. And now it has all gone away. :(

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