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Original poster

To wonder why parents let their children go out dressed inappropriately

311 replies

Twoplus3 · 10/04/2015 17:36

Now I know the weather is warning up, and you expect to see chidkren in shorts, t shirts, skirts etc etc but why oh why do parents allow children, I'm talking Young children age 8-9-10 go out dressed in belly tops and shorts that are that short they are exposing some of their bum? It really grates me as surely young girls should not be going round dressed like this, it's inapropriate imo and I wouldn't dream of letting my own daughter walk round in such a state.

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GraysAnalogy · 10/04/2015 17:36

Here we go

Marmaladedandelions · 10/04/2015 17:37

Hate it when boys of any age take their tops off.

Original poster
Twoplus3 · 10/04/2015 17:37

Here we go....I'm just asking a question.

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Sirzy · 10/04/2015 17:38

I had a belly top when I was about that age, was about the only time in my life I was comfy wearing something like that. I don't think it has done much lasting harm to me

GaryBaldy · 10/04/2015 17:39

Why shouldn't they be going out dressed like that?

Why is it inappropriate?

Sparklingbrook · 10/04/2015 17:39

Let me just put the kettle on....

CaptainAnkles · 10/04/2015 17:39

It's disappointing that clothes manufacturers make inappropriate clothing in children's sizes really. Agree re boys without tops as well. No reason unless you're at a pool or a beach to be topless.

GraysAnalogy · 10/04/2015 17:40

Why is it inappropriate, that's what you need to be asking yourself

GraysAnalogy · 10/04/2015 17:40

sparkling i've got the cheesecake out after that last thread...

Sparklingbrook · 10/04/2015 17:41

I'll get the cake forks Grays.....

WorraLiberty · 10/04/2015 17:41

Inappropriate for what?

Skiing?

Mountain climbing?

Horse riding?

CaptainAnkles · 10/04/2015 17:42

By inappropriate I assumed the op meant sexualised clothing on children. I think there was an MN campaign about it.

Sirzy · 10/04/2015 17:42

Can I have some cheesecake - as this belly will never wear a belly top again I can enjoy some cheesecake surely!

teeththief · 10/04/2015 17:43

My 8 year old has a couple of belly tops. She's modest enough not to want to get her whole top half out but gets frustrated when her brother and his mates can take their tops off to cool down. A belly top keeps her cooler

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Twoplus3 · 10/04/2015 17:43

I'm sure it hasn't, but I just see loads of girls dressed like this, and in this day and age I just don't think it's appropriate. My 9 year old wears dresses, nice shorts and t shirts and whilst she's comfortable in what she wears she has started to question me why other girls in her class don't dress similar to her, and considering she's at an impressionable age it's a bit of a worry as I do want her to feel like she fits in but at the same time I'm not going to let her go round scantly dressed.

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NeedsAsockamnesty · 10/04/2015 17:43

Perhaps they do not think it's inappropriate. I expect they think they get to chose what clothes they get for there own children just like you do with yours.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 10/04/2015 17:44

Belly tops and shorts are not sexualised clothing FFS!

SuffolkNWhat · 10/04/2015 17:45

I have some lovely Chantilly cream to go with the cheesecake...

GraysAnalogy · 10/04/2015 17:45

What makes clothing sexualised though? In this case it seems that showing a bit of belly = sexualised. Which is wrong.

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Twoplus3 · 10/04/2015 17:45

I just think they're inapropriate in general and that unless they're at the pool, children don't need to be showing their bellies and some case bottoms.

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NeedsAsockamnesty · 10/04/2015 17:45

Can you explain what is inappropriate about a belly top?

I'm assuming that's a top that shows a belly but I'm not sure what's wrong with seeing a childs tummy

GoddessErrata · 10/04/2015 17:46

sparkling, Grays, I'll go get the footstools. So we can put our feet up and really enjoy this one... Will be back after finishing getting DD's dinner ready! Ooooooo...

Passmethecrisps · 10/04/2015 17:46

If she is wondering why others dress differently the answer is 'because they like it'

Sirzy · 10/04/2015 17:46

Surely your the one who is sexualising them though? What is sexual about a child's belly?

Passmethecrisps · 10/04/2015 17:47

But you, of course, reserve the right to say no if she asks to wear one and you don't want her to.

What you can't do is tell other parents to do the same