To be annoyed with fussy eaters?

[FromRussiaWithLove]

Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed with people who are fussy about their food? As in eating things separately, this can't touch that, not eating mushy/solid/green or whatever? Gets me so frustrated. Just bloody eat it! So many people out there would give everything for a fraction of it and yet you're here being awkward! Just needed to get this one out...

Well barring any allergies intolerance and genuine food issues, by adult hood it's a bit ridiculous yes.

But only if your talking about run of the mill food.

not weird combos like jellied eels or ghost chili sauce or weird seafood concoctions.

I hate blue cheese and wont eat cream but other than that I eat most things.

YABU. For some people, selective eating is beyond fussiness, they just can't eat it. There's now a recognised disorder called resistant eating disorder, often associated with people on the autistic spectrum or those who were tube fed as children.

Their food issues don't have to affect you. Just be glad you don't have to deal with it in your own life and move on.

I get annoyed too, but actually I think in some cases I am BU. Lots of people either have issues to do with food (something like a very minor eating disorder) and others are incredibly sensitive to texture and taste. Im sure there are also many people that are quite capable of sucking it up and are just being precious but I try and give people the benefit of the doubt.

I am not a selective eater, but my son is. He might grow out of it, or he might not. I don't really care, because I love him, and because pressuring him sure as shit will get us nowhere.

Why on earth do you care? Wind your neck in, OP.

YABU. Adults can be fussy for lots of reasons. You don't know why they are the way they are.

What are ghost chilies?

Is that a real thing?

YABU. Some people genuinely can't help it. If you don't have any issues with anything in life consider yourself very fortunate. For others life is hard and this manifests in different ways depending on the individual. Concentrate on enjoying your own meal and ignore what's going on on the next plate!

I find it more irritating if people go on about it, in a restaurant I don't want to hear about how they can't/won't eat this or that or only in a particular way, just get on and order what you want and stop making a song and dance about it

Yes ghost chili are real. they are horrendously spicy. spicier chili ever.

I had a family member who refused to eat anything that wasn't British.

re name a dish and he'd eat it so it was all psychological

I don't care what other people eat, but when you're stood over me eating something as innocuous as coleslaw making ridiculous put-on gagging noises then you are the one who can fuck off.

(Yes X, if you're reading this, I bloody do mean you. Grow. The. Fuck. Up)

I'm with you From Russia. When we have kids in this country going without breakfast due to poverty it really does get my goat to see fussy eaters. The ones who tell you yes they like it, take a mouthful and say they don't want it are the worst.

Foxyloxy no one is to blame for your childhood only your mother. Anyone is entitled to an opinion stop transferring your agression on to someone who merely expressed one!

My mother had an illness that made her food phobic because so many foods were difficult to digest. She wouldn't have dreamed of burdening youwith her problems. YABU. You never know what other people are contending with.

I am a fussy eater but order my own dinner to suit myself. People who comment on what other people are eating are rude.

YABU. Provided people are clear in advance, or prepared to bring their own food, then I really don't see why it would have any bearing on your life whatsoever?

People are allowed to be a fussy as they want, providing it's not impacting you.

YABU. It makes no difference to you whether someone else chooses to not eat food that is green , or mushy, or if they prefer to eat things separately.

Your problem is with your own lack of tolerance and you imposing your own opinions on other people, not the way other people choose to eat.

Yes YABU.

Try a bit of compassion for other people - it might make you feel better about yourself

How does it affect you?

Foxyloxy no one is to blame for your childhood only your mother. Anyone is entitled to an opinion stop transferring your agression on to someone who merely expressed one!

Yes, the mother in this situation is the one to blame for the cause of the original problem. But it is really not helpful for someone who has to live daily with this problem to hear other people being so critical of something that now can't be helped. It's rude, hurtful and unnecessary.

I think. op was talking about people (and we all know some) that make a huge deal out of it, seem to have added more to the "list" each time you see them and yku know it's rubbish because they've eaten it all before just under a different name so it's not even consistent fussiness. like eating toad in the hole then saying you dint like Yorkshire puddings or eating a tagine as soon as you call it a stew.

I'd hope she'd not be talking about people with genuine issues.

YANBU.

Most fussy eating adults I know are just that...fussy. There's no sensory issues or awful abusive childhood effecting them.

I will eat most foods and most regular combinations. I will also usually try many different dishes when I am abroad.

One of the few things I sm absolutely fussy about is fish. Not that I actually dislike it because I don't. It is the bones!! OMG the bones. It has to have been absolutely perfectly boned before I will even consider eating it (I am hopeless at completely boning it). If I get any at all in my mouth I hate it and can eat no more of it that mealtime. They feel horrible, and I also simply cannot be bothered with them.

Tis one of my idiosyncrasies.