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To be annoyed with fussy eaters?

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FromRussiaWithLove · 05/04/2015 09:39

Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed with people who are fussy about their food? As in eating things separately, this can't touch that, not eating mushy/solid/green or whatever? Gets me so frustrated. Just bloody eat it! So many people out there would give everything for a fraction of it and yet you're here being awkward! Just needed to get this one out...

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Crossfitmyarse · 06/04/2015 15:32

Spin I know someone who does the separation thing and she's a lovely young woman, perfectly well balanced in all other ways, and not remotely on the spectrum. Confused She's just weird about her food touching.

She and her sister also eat each food on their plate in rotation, so all the meat, then all the potatoes, then all the veg, or whatever, instead of mixing it all up and eating it randomly. Her sister is perfectly normal and well balanced too!

nippiesweetie · 06/04/2015 16:46

I would love to watch a programme about fussy eaters who want to change. Obviously I do mean people who know they are just fussy. I suppose I'm thinking in terms of overcoming a phobia and this can be done.

Come to think of it a documentary about why many people have legitimate reasons for food aversion would be very educational. Unfortunately I think it would get very tabloidy, very quickly.

Perfectlypurple · 06/04/2015 17:38

There has been a program on picky eaters. Can't remember what it was called though. Perhaps some of the people who are so derogatory about fussy eaters should have watched it.

And again, as a fussy eater it is other people not me that say yuck etc at my food and not the other way round. I wish people would just let people eat what they want.

And in around 3 months or so we will have this thread all over again.

SpinDoctorOfAethelred · 06/04/2015 19:44

cross Perhaps you do. (Or you know two women who are well balanced and have an ASD. I haven't met them.)

Regardless of that, I still find it unbelievable that the OP posted such a checklist of eating habits stereotypically associated with ASD, and then went on to post as she did at 21:19 yesterday.

queenofthebored · 07/04/2015 23:16

yanbu its really annoying.

I have always struggled with acute food phobias - on one level I can see that its totally illogical but even so I can not stop myself therefore I do not inflict the horror of cooking for me on anyone and only eat out at places where I have checked menu and food prep beforehand so I wont get in a panic.

Its not a happy situation and it makes me feel stupid and ridiculous and I prefer no-one mentions it. Its not even about individual foods something might be fine one day and not another, I have cooked meals for myself and then burst into tears as I cannot eat any of it and I can give no good reason as to why I cant, DP is very supportive which helps. When this happens I cant breathe and my flesh crawls its a really horrible feeling.

With regards to those saying you would eat if you were hungry enough, I once lived off of bottled water and mints for 7 days and cried myself to sleep with hunger because the food on a holiday when I was unable to self cater made me panic. But do agree its really annoying - I even annoy myself - however equally annoying is when someone starts loudly commenting or questioning how you eat your food, i.e. Why are you scraping off the mayo/ taking out the olives/ leaving half your food if I'm quietly not making a fuss lets not have anyone make a fuss
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Crossfitmyarse · 08/04/2015 12:42

cross Perhaps you do. (Or you know two women who are well balanced and have an ASD. I haven't met them.)

I know them both pretty well (I know one of them extremely well) and I can say with confidence that they definitely do not have any sort of ASD.

limitedperiodonly · 08/04/2015 13:08

Culture changes. Witness the folks who grew up thinking of themselves as "good eaters" who never wasted food during the post-war rationing. They do not see themselves as fussy, their parents did not, but their adult children castigate them for their inability to eat curry and similarly untraditional types of food. The same could happen to people of our generation who identify as unfussy on this thread. It just needs something foreign and new you're not familiar with to become hugely popular with the next generation, doesn't it?

You've described my Mum SpinDoctor, except she never castigated us or made us eat everything because she'd grown up in wartime - 'clear your plate, grumble, grumble.'

My SIL called us 'Mary's caff' in wonder because my mum would cook separate meals for anyone who asked. That was up to my mum.

Once rationing had ended she stuck to her traditionals but embraced the wealth of food and saw no problem with convenience food.

There were things she wasn't used to eating and things she was that my '70s friends found very strange - rabbit, for instance. They thought it was cruel. My friends' parents were much younger than mine and this was the '70s, the era of Findus Crispy Pancakes which we also ate. She could never get her head round Smash though. I am grateful for that.

My mum's most abiding fear was anything identified as French food, particularly horsemeat.

A few things going on there. Very strong propaganda about how the French had 'surrendered' to the Nazis and Britons should be proud for holding out, but also a real fear of being starved out by Nazi blockades and of food adulteration.

As I said, we ate rabbit but she always insisted on buying one with its head on because the bodies of skinned rabbits and skinned cats look remarkably similar and it's not a good idea to eat a carnivore.

This happened.

She cackled with glee that during the horsemeat scandal, Iceland - that she was fond of - came out tops for non-horsemeat lasagne whereas Waitrose fared less well.

Not that she'd have eaten lasagne.

meowth · 08/04/2015 13:22

YABU. I'm a selective eater. i refuse to eat a lot of things. i just can't eat them. I refuse.

0x530x610x750x630x79 · 08/04/2015 13:39

i have a friend who would crow that she ate everything, and look down on me and my kids who had preferences.

she had to stop that when my kids and i were eating game pie, which she doesn't eat, in fact she had asked us to cook something seperate for her that day.

meowth · 08/04/2015 15:35

yah i won't eat peas. or mushrooms, so it's hard when someone's making a pie and i can only have carrots and onions.
i'll eat fish, most meat, a lot of veg, but i'll mostly eat pasta and noodles, mainly because I can't afford steak and veg every night!

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