To purposely avoid shaving? *half lighthearted*

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Bit of a weird one I know, But this is AIBU and I see weird sh*t here all the time so I'm sure none of you will choke on your pearls! Anyhow...
DP has always expressed a preference for me being shaven down there. Fairenough, we all have our preferences. I'm currently pregnant and due to feeling like death I dont feel like doing shower aerobics to get every last bit of hair.... We've still been having sex pretty regularly, every 1-2 days. However now DP has decided that he'd rather not have sex with me until I shave again... because it "feels and looks weird" like your penis maybe? WIBU to never shave again?

Over the years there have been many occasions where people's partners have been accused of paedophilia because someone prefers to remove hair. Some of the attacks have been really nasty and nothing to do with feminism. Just plain nasty. Sit and think for one second how you would feel if someone accused someone you love and trust of something so hideous. Smeone who is father or stepfather to young girls. The young girls who apparently he wants his partner to look like.

There is no excuse, nobody would ever say that to someone's face.

By all means question society (boring 6th form argument but if it makes you happy) and by.all means further belittle women by believing that they are forced by society rather than just prefer not to have hair by all means enjoy it if it makes you feel happy. But don't say things that are so sick and unforgiveable on every thread.

The below is not a personal attack to any specific poster. Just pissed off with the general weirdness and lack of support.

By the way, the OP is not one I am defending. Forget public hair, I am genuinely sad about that man and.also the person who bragged that their man wouldn't go near them without hair. Who are these men?? I can't imagine being held to ransom over that or anything else.

pubic although on MN it is public.

But bragging about husbands liking hair is just the same as saying he likes shaved isn't it?

Not really, because the first is men saying they like women just the way they are, without changing. Whereas the other is saying they want women to alter their physical appearance.

The latter does seem to have comparatively more unhealthy undertones.

Sorry but I can't see how saying that my husband would refuse to go near me if I did something I wanted to my own body is just as twisted as saying he won't go near me if I don't.
Both are weird.

When i was pregnant with ds1 i was massive, (i couldn't see my bits from about 12wks). it all got so unruly by about 26wks i begged dh to trim/use his clippers on me. I laid on the bed legs akimbo while he sheered me like a sheep. Honestly it really was just like that. DH was terrified too.

Anyway OP, yanbu. i'd just laugh and tell him to piss off.

As for those saying he will crack first, i wouldn't underestimate how much people would rather have a wank than have things exactly the way they want. In fact i think a lot of people just want an excuse not to have sex and please themselves. (i studied fetishism at uni and worked on lots of case studies)

Totally agree that any man who wouldn't go near their partner due to the presence or absence of body (or for any reason), clearly has issues, but I'm assuming people are embellishing for effect.

I just don't think that one preference (read: preference) is the same as the other.

My sister refuses to sleep with bil unless he's completely shaved everywhere. He is the same with her. They both maintain hair on a person is absolutely disgusting. I don't think my dh has ever even noticed. But then again i know loads of men who think having sex with their pregnant wife is disgusting as they no longer find them attractive being 'fat'. Again my dh didn't seem to notice.

I would struggle with someone if sex wasn't about 'being with each other' and became about something external/visual like either of those things.

I'm with lagoon this is from porn. I am 37 and have never heard of this. Bonkers, other than armpits any kind of shaving is for the summer .

However now DP has decided that he'd rather not have sex with me until I shave again... because it "feels and looks weird"
Nothing wrong with having a preference, but that's way more than just a preference. Is he seriously refusing to have sex until you pander to his wishes or are you exaggerating for effect?

I never touch my hair down there. Coupled with my thyroid that left me patchy down there it looks a mess.

I am still not going to touch it and my husband thankfully doesn't give a shit. He isn't a porn watcher so I doubt he has seen many shaved vulvas before anyway.

Although I did shave once 8 years ago and it itched like fuck growing back and I hated the look. I reminded myself of the girl I was before going through puberty. And no, I am not saying there is anything wrong with men who like shaved pubes, it's just how it made me feel. My preference.

I don't find men who are clean shaven attractive. I like some facial hair and while my husband knows my preference if I told him I wouldn't sage him if he shaved I can't imagine that would go down too well

Sage= shag.

It's okay to have a preference. It's not okay to criticise just because you don't fall in with his preference.

If you want to stay hair free, then use Immac or something as it's loads easier than a razor. If you can't be arsed, then don't.

My DH also prefers some hair thank fuck - he thinks no pubic hair is dodgy and for weirdos

I prefer a bit of maintenance though so Immac it all into a tidy shape and trim slightly for that natural-yet-groomed-look that's so fucking vital for modern day pubes.

Yes your husband is quite right...everyone who shaves has a fetishism for shagging paedophiles. Unlike you who seems happier with a dickhead.

It baffles me that people find it rude to point out that peoples preferences are heavily influenced by society.

Isn't it completely self-evident?

I am old enough to remember when everybody woke up one day and just HAD TO HAVE a Rachel (from Friends) hair do.

Surely this is all the evidence required by a sane rational person that people's feelings about their hair are heavily influences by society?

erm surely noone wants to shag a paedophile...I mean that's kinda the point isn't it?

It baffles.me that comments such as the below by Manhattan are accepted by other women. For fucks sake who cares what her crappy little man says but seriously, calling other people's partners weirdos and then adding a smiley face just shows the pathetic and sad little people behind the screen

Yes your husband is quite right...everyone who shaves has a fetishism for shagging paedophiles. Unlike you who seems happier with a dickhead

I barely know where to start. What. The. Fuck. Are. You. Talking. About.

My husband - who you fucking outrageously label a 'crappy little man' and 'a dickhead' - said that no pubic hair is dodgy and for weirdos. I added a fucking smiley face because it's a fucking lighthearted comment. A fucking lighthearted comment. It is true though, that major fuckwits - generally - don't fucking understand that.

And I'm pathetic and sad? Fuck that.

You are aggressive and out of fucking order. Don't you dare call my fucking amazing husband a fucking dickhead.

Yes you have pushed my fucking buttons. Call my husband any more fucking names and I'll fucking report you.

exactly. It's not very nice is it when people can make such horrid accusations on a screen is it? dodgy? weirdo? It's ok for your husband to call my partner that? It's ok for seriously nasty accusations followed by a smiley face but not ok when someone calls you on it?

I do hope you are ok, you sound really rather involved in what is after all a discussion on a parenting website. If you had called people such names on the Guardian comments it would have been much worse. I hope you can realise how nasty and hurtful weirdo and dodgy name calling is and move on and calm down.

call my husband a dodgy weirdo again and I'll .... oh wait it's an Internet forum and there's not a lot I can do unless fabulously rich and can afford legal action.

Horrid accusations? What the fuck are you talking about?

When the FUCK did my husband call your fucking husband something?

Don't fucking patronise me about being 'involved in a discussion'. You took a fucking comment on a lighthearted thread about shaving and used to twist a fucking insult out of it. For no fucking reason. I imagine if you conduct yourself like this in real life, you will have no shortage of people wanting to fucking insult you. If your precious fucking husband is still crying, then please feel free to point out that NOTHING FUCKING HAPPENED.

I am LIVID that you think you can get away with fucking insulting my husband. You can't.

PLease point the fuck out where I called anyone a name. Go on. Fucking do it. It's NOT fucking there. You fucking invented it.

And I will calm the fuck down when I fucking choose to.

Wrong poster. Wrong fight.

The fucking key on my keyboard does seem to be rather jammed.

OP. Sorry for this derail.

Back to pubic hair people.

Sorry I will reply when I stop laughing...

Oh don't bother. Go and troll someone else.