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Original poster

To purposely avoid shaving? *half lighthearted*

213 replies

UghReally · 02/04/2015 16:31

Bit of a weird one I know, But this is AIBU and I see weird sh*t here all the time so I'm sure none of you will choke on your pearls! Anyhow...
DP has always expressed a preference for me being shaven down there. Fairenough, we all have our preferences. I'm currently pregnant and due to feeling like death I dont feel like doing shower aerobics to get every last bit of hair.... We've still been having sex pretty regularly, every 1-2 days. However now DP has decided that he'd rather not have sex with me until I shave again... because it "feels and looks weird" like your penis maybe? WIBU to never shave again?

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dementedpixie · 02/04/2015 16:52

I don't blame you. It must take a lot if time and effort to keep the foliage in check!

kelda · 02/04/2015 17:38

Tell him to shave himself with a bowling ball pressing into his bladder.

ahbollocks · 02/04/2015 17:43

Ah well he cant be that desperate then! you enjoy your 70s fro my friend!

ragged · 02/04/2015 17:51

Can he not shave the area for you? Test of his love :)

kelda · 02/04/2015 17:52

'Can he not shave the area for you? Test of his love'

Test of her love you mean!

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UghReally · 02/04/2015 17:55

Lol kelda Grin
Grin

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MaryWestmacott · 02/04/2015 18:01

Don't mention it again. If he says anything about it, point out that woman who are hairy are less likely to have infections in stiches post birth so you're not going to touch it at least until after your 6 week check. If he wants to wait that long before he has sex again, you'll respect his choice and won't pressurise him into sex.

minkGrundy · 02/04/2015 18:07

we all have our preferences
Mine is for a man who shows some consideration for a pregnant partner.

Bet he gets used to the hair before too long

VeryVeryDarkGrey · 02/04/2015 18:10

Yadnbu see who cracks first...my money is on him

FayKorgasm · 02/04/2015 18:12

I don't shave anything because thats how I prefer my body. Preferences with regard to the hair is up to the owner of the hair and not for anyone to dictate.

Flyinggeese21 · 02/04/2015 18:13

OP, I'd say it depends. How do you feel about what your DP has said?

DealForTheKids · 02/04/2015 18:15

I'm pretty chilled about fanjo hair as a topic.

My DH has expressed a preference for shaven. As such I do it every so often, along with all the other things I know he likes in the bedroom Wink because I love him.

However, this is his preference. Not a demand and certainly not bloody blackmail. And I am not carrying our child!

Frankly I'd tell your DH to do one. Preferences are different to ultimatums.

NobbyNobs · 02/04/2015 18:30

YANBU.

I'm 18 weeks and sporting full leg and underarm hair. I look like 70's Kevin Keagan is living in my crotch.

I cannot be arsed. Grin

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UghReally · 02/04/2015 18:35

VeryVeryDarkGrey, genius!
Haha, I don't really give a shit personally. He can prefer what he likes but by refusing sex he's just cutting his nose off to spite his face, not my problem!

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UghReally · 02/04/2015 18:36

nobbynobs I'm a month behind you and feel your pain!

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StarlingMurmuration · 02/04/2015 18:50

I stopped shaving when I was pregnant because I had SPD and there was no fucking way I was performing shower/bath gymnastics to get rid of my pubes. And then I damaged my coccyx giving birth and my SPD didn't get better for six weeks. And now he's five months old and I still haven't even trimmed. If my DP doesn't like it, he hasn't said, and frankly, if he did, I'd tell him to go fuck himself.

I will sort things it eventually.... Just not right now.

Fairylea · 02/04/2015 18:53

Yanbu. At all.

However I'm always Hmm at how angry people seem to get on here about women who choose to shave down there. So what for goodness sakes, it's all about choice. ... and if a man prefers it and says he prefers it so what to that too? We all have our preferences. Personally I can't stand hairy chests on men and I'd struggle to find it sexy if my dh suddenly decided to grow one (thankfully he isn't hairy anyway) so I don't see that as any different to a man saying he prefers a woman shaved down there. He should however be understanding if pregnancy / illness / whatever else means there's a bit of a bush for a while. It's not the be all and end all.

Mumsnet is always obsessed with pubes.

Coumarin · 02/04/2015 18:55

Dye it bright pink.

Skidoodoo · 02/04/2015 18:55

I would say that if that's how he feels that's a bit of a result. You can get some peace and quiet now! i'd tell him that too.

How about turning it around and asking him to whip all his off.... Like you need the discomfort of it all growing back when you're pregnant.

MoveAlongNow · 02/04/2015 19:02

Yanbu at all! I thought this was going to be about leg hair. I decided to shave for the first time today in possibly months. I got distracted in the shower and shaved one and a half legs instead of two. Shit happens right? Dp will get to stroke one leg in an alluring and sexy manner Grin. He will be happy to do so because
A- he's not an idiot and wouldn't risk commenting on my body hair and
B- sex is good! With or without hairy bits!

toomuchnutella · 02/04/2015 19:10

I'm a bit wary of men who only like women shaven down below.

MinesAPintOfTea · 02/04/2015 19:15

Yanbu its better to prevent infections, especially during pregnancy/childbirth. Plus discomfort and effort should be avoided unless essential.

But i'm mostly commenting because I have a Venus razor add on this page...

flora717 · 02/04/2015 19:17

I'm wary of men/ women with a fixed idea of what is attractive in their partner. Things change. Whatever happened to finding a personality alluring. It's weird.

OrinocoTheWomble · 02/04/2015 19:22

Is it a thing then to shave it all off? I'm mid 40's and no one has ever expected 'no hair down there'. The sides are nicely shaved or waxed (when I can be bothered/going on holiday). But no hair at all... surely if you want no hair then shaving is horrible - itchy, immediate re-growth poking through your knickers... surely you'd wax or something longer-term?

ragged · 02/04/2015 19:28

Oh Orinoco, you so aren't under 30, are you?

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