not to do this for DH

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dh has just started working further away, which means he has to leave earlier and cannot spend until 830am more like 930 faffing around, chilling out, ironing his shirt etc.

He used to come home for lunch everyday but now that won't be possible. Last night he stayed up very very very late BUT didn't manage to iron his shirt or make a lunch we can't afford for him to buy lunch out so this morning he has been running around, getting ready for work.

He has been hinting that maybe I should make his lunch and do his shirt for him since I'm a sahm yes I'm a sahm but I do most of the housework, do all the dinners, run my own little business as an artist, as well as all the finances and kids activities.

So AIBU thinking said husband can do his own shirt and his own lunch the night before? Surely it's not my responsibility? It wouldn't be a massive hardship but tbh I hate getting the iron out with my two toddlers as they jump all over me and he's notoroiusly picky with how his lunch is prepped, that it's a pain in the arse!

God I remeber having to iron 5 of my dads shirt on a Sunday as one of my chores and hating it, and that was in the 80s!

This thread has made me feel better. I work full time and used to iron DP's shirts until he was made redundant and off work for a year and did nothing most days. I now expect him to do his own shirts and lunch. He is currently sulking because I want him to do his own packing for a holiday !

Probably a diversion, but I am stunned at the thought of all these men who will either just meekly accept whatever packed lunch you make them, or insist it is made for them to exacting standards. I work longer hours than my husband, but I make my own packed lunch partly because that just seems natural, and also because that way I can have what I want.

We are a minimal ironing household, but I don't see it as a female task, or a parent at home task, more of an 'if you want/need it ironed, you iron it'.

I would never make my OH a packed lunch.
He leaves at 6.30 every morning and sorts himself out- makes his own sandwiches with stuff that he buys at the weekend.
We are a non- ironing family anyway so ironed shirts don't come into it.

I make my husband's packed lunch he doesn't expect me to do it but I do it because it helps him out. He brings me coffee in bed when I have a day off I don't expect him to do that but he does it because it's a nice thing to do.

Talk him through the idea of making large batches of sandwiches one weekend and freezing them. Then all he need do in the morning is grab a bag from the freezer. Lunch done.

Re shirts... I NEVER iron. EVER.
He does it, usually the night before or all 5 at the weekend.

We have always worked this way. When he worked 5 min down the road and left at 8.30 and when he worked in the city and left at 6.45.

Yes. Occasionally I'd top up the sandwich stash, if I made a tuna sandwich for example then the extra filling would fill another sandwich which I'd then date and freeze with the rest. Your P sounds like a child OP

Forgot to say, if he still has issues tell him that 'The Good Wife' is on at 9pm. He won't see Alicia doing much ironing or sandwich making...