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AIBU?

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teen fucking dramas!!

829 replies

Mintyy · 25/03/2015 20:41

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

OP posts:
catzpyjamas · 11/04/2015 07:30

Thanks for asking your DH, Ledkr. I didn't think there was much to be done legally.
I know where one of these girls works now so may pop in for a chat later Wink. I need to leave DH at home though or else the police will be involved.
I am considering tagging the whole lot of them on something on Facebook - any suggestions welcome!

BalloonSlayer · 11/04/2015 09:35

Can't you put in a complaint of malicious damage, citing the pictures on facebook?

butterflyballs · 11/04/2015 10:00

Tagging them with a picture of your dd saying this is the child whose room you violated, whose clothes you tried on and mocked, whose toys were moved/broken and who is very upset about the whole thing. State how old she is. Shame the fuckers.

Cocolepew · 11/04/2015 10:16

Oh no catz Angry how awful. Your poor DD Sad
Personally I would be round their houses but I'm very, umm, fiesty as dd2 says.

Love the mcteen complaining about teenagers Grin

Dd2 was nice all night, changed her bed covers and stayed in her room blaring listening to music.
She asked me yesterday had her "attitude approved " Hmm Grin

Ledkr · 11/04/2015 12:14

cats don't let that put you off contacting the police tho!
They may think differently.
I'm like cocol so would probably e d up going all street on their arse and swearing a lot Blush probBly not the best way tides just with it

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 11/04/2015 12:23

When DD was 16 she told me her friends were all terrified of me. "Is it the meat cleaver?"

"A bit, but it's mostly the smile".

Gibble1 · 11/04/2015 19:11

DD was reading a book on her phone earlier and asked me the definition of malevolent. I rattled off several examples and then said, "basically, you, when you're being a teenager!".she grinned and I explained about the joy sucking properties she possesses at times. She had a good chuckle and threw in so e examples herself.
Now, she's hiding in tidying her bedroom.

catzpyjamas · 11/04/2015 21:58

I'm exhausted. I've been cleaning since this morning and only just sat down.
DSS has returned to his DMs, which is unheard of on a Saturday, as he is working tomorrow avoiding further wrath of DH.
Considering giving DSS a chance to get DDs princess dress back (one missing) from the idiot girls who took it before I go hunting. It would appear that he may have been threatened by one of the boys who was here. They barricaded one of the doors. Can't get the full story from him and he keeps saying that we can't do anything about the partygoers as he invited them. I know he doesn't even know some of the ones who were here.
Thanks for all your supportive comments. It really does help.

butterflyballs · 11/04/2015 22:35

Oh catz, that is so crap. Can't believe her dress is missing. As much as I moan about my teen, she would never behave like that.

What's your dss mum saying about it? I would hope she's supporting you in this.

My teen came to the farm with us today, bottle fed a lamb, cuddled a tiny baby rabbit and then played on the climbing stuff with her little sister. She went to work at four and dp just got back with her and she's in for a shower as she's doing 11 to 7 tomorrow.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 11/04/2015 23:17

Which princess dress is it, catz? Maybe there would be one on ebay - dss could pay for the replacement, if he can't get the original back.

Gibble1 · 12/04/2015 00:18

Oh, see, if there's a princess dress missing from a 7 year old, I would definitely be tagging the girls in the photos. "Oi ya bitch, where's my baby girls princess dress gone? Don't be pretending you don't know what I mean, just return or replace it and I'll go no further."

Beasts. Is it because they have too much stuff but nothing important d'ya think?

Ledkr · 12/04/2015 07:43

Me too gibble my anger would know no bounds.
Mind you, if it was any of dds frozen dresses the perpetrators would have been fighting off a disgruntled 4 year old, she'd have winged them to death Grin

BalloonSlayer · 12/04/2015 07:50

Oh no Catz!

Mind you, you have justification to report them for theft now that you know something has been taken. The two girls posing on facebook in DD's clothes would get a visit from the police for a start. They would SHIT themselves.

Cocolepew · 12/04/2015 12:24

Oh no your poor DD missing a princess dress. Some people are so thoughtless Angry

I hope she gets it back pronto.

Clutterbugsmum · 12/04/2015 12:49

I hope they give your dd money to replace the stolen dress rather then damaged one they have stolen.

catzpyjamas · 12/04/2015 14:10

Thank you all. DSS really doesn't want us to do anything about these idiots. If he's worried about his safety then I wouldn't but I suspect it's more about his street credHmm
I have composed a Facebook post but want to run it past DH before I put it up. He's out all day though. My home is almost back to normal if missing a few garden chairs, a picture frame and the dress...

catzpyjamas · 12/04/2015 14:14

Butterfly, his DM telephoned DH the night it happened and came to see DSS at our house the next day but she hasn't said much of anything to us about his attitude and behaviour. She only called because DSS was upset but I don't think she believes how much mess they made as family had made a good start on sorting it before she came the next day.

butterflyballs · 12/04/2015 16:50

Omg! Seriously proud mum moment! Also a dilemma.

Last year teen went out with a friend after school into the small town closest to her school. Her friend had a seizure and collapsed, hitting her head. Teen put her in recovery position, protected her head. Friend had several more seizures and teen was on her own (aged 15) and kept calm, protecting friends head, shouted for help. Got someone to call 999 and when paramedics arrived helped find a suitable spot for helicopter to land to take friend to hospital.

Friend is,completely fine now and today we got a phone call to say teen is being given an award by the royal life saving society and we have to take her next Saturday. Dps sister works in same place as teen so sorting day off but need to get teen to come put with us without raising suspicion!!

BalloonSlayer · 12/04/2015 17:11

"DSS really doesn't want us to do anything about these idiots."

So?

You really didn't want him to throw a party, get pissed and have his "mates" trash your house.

It's starting to sound a bit like "what he wants" is more important than what you want or what your little DD wants.

Cocolepew · 12/04/2015 17:36

That's absolutely brilliant butterfly, you must be very proud Flowers

crispandfruity · 12/04/2015 17:42

I'm with the shaming on facebook idea - what a horrible thing to do stealing a little girls princess dress.

We're in GCSE/AS Level hell here. DS1 who is 16 had a strop because his (new) scientific calculator wasn't working. I went out and got him another one today (same model) and guess what - that wasn't working either.

On further investigation it was because he didn't know how to use it. I despair.

In addition to buying a calculator I also bought a shit load of cutlery because ALL of ours has disappeared upstairs with the constant 'snacks' that are made. I wonder how long it will be until I can't find a bloody teaspoon in the morning?

catzpyjamas · 12/04/2015 20:05

Butterfly, that's fantastic! Quick thinking from your DD. You are right to be proud.

catzpyjamas · 12/04/2015 20:18

Balloon, it's more that I'm worried he'll get some comeback from these idiots and it's not that big a town for him to avoid them completely, especially since he works in the biggest store and is well known among his peers.
He has promised to replace the missing dress himself. DD is not aware that it is missing or that anyone wore any of them. I'd like it to stay that way.
I think I just wanted to rip their heads off confront the culprits but I doubt it will make them question their actions and I really don't want anything I do now to provoke further trouble for him or for us.
This thread has been a great outlet for me to think all this through.

Cocolepew · 12/04/2015 20:36

Oh god! The disappearing teaspoons! Where do they go to? [confusing]

ArseForElbow · 13/04/2015 15:45

My DS is out on his second date today, she is 14, the same age as DS. They are quite cute together. for now