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AIBU?

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teen fucking dramas!!

829 replies

Mintyy · 25/03/2015 20:41

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

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butterflyballs · 13/04/2015 17:16

Bless! Hope his heart isn't broken too soon.

Teen is seeing mcbusted in concert tonight. Dp dropped her and a friend off at the venue at 10am as they want to spend the day queuing in the car park so they can be at the front.

I have no words for this insanity.

catzpyjamas · 13/04/2015 19:03

Oh that's so funny - McTeen going to McBusted Grin

Cocolepew · 14/04/2015 17:05

Im taking dd2 to see The Vamps next monday. She thinks she should take tuesday off to recover Hmm Grin

catzpyjamas · 14/04/2015 18:19

Coco, I think you should book Tuesday off to recover!

WhoremoaneeGrainger · 14/04/2015 18:19

Butterfly I think you must live near(ish to me) We are seeing them tomorrow (oh fab .....).

And you should be very proud of your teen DD. She did a very kind and brave thing for her friend.

Cocolepew · 14/04/2015 19:26

Maybe I should catz!

butterflyballs · 14/04/2015 20:55

We are about a 30 minute drive from the venue, near a town beginning with p and ending in e ...which was full of motorbikes tonight! I've seen mcfly a few times, absolutely love them but wasn't allowed to go with teen as I'm an "oldie". Saw the vamps a couple of years ago when they supported mcfly, I love them. And my friends son went to school with one of them.

Teen is working til 11 tonight, tomorrow and Friday. She's going to have to rein in her hours, she won't have time to sleep. She's taken homework to do on her break.

catzpyjamas · 14/04/2015 22:24

Butterfly, hopefully she's doing all these hours to show willing since she's just started and she will cut back after a while? Did she enjoy the pre-gig vibe in the car park?

steppemum · 15/04/2015 10:53

had a classic teen conversation yesterday Hmm
(I keep reminding myself he is only 12, but no-one seems to have told him he is not yet a teen)

wrt how he speaks to us, and we had come out with the immortal comment "if you wouldn't say it to one of your teachers, don't say it to us"
(not sure exactly when I turned into a bad version of my Mother)

ds - But MUM, if I spoke to a teacher like that I would get suspended and then I would get a crap education and kicked out of school, and then I would never get a job and my life would be ruined.
Whereas when I speak to you like that you take away my phone, which, yeah like isn't great, but it doesn't ruin my life.

Confused
butterflyballs · 15/04/2015 20:45

She loved it catz. She came home wearing a new mcbusted t-shirt which I can only assume I funded from the £20 she borrowed. She got a great photo of Tom (who she loves) on stage. They share the same birthday, she's got an "affinity" with him. Obviously.

Stepmum, I have no answer to your sons comments. Clearly a genius in the making. Start looking at expensive retirement homes.

Pyjamaschocolateandwine · 15/04/2015 21:42

Dd 3 the orange one has just turned 16.

Our present apart from a party, which went surprisingly well, was to open a bank account and tell her we will deposit some money in it monthly and she can learn to budget.

We had the ohmygodmomwhstdoyoumesn?

We explained that it was called budgeting and was a life skill.

Her reply was 'ohmygodmom (she always leads with this you understand) 'ohmygodmomthatssocrap'

Hey ho!

butterflyballs · 16/04/2015 11:30

Haha!! Happy birthday to the Orange one :)

Please let her know if she doesn't want the money I'll have it. I'm grateful for anything

WhoremoaneeGrainger · 16/04/2015 15:32

butterflyballs we live in the same town!!!

We went last night and it was fab. DD came home with a t-shirt (which cost £20) and an "air guitar" (inflatable clear plastic) which cost £6 (and she then refused to wave around during the song).

Twas a very good night out though. Especially as i won the tickets!

Shame the same cant be said for today however......

WhoremoaneeGrainger · 16/04/2015 15:34

steppemum Dd was given an old i-phone. When I tried to take it away as punishment she came out with "But you cant - it was a gift from Aunty ***". So I removed the sim card instead, which I do pay for.

butterflyballs · 16/04/2015 17:14

Glad you had a good night! I do like the band, wish I'd gone now :)

Teen still at school, no work tonight, so doing extra maths study. We've spent the day shopping (bought teen New jeans, a dress and some t shirts) and then spent a couple of hours up at honeybrook farm, which is fast becoming our second home. Dd 2 loves it.

We are going to the tank museum tomorrow. Dp and dd 2 very excited. I'm not. Teen at school and relieved she doesn't have to go. I wonder if I can go to school with teen....

WhoremoaneeGrainger · 17/04/2015 19:54

Is she doing extra before GCSE's?

Cocolepew · 17/04/2015 20:05

Theres still a lot of trouble within dds friend group. Her best friend is being picked on by another girl. Dd knows to stay out if it, her friend can give as good as she gets. . A teacher called her out of a lesson today to ask what happened at lunch between the 2 girls. She said she didnt know and she didnt want to be involved. The teacher then told her off for being cheeky [hmn]. She just kept saying she didnt know while the troublemaker yelled at her she did know. In the end she told her she couldn't read minds and to stop trying to get her involved.
The teacher is going to bring dd and a couple of others in on monday to go over it again.
Dd was livid whenI picked her up.

catzpyjamas · 17/04/2015 20:58

Coco, that sounds really unfair on your DD and now she has all weekend with that to deal with on Monday. Hmm

butterflyballs · 17/04/2015 21:11

A level maths. She got an A in her Gcse, took it a year early. Sailed through it. Finding A level tough though. She's got exams in the summer. She's doing btech sport, double. On course for distinction star so Really needs to hammer maths. Then she's got to redo biology gcse so she can get a uni place for the paramedic course. She's told me she's doing the NCS this summer too. My head is spinning to be honest, I can't keep up with all her thoughts, ideas, plans...She's got a plan to gap year in Africa or somewhere too. We will see.

Coco, I would call the school and ask why your dd is,being dragged into something that she has nothing to do with. However if she's keeping her mouth shut to protect her friend, she must always keep it shut even if it's not the friends fault iyswim. But the teacher should not be getting her in trouble for not witnessing something. She might as well put the whole school in detention!!

WhoremoaneeGrainger · 17/04/2015 23:51

CoCo- That stinks. Your poor DD. She cant tell them what she doesnt know, today or Monday.

Cocolepew · 18/04/2015 11:03

Dd knows if anything kicks off she is to walk away, its up to her friend if she wants to do the same. Her bf mum has told her dd to not get involved all they want is a reaction.
Ive never liked the one causing trouble. She gave DD a really bad dose of nits in P1 Grin

catzpyjamas · 20/04/2015 19:30

Coco, how did your DD get on today?

steppemum · 22/04/2015 21:28

ds upstairs having gone to bed in a tearful strop, after telling me what a bitch I am.
I am sitting here feeling like crap parent.

My crime? He wanted to watch bear grylls. It starts at 9, his lights out is 9. He is apparently the only one who won't be talking about it tomorrow.

Whole angry massively emotional tearful tirade about how he will never fit in and be cool. How it is all my fault, I don't want him to be cool. I go out of my way to make life hard, and anyway even if he wanted to he couldn't be cool because he is ginger.

I am sitting here feeling totally out of my depth. I was never cool at school. It didn't bother me, there wasn't such a set cool gang, and I had my own friends and was fine with that. I see that in my dd. But ds is desperate to be an alpha male somehow. he is at a grammar school, and many kids have money, and he is on FSM, and he is never, ever going to be able to compete with ski-ing holidays etc.

feel really sad.

catzpyjamas · 22/04/2015 21:40

Oh Steppe, you're not a crap parent at all.
I'm sure he can find Bear Grylls online or on catch up if you have it. It will be on the Channel 4 catch up webpage www.channel4.com/
Being ginger doesn't stop you from being cool (if it does, don't tell my redheaded DD) but trying to compete with his classmates sounds like his main worry? The very fact that he is at grammar school on merit rather than money sounds like a major achievement to me. It's so hard when you want to be one of the crowd though.
You come across as a lovely, caring parent.Flowers

steppemum · 22/04/2015 21:47

We have it on record, he can watch it as soon as he gets on tomorrow, it is just that he wanted to watch it TODAY.

Academically he is doing really well, in top maths group etc. I thought he had a good group of friends, but apparently not Sad This has come slightly out of the blue, didn't know so he felt so out of the in crowd