teen fucking dramas!!

[Mintyy]

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

But have you been told yet that everyone else is going should you dare to refuse to allow them to go somewhere?

That's always a good bunfight...

And my all time favourite was when both of them (DD and DS) flat.y refused to take the charity stamps we had collected into school to the office because they would die of embarrassment if their friends saw them...

flatly

"But have you been told yet that everyone else is going should you dare to refuse to allow them to go somewhere?"

My answer to that was always "You can't go because I love you too much darling"

That used to really flummox them

My answer was "But I'm not everyone else's Mum, am I?" ... said through gritted teeth.

I used to fix ds1 (now 19) with a gimlet eye and quietly remind him that I have photos of him naked as a baby and I wouldn't hesitate to use them.

Hah.

I do have fond memories of the Kevin-like, arm-swinging, eye-rolling huffiness though.

"You're so unFAAAAIIIIIRRRRRRR"

I think Kevin the Teenager was a genius gift to parents. I was a late teen when Harry Enfield originally brought out the sketch and I thought it was funny then. I thought it was even funnier when I saw my own teenagers doing the arm swing, "Whaaaaatttt?!!! Whyyy is it always myyyyy fault?!!!"

I once asked DS1 to take something (of his) upstairs, his reply, "I do EVERYTHING in this house!"
is still used by DH and me for comic effect 13 years later.

Ok wish me luck , I'm off to wake the teenager (she refuses to use an alarm and I have tried leaving her but the stress when she realises that she will miss the bus just means I have to wait for her and be late for work) anyway will I get happy sunshine or moody grumps. Will the cat be welcomed in or shouted at to get out?....

I'm celebrating the start of the Easter hold because it means not having to try to get my teen out of bed to go into school for two weeks.

Last term, despite us waking her up every morning on time, she was over an hour late for school most days.

My dd is 13 and seems to escalate every conversation to a high pitched shriek!
And the ysvking!!
Finslly get five minutes peace about 9pm and it starts.
I'm happy to chat but not about Vicky pollard type stories about who said what to who and what happened.
Particularly when if I dsre to disagree or say my opinion she goes mental.
Does anyone have the "I feel ill" most mornings too?
It translates as "I'm a but tired cos I just woke up"

I survived 3 teen boys already, do I get a trophy?

Oh god the shrieking that only bats can hear it's so high.

Ds1 (17) for the past 5 years has tried to prove me wrong about everything. He will come up and say 'I'm sorry, you were right and I was wrong' but that could take hours/days or weeks. But he still does it

I think it's so you don't miss them when they move out!

We have 2 teenagers
DS . 19 nearly 20 away at uni .
Came home last weekend , bought home 2 loads of washing , went out with his friends on Friday night
Slept all day Saturday , went out with friends again in the evening
Slept all Sunday morning until he needed a lift to the railway station
When he comes home for the summer it'll be the car insurance ( that he cant afford to pay for ) and can I have the car Dad ? But will you pay for some petrol

I messaged him , it was nice to see you , do your washing and feed you
He messaged back hahahahahahahah

DD . 17 . Last year at school off to uni in September .
With her it's the mess . I tidied her room . 2 black sacks of rubbish , 2 black sacks of clothes she doesn't wear any more , including some age 11-12 knickers .

We're lucky , there's been no massive falling outs , ok some rows , some nastiness between the 2 of them , but nothing foul

But yes to the huffing and sighing and eye rolling and it's not faaaiiir ....

I smugly cruised through dd1 teens she is a delightful 18 year old with the occasional sulk and can be some what lazy.

Dd2 arrrrggghhhh. It's soooo unfairrrr, dd1 gets everything, I hate yoouuuu. Trying to get her to revise at the minute for pre Easter exam but she doesn't get it. You know what you know, why try and relearn stuff you didn't get in the first place.
On a side, I have found a shocking gap in her times table knowledge, she is year 8 and knew them all in year 6/7. Thats a battle I'm not looking forward to.

One of 30, one of 20 and 18 year old twins. Almost there! I'd like to say we're becoming more reasonable by the day, but twin 1 kicked off last night. I still haven't quite figured out what it was about!

I am reading this for tips and tricks. My dd is has just started puberty (which is 'so embarrassing') and the rolly eyes have started. I have an age gap between dd and ds that means just as dd is coming out of the other side of teenager horror ds will be entering it!

YANBU. I never ceases to amaze me how the most innocuous of questions from me about something pretty run of the mill can be treated like the most invasive, intrusive and totally unreasonable request or enquiry on the planet and things can escalate from 0 - 60 in on the Shouty Scale in a nanosecond.

DD has a piano exam today. I have just come off a night shift so last night told her that she must RING ME at the beginning of lunch time to go and get her from school. Apparently I am being "So unfair! I need time with my friends, you already made me miss one lunch time this week" which is correct, I did. Awful mother that I am, I made her go to an ENT appointment because she broke her nose last week. Sigh.
Don't get me going on the state of the bedrooms!

I do try to do the 'stay calm, deep breath before you reply' approach, but it is very very hard and sometimes I do snap. I'm only human.

I then feel even worse because dd has a health condition and depression so I know she is dealing with a whole heap more than 'just' teen emotions.

I find and useful (for me, not dd )

I've been quite lucky with my two girls, they haven't had too much in the way of angst, the odd tantrum hear and there. They are 21 and 17 now. My eldest moved out for a year and then came back as she's going to America for three ok yes in the summer so needed to save some money. Clearly she has forgotten what family life is like........if she washes up she only does the things she has used. She buys 'treats' and keeps them in her room. I'm just waiting for her to start labelling things in the fridge and assigning herself a shelf in the food cupboard. She obviously thinks she is still in a house share rather than a family who all muck in together.

My youngest goes to Uni in September and is moving in with her boyfriend ( that's a whole other story, why she can't move in with friends and enjoy her first years at Uni without the pressures of a full time relationship I do not know! ) and me and my husband will be alone for the first time. It's a scary thought but husband is convinced we will have lots of holidays and won't miss the girls too much. I'm not at all convinced.

Not sure why I put ok yes......meant to say months. Damn autocorrect

On a serious note, I'm reading these and feeling sad that I can't actually joke about our problems with dd any more. They've gone so far beyond the typical. We've had four years of truanting, trouble at school (rudeness, constant rule breaking and bad behaviour - spent a good proportion of the last few years in internal exclusion), aggression, self-harming, her putting herself at risk, worry, worry, worry.

She's got her GCSE's in June and I just want it to be over as she's doing no work at all, and her behaviour is getting more concerning by the day. The fall out for the rest of the family has been really awful.

It's dominated our lives and our other dc's lives for years.

I envy people who only have to deal with the usual teen drama and not the sort of committed self-sabotage that has been a feature of dd's growing up.