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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

teen fucking dramas!!

829 replies

Mintyy · 25/03/2015 20:41

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

OP posts:
catzpyjamas · 10/04/2015 16:08

So we need a name for the next thread that won't encourage teen defenders to jump on without rtft....

How about "Using humour and sarcasm to cope when living with aliens teenagers "??Wink

catzpyjamas · 10/04/2015 16:09

Ps. We're heading home now so prepare for possible melt down in about 3 hours.....

Bogeyface · 10/04/2015 16:10

So not "Teenagers are a bunch of fucking bastards" then?! Wink

catzpyjamas · 10/04/2015 16:22

Bogey I like your suggestion but was thinking we might be a little more subtle? Just a tad?

Bogeyface · 10/04/2015 16:34

Ok, how about "Teenagers are a bunch of complete angels who we treat in a respectful, loving and kind manner. They are not bastards at all, not even a little bit"? :o

Ledkr · 10/04/2015 16:43

Tbf I think ant was the only teen defender on the planet and I reckon mn got wise to her pretty quickly!
I almost miss her ridiculous comments on this thread, she was in fact almost as contrary as the teens we she was defending!!!

Cocolepew · 10/04/2015 16:50

Teens. Wtf? Confused For a title Grin

Dd2 came out with me today, we got her new jeans and a hoodie then we took the dog for a walk.
Shes staying in tonight to clean her room.

I have no idea whats going on.

catzpyjamas · 10/04/2015 17:05

Ledkr, we had another one Grin
Coco. I'd be worried....

Mrsjayy · 10/04/2015 17:30

What about the (not so) teen drama continues or something ?

We are going out for big dd2s birthday dinner her birthday was yesterday teen dd is in the shower again whats the chances of us being out the door for 7?

butterflyballs · 10/04/2015 17:51

Proper laughing at bogeys first suggestion!!

I'll stick mine in and then someone can make a decision at some point, I'm not bothered as,long as I know where to go.

"How to survive the teen years with humour and sarcasm (and alcohol)"

Good day today but not seen teen much. She had work at 4pm and we took dd2 to a farm to feed lambs, help round up sheep which had escaped from a field and eat a picnic surrounded by chickens! Teen tested me 6 times to let me know she was leaving, she'd got there, what time she was finishing (which I already knew), a random one saying nvm, one to say her battery was dying and another one saying "when". Not sure what the last one meant!

Got home to find she had cooked and the kitchen was a tip so had to clean up before I could make our dinner.

Ledkr · 10/04/2015 18:51

What about
"Thread for people who have fucked up their teens by not doing AP" parenting!

butterflyballs · 10/04/2015 20:12

What about ....Not got a fucking clue - parenting teenagers

Gibble1 · 10/04/2015 21:20

I got my teen back today! She gave me a hug. She smiled, she said she had missed us! She hasn't been a pain in the arse and she's gone back out to cadets. We have her for the weekend too as her band thing has been cancelled.
I knew there was a reason I didn't strangle her last week :)

butterflyballs · 10/04/2015 21:41

That's lovely. We live for days like this :)

catzpyjamas · 10/04/2015 22:14

That's great Gibble Smile

Well we're home. House stinks of booze and cigarettes. Much more cleaning needs to be done but SO glad family did what they did or it would be much worse. So far I've found broken garden furniture, kitchen utensils outside, a few cigarette butts (after about 60 had apparently been picked up) and a little dried sick. We had to hunt down the pictures that were missing (some had been hung upside down but these were sorted before we got home). DDs toys seem to have mostly survived but she noticed what had been moved from the second she walked in.

I am totally disgusted by the behaviour of these idiots. Hard enough dealing with your own teens without clearing up after others who show absolutely no respect for other people's homes. Angry

DSS has taken an extra shift at work tomorrow to stay out of the way.

BestIsWest · 10/04/2015 22:24

Not had a chance to post on thread yet but have been lurking and wanted to say what a lovely thread. You clearly all adore your teens despite the exasperation.

Mine are just about emerging from teendom now, DS is 17 and DD is well past it at 22 and almost completely human but oh yes, the teenage years, I can look back and laugh (now).

DollyTwat · 10/04/2015 22:28

My teen was asking for a sleepover tonight (by text) to which I said no

Lots of nasty texts to me about how selfish I am, which I just corrected the grammar

Made me chuckle

Ledkr · 10/04/2015 23:04

Well done dolly
cats are you going to ensure said teens parents are aware of the situation?

Steppeoneggs · 10/04/2015 23:26

catz - perhaps the money from the extra shift could go to dd to replace a anything that was broken/lost?

Now that you are safely home, and house is intact, I can tell a tale I have of teen parties. When I was at Uni my friend had a younger brother (16ish) and his parents went away. This was pre mobile phones. My friend (let's call him Dave) got a call from a friend at home to say there was a rumour of a party. His idiot brother had told everyone that his parents were away and the party was at his.
Dave phoned, no reply, so he drove home, got there about 11pm, the house was heaving, hundreds of kids, all spilling out of the door, they were shoulder to shoulder packed in all through the house, mostly drunk. Brother hadn't moved anything out of the way, so normal suburban house swamped by drunk teens. Dave went in, found people upstairs rummaging in mums knicker drawer, trashing little sisters toys, and in the process of walking off with Dave's hi-fi equipment. Dave tried to stop the party and couldn't so called the police.
Police cleared the house, it was trashed, cigarette burns all over carpets and sofas, basin hanging off the wall in the downstairs loo, loads of stuff broken, house covered in spilled beer, garden trashed.

Once house was cleared and secured, Dave read brother the riot act and then went back to uni, telling him he had 1 week before mum comes back to do his best to clean up.

One week later, parents due home Saturday, Dave goes up on Friday and discovers that brother has not done one single thing to try and clean up, not even picked up the empty cans.

His poor parents.

catzpyjamas · 11/04/2015 00:14

Steppeoneggs, I am so so glad that you waited until I was home before you told me that! Poor parents indeed. However if DSS was 16, we would never have trusted him but he's nearly 20 FFS.
Ledkr, I have no idea what, if anything, to do about this. They are all over 18. DSS claims not to know most of them but through searching friends of his friends on Facebook, I have found photos of some of them in my house posted on 2 profiles. One of the photos shows 2 girls in DDs clothes. I am totally disgusted. DH is fit to burst.

Steppeoneggs · 11/04/2015 00:37

catz - I wonder if it is worth talking to your local PCSO (or whatever they are called - community police?)
Show them the fb and explain the situation and ask them to go round and have a chat.
A little bit of old fashioned put the wind up them.

Gibble1 · 11/04/2015 00:40

Cats, I would be beyond rage! I would have to tag the teens in the photo or comment on them and publicly ask why they felt it ok to wear my little girls clothes and participate in trashing the house.

Years ago, a friend of mine had a house party. She rang me the following day asking what the difference was between Matt and gloss paint! They did get all of the mess cleared and never did it again.

The following summer (a few months later) my Aunty and Uncle and cousin went on holiday. My Aunty (who I lived with) stated concern about me having a party and trashing their house. I said "I'm working 12 hour shifts, do you really think that I can be bothered to clear everything away safely, have a party and then put it all back after what happened at friends house?"
They agreed I wouldn't. The only issue I had was being overtaken by massive spiders the day after they went away!

butterflyballs · 11/04/2015 00:57

I'd be tracking the little fuckers down and paying them or their parents a visit. I'm fuming on your behalf.

Just to make you all laugh...teen was at her mcjob tonight (I know you're all dying to know where she works) and dp picked her up when she finished. Asked her if she had had a good shift and she said....

"No. Stupid teenagers came in and made a total mess and I had to clean it up"

Oh the irony!

She's agreed to come to the farm tomorrow and then we will drop her at work later. Ever so slightly happy :)

catzpyjamas · 11/04/2015 01:31

Butterfly, that made me Smile. DSS works in a store frequented by teenagers and is often enraged at the mess in which they leave the stock. Similar irony when you open his wardrobe to a 3 foot high tangle of clothing..

I'm going to sleep on it tonight in a bed I had to strip as someone had messed it up and decide what to do tomorrow. Fortunately DH isn't good with social media as I dread to think what he would have posted on their pages.

Ledkr · 11/04/2015 06:38

carz DH is police and I just asked his advice, (while he was getting dressed for a shift) he says Prob nothing you can do legally unless there is damage or theft and you can actually prove who did it.
Personally I woukd Indeed go for shaming the fuckers, even going to their houses and suggesting they might like to apologise to a small child.
You will probably get some attitude but equally one Or two might be more humble and it might make u feel better.
My DS did similar on a much smaller scale and he now tells me his mates were too terrified to call for him for months as each time I answered the door I tore them a new arsehole!!
I even put a laminated note on my door explaining that I was not a "yoof club" they were 15, all now 30 and still remember it Grin