SIL had a bit of a meltdown about my pregnancy

[FernGullysWoollyPully]

We announced it to our extended family and friends. Our parents already knew. Everyone's happy. Its supposed to be lovely....

SIL has had a meltdown.

Back story: Some time in January she was telling me that she and BIL (dh's brother) had big plans for this year. New more expensive house, new more expensive car etc they can be a bit flash and show offy from time to time, they never seem to be secure in what they have and are always 'keeping up' but that's another story.

Anyway, one of the new 'plans' was for another child, which would be their 4th (their youngest isn't 1 yet) now she's having a pop about the fact that I knew that she wanted another and I planned to do this, and we could have let them know before announcing it so it didn't come as such a shock and she could have processed it better...

Fwiw we didn't do this on purpose, we wanted another and had stopped the pill to start ttc, I just assumed it would take longer.

Aibu to be completely by this?? I feel like I'm justifying! I'm an adult ffs!

Oh yes and these too (well it is St Patrick's day)!

That was genius! Your poor BIL!

OP, you're a legend.

I doubt you'll get an apology, but I agree you should maintain the moral high ground.

Just occasionally say things like, "with the new baby on the way, maybe we should get a bigger car/house/timeshare or a horse/boat/pet tiger!"

Everytime she mentions anything, beat it. They want a budgie? You're getting an eagle. But make sure it's something genuinely ridiculous. In case someone thinks you're actually competing.

Yes, defo don't mention it again unless they bring it up. And then i would be dismissive, like you've got far more important things to think about. I think anything else would make you look like you're enjoying the drama/power a bit too much. I'd be practicing my raised eyebrow/pointed look of 'i can't believe you are going down this path again - remember what happened last time'/eye roll/withering sigh, for every time she says something competitive or less than positive abut your pregnancy.

Whoops I can't believe I sent you wine here have this instead

Oh fuckyouchris I love this idea! Have just the right corner an eagle perch can go in too

You should get a special eagle, with matching eagle accessories, one that will rock a cradle too :o

Or. You could text her and invite her out for coffee and cake. Be nice. Ask her what the problem is.

Because, to me, she doesn't sound very happy, and possibly ill (pnd?) What's the worst that could happen? Either, she is indeed just a 1st class entitled bitch. Or, you clear the air, move forward and develop a healthier mature relationship with her. Maybe even like each other a bit... and your children grow up to be close to each other.

I dont think you need to worry this will be forgotten about, I doubt anyone who was there will ever forget it.
Keep the moral highground, and now you know if she ever tries anything like this again a gentle "is this another pregnancy text situation?" will get her to back off. Twisting the knife now will mean that she just has ammunition to throw back at you in the future, staying saintly and friendly now will pay off for the rest of your life :p

I would never mention it again, ever, unless she brought it up, or any similar comment.
And treat her like I had always done.

Fern, she certainly won't have forgotten about it and every time she sees you she'll be waiting for you to bring it up. Just forget about her, if you get an apology that's great, if not at least you've made your point very well and she'll think twice. Also any time she does try to behave badly again and you call her on it, it will reinforce that point.

She's probably having a really bad time. Offer her a creme egg.

You may want to enlighten her that the world sldiesnt revolve around her.