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To expect DH to be home soon

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 01:13

I have to leave for work at 6am. He will be looking after our dc (7,5,3) all day until 9pm. He has gone out after work as it is his last day there. I warned him I was working. He is terrible for not waking up after a drink. I am worried I will not be able to go to work if he is much later Confused

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Icimoi · 21/02/2015 01:25

Oh dear. Have you tried phoning him?

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 01:28

He hasn't got a phone. He gave it in as he has left work today. I am getting cross now.

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MyNameIsntTash · 21/02/2015 01:37

Hope he's home soon. I'm waiting for DP. He didn't take keys and went out at 3!

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 01:39

It's so selfish. I'm getting no sleep, the kids will miss swimming, he has missed the last train so will be paying out for a taxi. If he is much later I'm no sure he will manage the kids all day tomorrow.

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MyNameIsntTash · 21/02/2015 01:45

Yep selfish, they just don't think. We have nothing planned especially but he'll but good for nothing all day. Phone going to answerphone to so no idea how much longer he'll be.

Topseyt · 21/02/2015 02:09

Very selfish of him. Hope he has a great plan in mind for backup when he finds himself with the hangover from hell and three young children to look after.

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 02:22

Still not home. Getting worried I won't be able to go to work Confused

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BramwellBrown · 21/02/2015 02:43

It is bloody selfish, my DH has been known to turn up as I'm leaving for work having had to beg someone to babysit.

Why will the kids miss swimming though? he'll just have to man up and get over his hangover to take them by bus/taxi/walk! (that is assuming its lessons obviously, not a good idea if he'd actually be in the pool looking after them.)

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 02:45

Yes lessons - he won't take them hungover. He's still not in.

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StillInMeJimJams · 21/02/2015 02:50

OK OP try not to panic. He's probably pissed and sleeping on a bench in a station as buses and trains go by.

Although I have done it in the past (due to cramming for exams) I have pulled all nighters and gone to work the next day. But I was nowhere near effective and spent most of my time trying to stay awake. If you have the option of calling in sick/for emergency leave first thing then do that. If he rolls in pissed then you won't trust him to look after the DC so you will be both knackered and distracted.

I'm a senior manager btw and would understand, although I realise not everyone would.

I hope he turns up soon.

missingmumxox · 21/02/2015 03:13

I would go to work, and let him suffer, children or not.

On swimming lessons I would write them off, but really I have looked after children with the hangover from hell...once! That's all it took, my fault,nobody died. Even though I thought I was Grin

missingmumxox · 21/02/2015 03:14

Obviously if he is home that is

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 03:18

No he isn't homeSad

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BastardGoDarkly · 21/02/2015 03:25

Can you sleep not ? Nothing will be helped by you being knackered tomorrow. Deal with it in the morning.

missingmumxox · 21/02/2015 04:19

Are you still up? Then I change my advice you need to call in sick, and tan his hide from here to next week.
He should have been in touch phone or no phone by now, what a arse, he owes you big time, do you know anybody he is out with?
If he is still missing by 5 and you need to report him missing

Maybe an over reaction but my mums cousin died of exposure in Cyprus after drinking on his 21st, he was not reported for a day it was too long, alcohol lowered your body temperature

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 04:41

How do I report him missing when has only gone for a night out? He might have got up to all sorts. Although he did know I have to go to work. I'll have to phone in sick now. My 3 year old is awake - joy!

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EatShitDerek · 21/02/2015 04:43

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 04:45

How do I report him missing when has only gone for a night out? He might have got up to all sorts. Although he did know I have to go to work. I'll have to phone in sick now. My 3 year old is awake - joy!

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 04:49

Also I have a responsible job. He should know to take it seriously.

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Allice · 21/02/2015 04:51

I'd be furious, hope he turns up soon.

missingmumxox · 21/02/2015 05:04

Because my mums cousin was dead in 10 hours also a lad in our village was dead in 7, we saw him leave the pub, next morning not home, parents tried to contact him left it til next morning he was 19 after all, only a mile home.
Post mortum is not the place to find this shit out

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 05:05

I am beside myself

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missingmumxox · 21/02/2015 05:08

Btw they can not be that precise at pm, you see the written could be between the hours of,

PastPerfect · 21/02/2015 05:09

He will almost certainly be pissed and asleep somewhere. Try and sleep so you can get yourself in to work.
Be furious but don't waste your time worrying about him

CurlyLocks87 · 21/02/2015 05:11

I've been in your position many times. Hope he's home soon and the worry turns back to anger.x