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To expect DH to be home soon

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 01:13

I have to leave for work at 6am. He will be looking after our dc (7,5,3) all day until 9pm. He has gone out after work as it is his last day there. I warned him I was working. He is terrible for not waking up after a drink. I am worried I will not be able to go to work if he is much later Confused

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missingmumxox · 21/02/2015 05:16

Sorry I have just realised this is real, not random postings, to no one, the Internet is so faceless.
The most likely out come is that he has had a good night and is being a fucking arse.

rootypig · 21/02/2015 05:19

notnow any news? I hope you and he are both alright, all else besides.

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 05:19

Well I've told work I'm not going to be in so I just wait I suppose

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Arsenic · 21/02/2015 05:20

There is at least one of these threads each month.

Touch wood, they have all ended well so far.

Practically speaking, what will you do if he hasn't surfaced by 5.30am? Re work, I mean?

Mouthfulofquiz · 21/02/2015 05:20

Oh dear!! I too am furious on your behalf. This is awful behaviours from him. You clearly have no choice but to call in sick - or you could tell your employer the truth if you thought it would help?

Arsenic · 21/02/2015 05:22

X post.

I think, 7 am is the average time for the hungover spouse to materialise. Try to persuade yourself to have some breakfast.

newpaddingtonscaresme · 21/02/2015 05:23

My dh has done this, turned out he fell asleep on the train and went to the terminal twice, lost his phone too, I was so worried, thinking of all sorts of catastrophes, was waiting for 8am before I rang police & hospitals. Then livid when he turned up at 7.40. Very out of character for him.

I know it's not easy but try not to worry, the probability is he's been stupid and selfish and fallen asleep somewhere.

Hope all goes ok with your work.

MinceSpy · 21/02/2015 05:26

He's probably too frightens to come hone now

chocogirl77 · 21/02/2015 05:50

He's probably gone back to a friends house and they've all passed out. Hopefully he'll wake up in an hour or so and get the first train back.

my2centsis · 21/02/2015 05:50

All ok op?

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 05:59

No still not home.

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rootypig · 21/02/2015 06:00

Is he just not answering his phone? and has he ever stayed out this long before?

And have you had any sleep at all, OP?

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NotGoingOut17 · 21/02/2015 06:01

I hope he is OK Op. Assuming that he is I'd have a bag packed so on his return you can leave him with the children for the day ( although I'd be tempted to leave overnight) and see how he likes being the one wondering when you'll come home

These threads are unfortunately common but I don't think I've ever seen one where the consequences of the dhs actions meant the op missing work. That adds another layer entirely, not only causing you worry but putting you in a difficult position with your employer also. I don't think I could forgive him quickly for this his behaviour is disgraceful and that of a teenager not a father and husband. I hope he returns home soon to put your mind at rest

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 06:04

He has no phone. It was a work mobile and he left today so gave it in. I've not had any sleep. I don't know what to do. He hardly ever goes out. This is a nightmare.

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notnow2 · 21/02/2015 06:05

Things aren't great between us making me even more worried - has gone with another woman?!

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DiscoDancer · 21/02/2015 06:09

OP I would try to get done rest while you can or you will be exhausted. My DH seems to lose track of time and all else when out, try not to worry

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 21/02/2015 06:14

He's unlikely to be with another woman, but to get wasted and pass out somewhere with no phone, when you are expected back to look after your children is disgusting behaviour. Did you even sleep at all tonight?
This really is inexcusable

HoggleHoggle · 21/02/2015 06:14

I hope you are ok OP.

It is absolutely shocking behaviour that your dp is putting you through this worry, let alone buggering up your weekend commitments.

Do you have contact details for anyone he would have been with last night? I assume he may be on one of their sofas.

Arsenic · 21/02/2015 06:16

I suspect the true explanation for a proportion of these 'missing husband' overnight threads is ONSs, TBH.

Of course, when women are also entertaining the scenario that their DP might be injured, ill, victim of crime somewhere, the ONS possibility tends to be forgotten in the relief of the errant male turning up alive and unharmed.

But, as Not says, he has caused you to miss work, so this is serious, whatever the cause.

Sorry you are enduring all this OP Flowers

HoggleHoggle · 21/02/2015 06:16

Also, exactly what does he think is going to happen to your children? He's meant to be looking after them as of 15 mins ago!
Prepare a right rollicking, he is being an absolute selfish arse.

my2centsis · 21/02/2015 06:22

Op don't think like that! I could of fallen asleep on a friends couch or no he's in trouble and too scared to come back. We're here for you op, so sorry thing is happening

sebsmummy1 · 21/02/2015 06:24

So you've had no sleep and how have to look after the children all day? I don't for one minute think something terrible has happened bar he has passed out on someone's sofa. So selfish!!