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Original poster

Ive cancelled the sleepover, the mum has ignored that and posted all over fb about how shes glad her child is on a sleepover tonight.

224 replies

vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 10:56

AIBU to be cross?

im ill. ive been ill for the last 3 days and have an appt in out of hours in an hour.
Im a lone parent, house is a mess, no food in, cant hardly make it off the sofa.

DD was meant to be having a friend over tonight nad we were looking after her tomorrow. I called the mum and said yesterday that i might have to cancel, and this morning i have cancelled. She hasnt replied to my text at all.

But instead posted on fb about how shes childfree tonight and whats shes doing.

WTF?

OP posts:
usualsuspect333 · 15/02/2015 14:17

OP, hope you got some anti biotics and are having a rest. Agree with some others that sometimes having a friend round might help to entertain your DD.

Stick them in front of a DVD. [lemsip] Brew Flowers

Passmethecrisps · 15/02/2015 14:26

Get well soon, op.

Make sure friend comes armed with lots of sweets and junk food to keep them entertaines

youarekiddingme · 15/02/2015 14:28

Oh vintage Sad you must be feeling extremely crap. I would lie on sofa and make use of 2 girls to fetch and carry for you. Is your sofa comfortable enough to sleep on? I've stayed the night in the sofa when I've known it's easier than getting to and from bed.

Queenlizandabottleofgin · 15/02/2015 14:29

Actually usual it was you. Very katie H of you.

lemisscared · 15/02/2015 14:33

trust me, im not! I get very upset by the C word

I hope you feel better soon OP.

I have to make shepherds pie now

BuzzardBird · 15/02/2015 14:34

Hope you feel better soon OP.

Humansatnav · 15/02/2015 14:39

My dd had that throat thing, its awful, hope ooh gave you some antibiotics & strong painkillers.

MNHQ
IonaMumsnet · 15/02/2015 14:49

AHEM Thanks to all who have wished the OP a speedy recovery. Let's see a bit more peace and love though and remember posting in AIBU doesn't men you should expect a pasting, especially not when you're unwell.

Quiero · 15/02/2015 14:51

Queenliz. You appear to have misunderstood the purpose of this topic. Contrary to what you and many other idiots believe, posting on here does not mean you have to take shit loads of abuse.

People like you are exactly what is wrong with this forum.

StripeyCustard · 15/02/2015 14:52

Flowers[lem sip] I lose my voice sometimes and can't talk at all. I think you deserve better than this from your friend. Apart from anything else, why would she want to subject her child to a virus that bad? 41 is a high temp.

StripeyCustard · 15/02/2015 14:53

ffs why are people being so horrible to OP? She's ill for God's sake, people don't tend to be as assertive or together when they have a temp of 41 degrees Hmm

Original poster
vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 14:56

Im home, thank you to those that have been nice.

I think im a bit all over the place, and a lone parent and sometimes, you dont have someone to go ' eh, thats a bit off' to, so i posted here.

anyway, yes, strong anti b's stong painkillers and 48hrs bedrest. Im to go back if i feel worse, but if not im to go back in 48hrs in any case.

I poped in my on myfriend, refused to go in and said that i was very unwell and contagious. told her what i had and said that i could not have her child tonight, but that i was very sorry. That i should probably take DD home now as shes been at home with me and might be passing germs about.

She said she was trying to find someone else, i offered to have her child tomorrow but said i would be in bed, she said unless she really cant find anyone else, then if i could. Shes stuffed for childcare and did dig and say that if she knew she could have had organised paid childcare, well. i dont care, i didnt plan this either and its buggered up my plans too.

So, all sorted and im going to bed.

OP posts:
Quiero · 15/02/2015 14:57

People are being horrible because they wrongly believe that this is what AIBU is for. And have even said so on this thread.

Well I say we reclaim it. I'm going to spread some love across the board.

MooMaid · 15/02/2015 14:59

Good on you OP, not sure where all the lack of compassion has come from elsewhere but get yourself to bed and feeling better!

Coumarin · 15/02/2015 15:00

God she sounds awful! I'd be giving get a wide berth from now on.

Hope you feel much better soon.

fairnotfit · 15/02/2015 15:00

Poor OP; you have had a rough day in more ways than one. Hope you feel better soon!

BrewFlowers

Coumarin · 15/02/2015 15:00

*her

Quiero · 15/02/2015 15:01

vintage she is taking advantage. I know a parent like this, she always backs me I to a corner and even though I am assertive she just has a way of confusing me and I end up agreeing to things that I don't want to do. It's like some kind of Derren Brown mind trick.

Just remember, hosting a sleepover is just that. It's not providing childcare, you aren't a nanny. It doesn't matter whether or not she can get child care. It's not your problem.

Hope you feel better soon Flowers

expatinscotland · 15/02/2015 15:01

Good for you, OP. She has cheek for doing this to you, though, tbh. Shit happens, and you tried to be reasonable, but seriously, you need to rest.

TheMaddHugger · 15/02/2015 15:02

(((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))) OP

StripeyCustard · 15/02/2015 15:11

If it was that important, she should have organised paid childcare anyhow. Well done OP.

StripeyCustard · 15/02/2015 15:12

You realise you're now going to get a bunch of idiotic 'you said you couldn't speak' posts!

LIZS · 15/02/2015 15:18

Well done op, look after yourself.

Original poster
vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 15:24

Doctor sprayed my throat with.somethung so she could listen to my chest without hearing the squeaks when I breathed.

So. I could sort of talk. Ish. It's still bad but some sound is coming out.
I've got some glycerine on prescription to help, along with a bag of other things.

OP posts:
UncleT · 15/02/2015 15:32

Good work, OP. Get well soon.