Ive cancelled the sleepover, the mum has ignored that and posted all over fb about how shes glad her child is on a sleepover tonight.

[vintagecrap]

AIBU to be cross?

im ill. ive been ill for the last 3 days and have an appt in out of hours in an hour.
Im a lone parent, house is a mess, no food in, cant hardly make it off the sofa.

DD was meant to be having a friend over tonight nad we were looking after her tomorrow. I called the mum and said yesterday that i might have to cancel, and this morning i have cancelled. She hasnt replied to my text at all.

But instead posted on fb about how shes childfree tonight and whats shes doing.

WTF?

"And OP if something happened to her DD whilst you are ill and unable to watch her properly I get the feeling this Mum would go through you like a ton of bricks!"

Absolutely. Think of it as a child safety issue, if that helps you stand up to this woman.

Christ the OP is sick and doesn't really need the weight of Mumsnet on her telling her how crap she is. I hope you're feeling better soon vintagecrap and you tell your mate to jog on

You know she's expecting you to look after her DD for a lot longer than 4 hours. Something Will Happen, and she'll back out of the 'compromise'.

Go to OOH, and tell her you have been given strong medication which will render you sleepy and you and DD are going to bed.

You can only hope the other child gets what you've got. Karma, innit.

Whatever the outcome of ooh, you are too poorly and contagious as far as she is concerned. Sometimes it is easier for one child to be distracted by a friend if you are below par but this occasion isn't one of those. If your dd can be happy in her own company you really don't need this.

Prepaid or otherwise she needs to cancel, end of. No compromise If your poorly enough to need OOH then you need to focus on the basics and that doesn't include her DC.

Text in all caps. Just back from docs. On strong meds. Your child cannot come. Cannot. I am too ill. It is cancelled. I cannot look after her.

No 'sorry', either. She is a cheeky mare.

Seems clear she was setting up her ground to just leave child with you anyway, probably driving away rapidly before you could open the door. More front than Brighton, cheeky mare. Good thing you chased the text!

Hoping OOH can get you feeling a bit better.

Whatever happened with Olivia and Fern Liz? Can't remember the title of the thread to look it up.

a sleepover on a Sunday? It is Sunday isn't it?

Don't mind me I just realised it's half term!

Half term ? Op in Fern and Olivia ended up taking both girls on a day trip with her dd even though she invited one as other was due to spend say with her dad.

Girlgamer

Yes, it's Sunday. It's also half term here. Dd has a sleepover on Monday.

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It's half term Girl.

Op you need to cancel this now. Send a text and maybe comment on the fb post that you're in hospital do can't have her Dd at all.

What kind of person is she fgs. Selfish cow.

Hope you're feeling better soon. Some posters on this thread are brutal. You'd think you had just punched a kitten or something.

"I can be assertive"

I doubt that.

grocklebox, the OP is ill. Don't wind her up now.

Grockle. You don't know me.
So, frankly. Sod off.

I am in hospital. Waiting.

I don't need shit posts from bored women with nothing better to do. Thank you.

I was assertive as I cancelled.

I will re cancel when I get out of here.

I will still have her tomorrow. My . choice. Because I'm her childcare that day and I know it's pretty crap to have that pulled out from under yiu leaving you with no options. Amd hopefully I'll feel better tomorrow once I've for some medication.

You're ill, you're not firing on all cylinders.

Text and Fb her now cancelling in no uncertain terms. Lock your door and close the curtains.

Go to bed.

Poor you, I'm in the same boat illness wise, tonsillitis, fever no voice. It flipping bites!

Op is the martyr of the street and free babysitter. My 82 year old nan has always been that too. They love it. Leave them to it. People invest time in supporting them and they go ahead and do it anyway. Then moan about it for days afterwards.

Drives me bonkers.

Um. I'm not.

I rarely babysit for anyone. Because I can't return the favor.

I've done a school pick up once last year and had 2 kids for an hour before school. That was last year too.

That was it in a while year. Why are you making crap up?

I can't understand why vintagecrap is getting such harsh responses here, the other girls mum is being very unreasonable and to me it sounds like OP is just trying to negotiate the best path through this situation.

I hope you get better soon.
I find it rather horrid that people go out of their way to write nasty things. It's very hard to judge situation just written in an op.
I hope you can get it through to this woman that you are ill. Rest up

Your babysitting for someone else's child when your ill and already told her no. Are you not the poster that let another child come on trip out that you didn't really want too. But did any way because the mum forced you?

I think this is op second thread where another mother has strong armed her in to taking in her child. Many posters gave advice on the first thread. It wasn't heeded and now a second thread of the same manner.

It's not really about negotiating away through is it. The other child is not her responsibility.