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Ive cancelled the sleepover, the mum has ignored that and posted all over fb about how shes glad her child is on a sleepover tonight.

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vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 10:56

AIBU to be cross?

im ill. ive been ill for the last 3 days and have an appt in out of hours in an hour.
Im a lone parent, house is a mess, no food in, cant hardly make it off the sofa.

DD was meant to be having a friend over tonight nad we were looking after her tomorrow. I called the mum and said yesterday that i might have to cancel, and this morning i have cancelled. She hasnt replied to my text at all.

But instead posted on fb about how shes childfree tonight and whats shes doing.

WTF?

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vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 12:34

No. I'm not and I don't know who that is or the story. .

I cancelled. She posted shit over fb about going out amd ignored my text. I text again.and she said she had already paid for her tickets.

She said she would have my dd to help me now. I said I couldn't have her child over night. But if she's back by 9 then ill have her this evening. But that I can't feed them or do anything as I'm really ill.

That's what happened. .

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Mammanat222 · 15/02/2015 12:34

if you are too spineless to say no text her back and tell her GP has confirmed you are highly contagious and you don't want to pass on your illness so can't have her daughter.

GlitzAndGigglesx · 15/02/2015 12:35

It's not an emergency that requires you to have the other child so her mum is gonna have to accept she can't go out. Or find someone else to babysit. You need to tell her you are too unwell to watch both children. Don't even give her excuses

BullshitS70 · 15/02/2015 12:41

Oh for goodness sake, why post if you don't want to hear what everyone thinks ie that you are being taken the piss out of. Its not your issue that she has bought tickets to something! Who cares?

usualsuspect333 · 15/02/2015 12:41

Have I missed something? why are posters being so horrible to the OP?

How old are the kids?

Bair · 15/02/2015 12:42

Listen to Zammo.

Ive cancelled the sleepover, the mum has ignored that and posted all over fb about how shes glad her child is on a sleepover tonight.
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vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 12:42

So can sort of look after themselves

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GokTwo · 15/02/2015 12:44

Throat things (tonsillitis etc) are so vile and make you feel like crap. I feel for you op and hope you get some relief from the ooh. The other parent is being unbelievably unreasonable.

usualsuspect333 · 15/02/2015 12:45

If she has offered to have your DD tomorrow then that's good. Hope you feel better soon.

Do you think she will come back after 4 hours tonight?

Ketchuphidestheburntbits · 15/02/2015 12:45

I'm sorry that you feel so ill and it's hard to think straight when you are unwell.

Text and post on fb 'I am too ill to look after your child. I know this is inconvenient for you as you have bought tickets but I really can't be responsible for your child while I'm so unwell. I am off to bed when I return from the hospital (on the doctor's advice) and won't be answering my door or phone until tomorrow'

Wish you better, Op.

Seriouslyffs · 15/02/2015 12:46

usual I think the hive mind has compassion fatigue from posters being royally dumped on when from behind a screen the answer is simple- say no.
Hope you feel better soon Vintage

Coconutty · 15/02/2015 12:48

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usualsuspect333 · 15/02/2015 12:49

I think it's any excuse to give someone a kicking tbh, Seriouslyffs.

hmc · 15/02/2015 12:51

Hope you feel better soon vintagecrap. If the are older girls and will amuse themselves it shouldn't be too taxing.....

hmc · 15/02/2015 12:52

'they' not the

Icimoi · 15/02/2015 12:52

If she has offered to have your DD tomorrow then that's good. Hope you feel better soon.

But she hasn't! OP has offered to have other woman's DD tomorrow, no matter how ill she is. And for 4 hours tonight that will definitely extend way beyond 4 hours.

Seriouslyffs · 15/02/2015 12:53

What else can you do on the internet? We can't call up the other girl's mother or give the OP a hot drink and tuck her up in a dark room. We can sympathise but that's suggesting the friend's mum is being reasonable.
OP is being bullied in RL and telling her so might empower her to put herself first.

hmc · 15/02/2015 12:55

If you are still having the other girl tomorrow - here's a thought - ask the other mum to help out by packing a lunch for both your dd and hers so that they are fed without impinging on you. It is the least she can do

TickleMyTitsTillFriday · 15/02/2015 12:56

Oh God op that's awful. I am pretty shite at saying no but I think you have to here. How old is your dd?

Queenlizandabottleofgin · 15/02/2015 12:56

Ok I apologise for getting you mixed up. It's just very familiar to a thread that was posted a short while ago. Fern and Olivia? No?

usual why are posters giving her a kicking. op has posted in AIBU. She has had posters giving their opinions. Maybe AIBU is not the place to post if she doesn't like the answers of people sticking up for her!

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vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 12:57

It won't be .They can just go play in dd room. They don't need more than that else I wouldn't even consider it..

she's got dd now for me. I've got her dd tomorrow. This was all agreed ages ago.

It's very difficult when yoi have been assertive and then someone pushes back. I've got a temp of 41. I can't speak.

Anyone else would say ok. Don't be daft, sure it's fine.

I'm just surprised she didn't.

And will see it straight once 8 get out of hospital.

Give mentality? .not really. Just a few posters who think they are better than everyone else and can kick people because someone once posted something vaguely similar.

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hmc · 15/02/2015 12:57

Oh I don't know seriouslyff - I've managed to make a constructive suggestion without being a twat

PuppyMonkey · 15/02/2015 12:58

Trying to imagine a scenario where a parent who was supposed to be looking after my child was in hospital and wanted to cancel our agreed childcare arrangements but I still insisted she looked after my child because I'd made plans.

Nope, can't imagine it.

usualsuspect333 · 15/02/2015 12:58

'shes having my dd now to give me all day to rest '
'She said she would have my dd to help me now'

Did I dream this bit?

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vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 12:59

I'm not being bullied. I think my friend is just being short sited and thinking of herself.

Amd I really don't have a problem with being assertive. If you knew me yoi would know this.

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