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Original poster

Ive cancelled the sleepover, the mum has ignored that and posted all over fb about how shes glad her child is on a sleepover tonight.

224 replies

vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 10:56

AIBU to be cross?

im ill. ive been ill for the last 3 days and have an appt in out of hours in an hour.
Im a lone parent, house is a mess, no food in, cant hardly make it off the sofa.

DD was meant to be having a friend over tonight nad we were looking after her tomorrow. I called the mum and said yesterday that i might have to cancel, and this morning i have cancelled. She hasnt replied to my text at all.

But instead posted on fb about how shes childfree tonight and whats shes doing.

WTF?

OP posts:
usualsuspect333 · 15/02/2015 13:00

Ah, shes having your DD today. I must learn to read Grin

usualsuspect333 · 15/02/2015 13:03

You can give your opinion without being quite so mean about it.

I don't think 'well this is AIBU' is an excuse to be a dick.

Original poster
vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 13:03

Yeah. Today. And is feeding them both a main meal so I don't have to do it later.

OP posts:
lem73 · 15/02/2015 13:04

DO NOT agree to look after someone else's child when you are ill. If something goes wrong she will go through you like a ton of bricks. I got guilt tripped into having my neighbour's 6 year old when I had the flu a few years ago. He banged his head when he and ds were playing in the bedroom while I was lying on the sofa. He had a cut which needed gluing. She made me feel so bad about it and made sure to tell everyone what happened. Tbh I blamed myself for not putting my foot down in the first place. Call her back. The facebook thing was clearly a way of guilt tripping you. She sounds like a piss taker

lougle · 15/02/2015 13:04

Poor you. You can't help being ill. She's going to just have to understand.

GokTwo · 15/02/2015 13:11

Agreed op. Hope you get well soon Flowers

ByeByeButterfly · 15/02/2015 13:13

How did hospital go op?

I hope friend apologises for her demanding behaviour soon.

youarekiddingme · 15/02/2015 13:14

She trapped you by offering to have your DD for the day. Tbh would it not be easier to have her for night if she's there til 9 anyway? Set them up with a DVD and tell them to keep Schtum. She'd ibviously read text hence FB message.
Yep, she should cancel but if she's paid for tickets I can see why you feel bad about letting her down.

She has taken the piss, which you've aloowed to happen - but I think she's played a big guilt trip on you - and your only human. A very poorly one at that by the sounds of it. I hope you get seen soon.

Queenlizandabottleofgin · 15/02/2015 13:26

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ImperialBlether · 15/02/2015 13:30

Queenliz, you are really abusive on here, aren't you? AIBU doesn't give you permission to speak to others like a real cunt.

usualsuspect333 · 15/02/2015 13:30

I do know what AIBU is like, love.

It's full of dicks waiting to stick the boot in.

Original poster
vintagecrap · 15/02/2015 13:35

Bad chest infection. 'Proper ' flu and a sever case of laryngitis
Fun times.

OP posts:
YouTheCat · 15/02/2015 13:37

Get well soon, vintage. Hope the girls are nice and quiet for you.

Queenliz, wind your neck in.

GingerLDN · 15/02/2015 13:40

It's a bit rubbish of her but would it be that much hassle to have her overnight? If she stayed over the girls could just watch a DVD in the room then lounge about in the morning. Whereas you all kind of have to be up and ready otherwise. I'm not sure how coming for her at 9 is going to make things easier. She's not bn totally awful or anything if she's taken your daughter just now. Sounds like she's just excited about her night. I'd let her have her night out and let her owe you one. Hope you're feeling better soonWine

lemisscared · 15/02/2015 13:41

OP you sound really kind, i do think your friend took the piss and guilt tripped you but in all honesty, it might be nice for your DD to have a friend over to keep her occupied if you are poorly. DO make sure your friend understands that it isn't 100% definate until tonight. Do you have antibiotics? Hopefully that will make you feel better soon.

She owes you big time - make sure you cash in on it later Wink

Is she definately going to be home at 9?

Flowers

Get some sleep now, don't get riled up about crap on the internet - really not worth the energy.

Shelby2010 · 15/02/2015 13:45

Tell her the doctor has said that you aren't well enough to look after yourself let alone be classed as 'responsible adult' to 2 minors. Ask her to keep your DD for the night. Then see how much of a friend she is. Hope you're feeling better soon.

Queenlizandabottleofgin · 15/02/2015 13:45

Cunt... Dicks... Classy.

Abusive for saying martyr... Yeah..... Irony?

Pagwatch · 15/02/2015 13:48

Well not really ironic

Your comments were in response to an unhappy and unwell op.

Other posters were responding to you ring unnecessarily rude and justifying it by saying 'well, it's Aibu so anything goes'

YouTheCat · 15/02/2015 13:50

Plus you based your assumptions about the op on a thread she didn't even start.

ImperialBlether · 15/02/2015 13:52

Actually, QueenLiz, I looked you up as I didn't recognise your username and you use the word 'cunt' all over the place, certainly more often than I do. I've only used it once or twice - I agree it's a horrible word but there wasn't another word to describe you today.

Floggingmolly · 15/02/2015 13:53

I can be assertive. I bloody told her twice I was going to cancel Confused
But you didn't cancel.... You could have told her 50 times you were going to cancel; but she's coming anyway because you didn't say no.

roundtable · 15/02/2015 13:54

Wow, some right twats on this thread and I'm not talking about the op.

Vintage I hope you feel better. Most people would be told once and say Ok then. You've told her twice and you're ill so not running on full cylinders. Some people are incredibly thick skinned. Don't agree to babysit again now you know what she's like.

Just make sure you cough/lick everything with gay abandon if she comes round...Grin

lemisscared · 15/02/2015 13:59

Guffaws at QueenLiz giving usualsuspect the heads up about AIBU being a bit hardore - love, i think she's been around ALOT longer than you have. I think she has figured it out already.

It is true though, AIBU is hardcore and a place where things kick off but don't be a twat and argue for the sake of arguing hey? It makes you look like one of those posters whose opinions i tend to ignore because they are just here for the bunfight.

MissDuke · 15/02/2015 14:03

Op, I hope you feel better soon. Sometimes having a friend rounds makes it easier imo as it keeps your own dc entertained. Hope you get a good reast today.

Queenlizandabottleofgin · 15/02/2015 14:07

Which I apologised for but I wasn't the only poster that spotted the similarities.

imperial love that your stalking me but links please. As I'd like to know where I posted 'cunt'.

Saying someone is being a martyr is not as abusive as 'cunt' or dicks because they have a different view.

lem how long do you think I've been here? Are you all scrabbling around trying to find my past posts Grin

Martyr now = cunt and kicking off ...guffaws guffaws guffaws