To consider gender selection in Cyprus

[Dreamalittledream7]

I am currently pregnant with #4, 22 weeks and it's a little boy. This will be our third boy, we do have a daughter but we where hoping baby would be a girl and our family would be complete.
I hate the thought that my girl experience was ruined by PND and that I barely remember it, I want another little girl to love and bring up, I also hate the thought of my daughter never having a sister to play with.

Would it be mad to go and do this to get a girl? My husband is a bit shocked by my suggestion but he's being supportive.

Yabu.
Your dd is surrounded by siblings! Make sure to have girl time with her.

No, she has not said she wanted to abort this pregnancy

YABU OP

I hate my sister. Been NC for years. Wish to God she'd been a boy. Us sisters aren't always best pals you know!!

X posted!

yabu.

4 beautiful children. that's an amazing gift.

how many are you prepared to have until you get your girl?

its just genitals. who they are and the experience you get is not defined by what's between their legs.

What are you talking about?! Girls and boys are not different until you start treating them differently. Why would you prefer one sex or the other, love one over the other, treat one differently to another? Ffs.

It sounds like you are trying to stick a band aid over your awful experience, however you have no idea if the same thing will happen again. Perhaps you should look at receiving counselling to come to terms with what you went through. Really you need to find a way to separate all these issues, the pnd, wanting a daughter, how many children you want and can cope with regardless of the sex, then if you really want to have another daughter you can do so with a clear mind. You'll be dealing with pregnancy hormones right now that won't be letting you think straight.

I think you're going to get flamed on here, and I'm sorry for that.

I do think you need to get some councelling or talk to someone about where these thoughts are coming from.

They are quite extreme, and not coming from a healthy place. I would (nicely!) suggest that you need to start with sorting out yourself before you make any decisions about others. Look inwards, not outwards.

Ok - thank you to those who have confirmed my thoughts. Sometimes you can get carried away and I did with this plan of the IvF.

Trying for another baby after this poor one won't guarantee a girl. There's people who would give their left arm just to be able to say "I'm pregnant". Number 5 could be a boy too

But it's not about my love being different. I love having boys! I just always dreamed of having 2 of each - that's all!

I hope your OP has come out very badly worded OP and this isnt how you feel. You'd like another girl to love and bring up, as opposed to a boy who you will...what? Not love? Tolerate and bring up?

You'd love your daughter to have a sister to play with? Is wanting a play thing for an existing child a good reason to have another one?

Have all of us who were the only girl somehow missed out by not having a sister?

What would you do if the girls hate each other? Have the youngest one adopted and try again?

My post may come across harsh as I am currently watching a friend go through IVF hell.

I'm not sure some of you are reading the post properly - I want to have gender selection IVF for a girl - at 6k I think it will Definately be my chosen gender!

OP. Please ask for his to be deleted.

Posters will now pile on to hurl abuse at you and by the end of today you will feel very sad indeed.

You know you're being unreasonable hormonal. You know you will adore you boy when he arrives because he will be a brand new child with his own individual personality. You know girls don't need sisters. You know all babes are special and you probably know 5 is bonkers.

Good luck, I hope you start to feel more confident about it all soon!

But please - ask for this to be deleted. Explain you are feeling hormonal and that the thread is making you upset. They'll remove it.

People are nasty as hell and will flame you otherwise.

Whoa whoa whoa! Everyone needs to just calm down here!

That's not what the OP said.

I understand a little more where you're coming from if you were told that you were carrying a girl at 16 weeks and then told something different! It's not that you don't want this little boy, but you were looking forward to having another little girl!

I still think sex selection is wrong (unless you have some ridiculously rare disorder that can only be passed on to a certain sex). I still stand on my belief that you should just want a child. But I feel sorry for you that people are piling into you and accusing you incorrectly and unnecessarily.

Thanks Carla.

I'll request for it to be deleted.

Sorry to all who think I'm awful. I love my darling boys, and my daughter - all equally! I couldn't love them more if I tried - I'm sorry for posting this!

I am very relieved to be corrected!

Op I really feel for you. Gender disappointment is a real thing, and many people are affected! However the chances are you will look back at this in the future and be shocked you even considered this. IVF is a huge thing to put your body through and will impact heavily on the rest of the family - you would be away for so long, and 6k??? You are hormonal and probably worrying about possible PND again. You need to keep an eye on your feelings though, antenatal depression is on the rise and predisposes to PND.

YABU, you have a girl! am the mother of 3 boys and very likely to soon be 4 boys. I can feel empathy towards those who have a lot of the same gender but not to you, you already have a lovely girl and three lovely boys. Stop being selfish!

I've found this quite painful to read to be honest. As I've posted previously, my baby was confirmed as having a cogenital diaphragmatic hernia at 36 weeks and now has a 50/50 chance of survival. THAT is what is important. Health. I could give a fuck about her genitals, she is a girl but what difference will that make in a few weeks when there's a 50% chance I'll be burying her?

While I understand the "dream", this jst gives me the utter rage that people would even consider selecting the gender of their babies while others are suffering infant loss and major health complications. Sickening.

This is probably the most shocking OP I've seen here.

OP you need counselling, having another girl won't fix your problems.

I also read the OP as her thinking of aborting the current baby because it was a girl, and trying again for a boy instead, and I was shocked. I realise now that isn't what she meant, but I agree that she should ask for the thread to be deleted as many will read it like that, and that is really upsetting.