To ask you to please give it straight to me

[Mintsandpinks]

I'm mind thirties.

In overweight. Really overweight. Disgustingly so. I even make myself sick (I don't mean I'm bulimic! I mean - I make myself feel sick as I'm so fat.)

I have few friends. No boyfriend, never had a boyfriend.

Barely a career.

Never done anything that can be a talking point. Never been on holiday since I was at school with my mum and dad. Never go out for drinks or meals out. Never do much of anything.

Now - I know I'm a state. My flat is a state and I'm a mess. My finances are a mess too.

I don't know what to do.

I felt exactly the same and then tried therapy and haven't looked back. I'm on low income and get discounted sessions. It has helped me but it's not for everyone.

Haven't read all the thread but have just read what you said about your feelings about GPs. They are not all critical and I can genuinely credit mine with saving my life when she recognised my depression. I already knew I struggled with depression but had always refused support and didn't think anti d's would make the blindest bit of difference but with her kindness, understanding and support I decided I wanted to live. I recognise so much of myself in what you said about not wanting to be alive-that's just how I felt but, although it hasn't been easy or straightforward, I am no longer overwhelmed by life. I remember saying to her that the thought of walking a metre across the room to pick up a sock was beyond me. But please don't give up on getting help. The right doc really can help and imagine the life you want-this time next year you could be living it!

Wow mints

I think you should maybe rethink the title of this thread. Some lovely posters giving fantastic advice on what is obviously a very difficult situation for you but I don't think they are saying the things you want to hear. That's the problem with straight talking! It tends to leave out the bullshit. I have been exactly where you are and I can tell you there is no magic pill to wake up a different version of yourself. only you can do that and it is so so hard to even visualise yourself as something else and the energy to do it can escape the best of us.

No real advice, people have covered all basses but have heart because things can, and do, change. Chin up sweetie.

Wow, please ignore the bad grammar in my post!

Hello Mints, I think it was brave of you to post and maybe this will turn out to be an important first step for you. You sound lovely and very articulate.

I am happy just to chat, if that's all you want for now. My circumstances are very different from yours, but I'm overweight and struggling to deal with it. Big hug from me.

Counselling is great, glad your using that. Have you thought of a life coach? Could your therapist recommend an over eaters support group - I found huge comfort in meeting people in exactly my sitation and even made some friends.

What about moving life forward without worrying about your weight just now. You could book yourself in for a makeover, perhaps go to a specialist clothes shop and get a couple of outfits that make you feel great.

My friend is large lady but she always looks amazing with lovely clothes, hair and make-up.

Perhaps try applying for one permanent job every week or month.