to not babysit niece over Christmas

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Hi mumsnetters, newbie here lol. I have been asked by SIL to take her daughter Christmas day, as my bro and her are going away. I refused as its my daughters first christmas. Andwant to enjoy it with her anf my DH. Her daughter is very clingy and prone to tantrums. I refused in a very polite way, saying that its our first christmas as a family and I want to spend it with my DH and baby. My SIL is now saying that I am abandoning my niece because I havea child of my own now. That is not the case. AIBU to not want to babysit.

OP did do the right thing: she got the parents to look after their own child.
What you would do or feel us irrelevant and going on and on about it just comes across as trying to make her feel bad

This is one of the saddest threads I have read . I hope your niece never gets to hear this story when she grows up.

I've never heard of anyone having a party on Christmas Day before. The whole situation sounds very odd.

I agree hackmum, do you think db & wife aren't being entirely honest?
Im not in agreement with the posters who say who has a child free party? Because I certainly would. We have no children, not by choice and Xmas is depressing enough without spending it in the company of other peoples children .
Its the christmas day bit, and the fact that's its in the daytime , an evening grown up party would be more usual, and a 2 hour drive away? That's totally weird. Who else is going to this party in the middle of christmas day?
I wonder were they invited for Christmas dinner? Even that doesn't seem right.
There's more to this .
Glad about the ops decision though .

There's absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.

1. you'll be giving your DD and DH a lovely, cosy, intimate Christmas.
2. DN will get time with her parents
3. No-one will have a shitty Christmas "managing" a disappointed, tantrumming 3yo
4. DN can have a second, special day of time with you (maybe DH could have a special day with DD at the same time)

clam yes I know what projection is as a concept I was challenging how on earth my post was a case of projection

hackmum I agree the story is odd ... And I also recall it's a variation on a theme that's rolled out every year on MN - last year if I recall mum and dad were both in emergency services, the year before there was a holiday overseas. That thread ran to many many more posts but I will never fail to be surprised by the number of posters advocating the I'm alright jack approach to Christmas.